If you WOFH, how many years did you keep your nanny for?

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What is WOFH?

I know SAHM (Stat At Home Mom) and WOHM (Work Out of Home Mom) but I have no idea what a WOFH is?

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I never had a nanny for my children. I have never known anyone who had a nanny for their children.

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Anonymous wrote:Do any of your Nannies have kids? How do they balance taking their own kids to practices? Do your kids take precedence since you have more money?

Just stop, PP. You want to make an issue out of something where it doesn’t exist. I don’t have a nanny but I know one of my kid’s daycare teachers has a child in another class. She’s teaching my kid while someone else is teaching hers. What’s the difference?

Day care ends at a shift time, usually 6:00. She gets a tuition cut while working there. She is helping a group of kids vs just a couple of kids in a family. She gets benefits and retirement and the possibility of moving to director position if she wants. Her child gets to be in a preschool setting while she works. To me? Lots of differences.

Just so you are aware, the average pay of a child care provider is $12/hour, over half get no health insurance or benefits, so not really the data i'd quote to make an argument.

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Anonymous wrote:Do any of your Nannies have kids? How do they balance taking their own kids to practices? Do your kids take precedence since you have more money?

Our nanny’s kids are all grown. But what’s your point? A woman can work when she has children but a nanny can’t? What about teachers whose kids are taught by other teachers?

Extra curricular activities are called that because they occur outside of the school day, but before bed time. If the nanny is taking your kids to practices during that time, she isn’t taking her own. If you are consistently working later than 5:00 and you can’t take your kids to their extra curricular activities, you are saying your children’s needs outweighs your nanny’s kids needs. Or that your children need more extra curricular activities than the nannies. Of course they do in your mind, but overall in society it is an interesting point of view. Hopefully you pay your nanny enough that she can do that.

The point you’re missing is that a nanny is a WOHM like the rest of us. NP here and your insinuation is obscene! I’m a doctor who has to care for other people’s children when my own kids are home sick sometimes. That’s life. Our nanny is older and doesn’t have kids but if she did I would respect her enough to work it out.

+1. When I’m at a restaurant I don’t ask waitresses who is feeding their kids at home. It’s a job. People deal. My neighbors are a two lawyer family with 4 kids and none of those teenage kids are allowed to do extracurriculars that involve a parent driving them around during the week. Are these kids underprivileged?

Yes. They are a little underprivileged. ECs and sports are a huge draw for the top colleges. A kid in my little sister’s graduating class had a 1600 and perfect grades but nothing else and got rejected at Stanford.

I know kids with 1600 and perfect grades and lots of EC's who got rejected at Stanford.

I'm one of the with family members who kept their nannies through college. That nanny is my friend. She's smart and capable and professional and used the same strategies to make sure her kids had opportunities that I use as a middle class working mom without a nanny. She and her DH arranged their work schedules to be available at different times. She prioritized living in a community with good schools where EC's were available. She carpooled with friends. She taught her kids how to ride public transportation. She also didn't have kids exactly the same age as the kid she watched, which meant that when my niece was little sometimes she went along to watch a sporting event or pick up a kid, and when my niece was at the height of needing be driven around, her own kids were driving themselves.

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Anonymous wrote:Do any of your Nannies have kids? How do they balance taking their own kids to practices? Do your kids take precedence since you have more money?

Our nanny’s kids are all grown. But what’s your point? A woman can work when she has children but a nanny can’t? What about teachers whose kids are taught by other teachers?

Extra curricular activities are called that because they occur outside of the school day, but before bed time. If the nanny is taking your kids to practices during that time, she isn’t taking her own. If you are consistently working later than 5:00 and you can’t take your kids to their extra curricular activities, you are saying your children’s needs outweighs your nanny’s kids needs. Or that your children need more extra curricular activities than the nannies. Of course they do in your mind, but overall in society it is an interesting point of view. Hopefully you pay your nanny enough that she can do that.

The point you’re missing is that a nanny is a WOHM like the rest of us. NP here and your insinuation is obscene! I’m a doctor who has to care for other people’s children when my own kids are home sick sometimes. That’s life. Our nanny is older and doesn’t have kids but if she did I would respect her enough to work it out.

+1. When I’m at a restaurant I don’t ask waitresses who is feeding their kids at home. It’s a job. People deal. My neighbors are a two lawyer family with 4 kids and none of those teenage kids are allowed to do extracurriculars that involve a parent driving them around during the week. Are these kids underprivileged?

Yes. They are a little underprivileged. ECs and sports are a huge draw for the top colleges. A kid in my little sister’s graduating class had a 1600 and perfect grades but nothing else and got rejected at Stanford.

