Where does your teen hangout at?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Behind the preposition at!

Beat me to it! My mom said that all the time growing up.

My dads as well

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if teen boys socialize differently, but my teen girls and their friends (and every other teen I know) get out a fair bit, but it is with friends.

They make plans and meet up at diners, movie theaters, the mall, the various town center/shopping areas, boba or coffee shops. They go to each other houses - but not randomly. They talk with each other and then make transportation arrangements. If they were out somewhere and another teen was also there, alone, it would never occur to them to talk to the other person.

Think of it as a "friend date." They do activities to meet other kids, they go out with their friends to spend time with their friends.

I have one of each. It’s very different. DD is constantly making plans and asking for rides. DS sits in a room on a computer and looks at me blankly when I suggest he meet up with the friends he’s talking to online and says something like “why would we want to do that?” He sees others at practice but doesn’t seem to have the constant need to hang out in person. I know not all teens are like this but my two are.

Quoting myself. My daughter has gone out two different times with two different groups today. She just left for the second time. My son just emerged from the computer room to say what a great day it’s been, because he hasn’t had to do anything. He hasn’t gotten dressed. We spoke for a min and he said how the year was so busy and he is loving not having to go anywhere or do anything right now. I understand that too. Both are teens.

I think it's a bit of a stereotype that boys never go anywhere. I also have one of each. My son since middle school met up with friends all over the place in person. Female and male friends. He always had co-ed groups. He now has a girlfriend and goes out a lot.

Limit the video games people, from when they are younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if teen boys socialize differently, but my teen girls and their friends (and every other teen I know) get out a fair bit, but it is with friends.

They make plans and meet up at diners, movie theaters, the mall, the various town center/shopping areas, boba or coffee shops. They go to each other houses - but not randomly. They talk with each other and then make transportation arrangements. If they were out somewhere and another teen was also there, alone, it would never occur to them to talk to the other person.

Think of it as a "friend date." They do activities to meet other kids, they go out with their friends to spend time with their friends.

I have one of each. It’s very different. DD is constantly making plans and asking for rides. DS sits in a room on a computer and looks at me blankly when I suggest he meet up with the friends he’s talking to online and says something like “why would we want to do that?” He sees others at practice but doesn’t seem to have the constant need to hang out in person. I know not all teens are like this but my two are.

Quoting myself. My daughter has gone out two different times with two different groups today. She just left for the second time. My son just emerged from the computer room to say what a great day it’s been, because he hasn’t had to do anything. He hasn’t gotten dressed. We spoke for a min and he said how the year was so busy and he is loving not having to go anywhere or do anything right now. I understand that too. Both are teens.

I think it's a bit of a stereotype that boys never go anywhere. I also have one of each. My son since middle school met up with friends all over the place in person. Female and male friends. He always had co-ed groups. He now has a girlfriend and goes out a lot.

Limit the video games people, from when they are younger.

I think it’s a stereo type too! My DD has a mixed gender group of friends, and those boys are out often. They do lots of socializing. I think the truth is some boys AND girls are homebodies, although I am not sure it’s a preference. Their friends just don’t go out as much, so they’ve gotten used to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if teen boys socialize differently, but my teen girls and their friends (and every other teen I know) get out a fair bit, but it is with friends.

They make plans and meet up at diners, movie theaters, the mall, the various town center/shopping areas, boba or coffee shops. They go to each other houses - but not randomly. They talk with each other and then make transportation arrangements. If they were out somewhere and another teen was also there, alone, it would never occur to them to talk to the other person.

Think of it as a "friend date." They do activities to meet other kids, they go out with their friends to spend time with their friends.

Aw. That's sad. I hope people are teaching their kids to be more compassionate/empathetic.

[Anonymous]

A place where we don’t end sentences with a preposition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if teen boys socialize differently, but my teen girls and their friends (and every other teen I know) get out a fair bit, but it is with friends.

They make plans and meet up at diners, movie theaters, the mall, the various town center/shopping areas, boba or coffee shops. They go to each other houses - but not randomly. They talk with each other and then make transportation arrangements. If they were out somewhere and another teen was also there, alone, it would never occur to them to talk to the other person.

Think of it as a "friend date." They do activities to meet other kids, they go out with their friends to spend time with their friends.