There are a lot of activities that can be done through the school that don't involve driving all around town. Tons of sports, school plays, clubs, etc.

Not at our school until 7th grade. That’s been a problem for us. And music lessons aren’t offered at all.

That sucks. Our middle school has all the major sports (soccer, track, cross country was most popular with my older DD's friends but they had others as well) plus an excellent theater program. Also some cool clubs.

High school has even more athletic options.

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Anonymous wrote:Do any of your Nannies have kids? How do they balance taking their own kids to practices? Do your kids take precedence since you have more money?

Just stop, PP. You want to make an issue out of something where it doesn’t exist. I don’t have a nanny but I know one of my kid’s daycare teachers has a child in another class. She’s teaching my kid while someone else is teaching hers. What’s the difference?

Day care ends at a shift time, usually 6:00. She gets a tuition cut while working there. She is helping a group of kids vs just a couple of kids in a family. She gets benefits and retirement and the possibility of moving to director position if she wants. Her child gets to be in a preschool setting while she works. To me? Lots of differences.

Just so you are aware, the average pay of a child care provider is $12/hour, over half get no health insurance or benefits, so not really the data i'd quote to make an argument.

Nannies generally make double what daycare does.

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Anonymous wrote:What is WOFH?

I know SAHM (Stat At Home Mom) and WOHM (Work Out of Home Mom) but I have no idea what a WOFH is?

I was wondering that too, I finally decided it's a mom who works out on the patio....you know, Work Outside From Home!

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Until I go into the nursing home.

I adopted my children very late, and so my Nanny is thrilled transition from Nanny -> House Manager -> Caregiver.

My adult children love her, and she’s become part of the family.

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Well, my DS is 12 and DD is 6, and we still have ours full time, though her hours are somewhat less than they were before.

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Anonymous wrote:I never had a nanny for my children. I have never known anyone who had a nanny for their children.

It seems odd to not even KNOW a person who had a nanny, if you live in the US, especially in an urban area. Where do you live?

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Anonymous wrote:What is WOFH?

I know SAHM (Stat At Home Mom) and WOHM (Work Out of Home Mom) but I have no idea what a WOFH is?

I was wondering that too, I finally decided it's a mom who works out on the patio....you know, Work Outside From Home!

LOL. I keep thinking Work On Farm Husband each time I see it.

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Anonymous wrote:I never had a nanny for my children. I have never known anyone who had a nanny for their children.

It seems odd to not even KNOW a person who had a nanny, if you live in the US, especially in an urban area. Where do you live?

+1. When I was a kid I didn’t know anyone without a nanny. I though everyone had one like a grandmother! Now virtually everyone I know has a nanny. In DS’s preschool they listed the kids’ nanny under the parents names and all the kids in DS’s class had a nanny.

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Anonymous wrote:What is WOFH?

I know SAHM (Stat At Home Mom) and WOHM (Work Out of Home Mom) but I have no idea what a WOFH is?

I was wondering that too, I finally decided it's a mom who works out on the patio....you know, Work Outside From Home!

Oh ok. I guess, if you are on Zoom calls all the time and working out on the patio (or even the works underground from basement) then it would be amazing to have a nanny at home too, so that parent can work uniterrupted.

I would keep a nanny for at least till the kids start going to school if I am WFH, no?

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Anonymous wrote:What is WOFH?

I know SAHM (Stat At Home Mom) and WOHM (Work Out of Home Mom) but I have no idea what a WOFH is?

I was wondering that too, I finally decided it's a mom who works out on the patio....you know, Work Outside From Home!

Oh ok. I guess, if you are on Zoom calls all the time and working out on the patio (or even the works underground from basement) then it would be amazing to have a nanny at home too, so that parent can work uniterrupted.

I would keep a nanny for at least till the kids start going to school if I am WFH, no?

Longer if you want coverage for sick days and holidays and if you want your kid to do after school sports and lessons. DH works from home but has no flexibility to pick up or care for kids during business hours.

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Anonymous wrote:I never had a nanny for my children. I have never known anyone who had a nanny for their children.

It seems odd to not even KNOW a person who had a nanny, if you live in the US, especially in an urban area. Where do you live?

+1. When I was a kid I didn’t know anyone without a nanny. I though everyone had one like a grandmother! Now virtually everyone I know has a nanny. In DS’s preschool they listed the kids’ nanny under the parents names and all the kids in DS’s class had a nanny.

That's also extreme and abnormal. People are really curating their social circles I guess.