Aw. That's sad. I hope people are teaching their kids to be more compassionate/empathetic.

Do you talk to random adults at the coffee shop?

[Anonymous]

I have 2 sons and they go to:

The pool (this is the younger one, almost 15)
The gym
Meet friends at a high school sports field (either to work out/play a sport or hang out when the field is open)
Houses

They both see friends a decent amount (multiple times a week) and also play games online

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 2 sons and they go to:

The pool (this is the younger one, almost 15)
The gym
Meet friends at a high school sports field (either to work out/play a sport or hang out when the field is open)
Houses

They both see friends a decent amount (multiple times a week) and also play games online

This is PP. They also randomly go get food, ice cream, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Behind the preposition at!

Beat me to it! My mom said that all the time growing up.

I'm the first "behind the preposition at!" poster. My late mother said this constantly to my brother & me but also to our friends (!!) if she heard them say it. She was an English teacher and didn't miss an opportunity to teach.

After she died, one of my brother's friends sent a sympathy card with a lovely note. He referred to her driving us to the pool on summer days and always educating us during those drives not to end a sentence/question with the word "at", then joking "She never missed an opportunity to teach us at!" It was great. My dad saved it.

I'm glad to see that others understood where the teenager is...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if teen boys socialize differently, but my teen girls and their friends (and every other teen I know) get out a fair bit, but it is with friends.

They make plans and meet up at diners, movie theaters, the mall, the various town center/shopping areas, boba or coffee shops. They go to each other houses - but not randomly. They talk with each other and then make transportation arrangements. If they were out somewhere and another teen was also there, alone, it would never occur to them to talk to the other person.

Think of it as a "friend date." They do activities to meet other kids, they go out with their friends to spend time with their friends.

Aw. That's sad. I hope people are teaching their kids to be more compassionate/empathetic.

Even the kindest, most compassionate kid would not approach a single kid at the mall and ask him/her to join them. There are a million reasons why that kid is at the mall solo and being solo doesn’t mean you want some strange ass group of kids to invite you along lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A place where we don’t end sentences with a preposition.

Or use a noun as a verb. "Hang out" would be correct. A hangout is a place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A place where we don’t end sentences with a preposition.

Or use a noun as a verb. "Hang out" would be correct. A hangout is a place.

No one wants to hang with tedious people, en at. Get over it.

[Anonymous]

Does your kid play basketball? Always lots of kids at the basketball courts in our area, and pickup games are part of basketball culture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if teen boys socialize differently, but my teen girls and their friends (and every other teen I know) get out a fair bit, but it is with friends.

They make plans and meet up at diners, movie theaters, the mall, the various town center/shopping areas, boba or coffee shops. They go to each other houses - but not randomly. They talk with each other and then make transportation arrangements. If they were out somewhere and another teen was also there, alone, it would never occur to them to talk to the other person.

Think of it as a "friend date." They do activities to meet other kids, they go out with their friends to spend time with their friends.

I have one of each. It’s very different. DD is constantly making plans and asking for rides. DS sits in a room on a computer and looks at me blankly when I suggest he meet up with the friends he’s talking to online and says something like “why would we want to do that?” He sees others at practice but doesn’t seem to have the constant need to hang out in person. I know not all teens are like this but my two are.

Quoting myself. My daughter has gone out two different times with two different groups today. She just left for the second time. My son just emerged from the computer room to say what a great day it’s been, because he hasn’t had to do anything. He hasn’t gotten dressed. We spoke for a min and he said how the year was so busy and he is loving not having to go anywhere or do anything right now. I understand that too. Both are teens.

I think it's a bit of a stereotype that boys never go anywhere. I also have one of each. My son since middle school met up with friends all over the place in person. Female and male friends. He always had co-ed groups. He now has a girlfriend and goes out a lot.

Limit the video games people, from when they are younger.

I thank God every single day for the invention of online games and Discord. I know exactly what my child's life would have been like without this social outlet and connection. Something about being on line together was the secret sauce for this kid figuring out how to have a voice in a group, and it built his confidence and has carried over to in person relationships. Finally letting go of my fear of screens has allowed my child to grow and blossom and develop wonderful friendships.

[Anonymous]

The gym. Friends all workout together.