Sex education

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Or pay $50k to a SJW school with tons of identity classes and flavorful sex Ed. The choice is yours.


Meh, our SJW school is under $35K.
Anonymous
You do you. Most parents who opt out of public school send their kids to religiously affiliated schools or segregation academies. They're not the same as the very small percentage of families can afford to choose the academically rigorous selective independent schools that get discussed here. Besides the academics, one of the reasons I send my kids to a Big 3 school is to avoid people who pretend teenagers don't have sex (or experiment with drugs and alcohol). We made sure DD has a very comprehensive understanding of gender and sexual orientation and sees and knows our many queer friends. By 9th grade, DD had a very strong (vicarious) knowledge base about the mechanics and poetry of sexuality, desire, and eroticism because the evidence shows that is the best way to foster and support healthy sexuality. It's the parents who teach their kids nothing about sexuality and abandon them to learn from porn who are more likely to end up with poor outcomes, wrong headed ideas of gender roles, and messed up behaviors.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:You do you. Most parents who opt out of public school send their kids to religiously affiliated schools or segregation academies. They're not the same as the very small percentage of families can afford to choose the academically rigorous selective independent schools that get discussed here. Besides the academics, one of the reasons I send my kids to a Big 3 school is to avoid people who pretend teenagers don't have sex (or experiment with drugs and alcohol). We made sure DD has a very comprehensive understanding of gender and sexual orientation and sees and knows our many queer friends. By 9th grade, DD had a very strong (vicarious) knowledge base about the mechanics and poetry of sexuality, desire, and eroticism because the evidence shows that is the best way to foster and support healthy sexuality. It's the parents who teach their kids nothing about sexuality and abandon them to learn from porn who are more likely to end up with poor outcomes, wrong headed ideas of gender roles, and messed up behaviors.


Humble brag at its finest! Congrats!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:You do you. Most parents who opt out of public school send their kids to religiously affiliated schools or segregation academies. They're not the same as the very small percentage of families can afford to choose the academically rigorous selective independent schools that get discussed here. Besides the academics, one of the reasons I send my kids to a Big 3 school is to avoid people who pretend teenagers don't have sex (or experiment with drugs and alcohol). We made sure DD has a very comprehensive understanding of gender and sexual orientation and sees and knows our many queer friends. By 9th grade, DD had a very strong (vicarious) knowledge base about the mechanics and poetry of sexuality, desire, and eroticism because the evidence shows that is the best way to foster and support healthy sexuality. It's the parents who teach their kids nothing about sexuality and abandon them to learn from porn who are more likely to end up with poor outcomes, wrong headed ideas of gender roles, and messed up behaviors.


LOL.

Anonymous
It varies based on what you mean by sex ed. At both of my kids' schools, there seems to be emphasis throughout the year on gender issues and respecting how people choose to identify. That theme seems to be woven through classes beyond the "health" class, but is present in English, advisory, assemblies, etc. The kids are hit over the head with gender identity issues. Sex ed by comparison is a specific unit taught at a specific time to either the boys or the girls. It also very much depends on the teacher. My son's sex ed teacher taught him things that I did not know. It was beyond appropriate, particularly given the age. It also was beyond the curriculum that we had been given. The teacher offered her very personal opinion. I complained. She retaliated against my son. No, I'm not kidding. It has become a huge issue and we likely will have to leave the school.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:It varies based on what you mean by sex ed. At both of my kids' schools, there seems to be emphasis throughout the year on gender issues and respecting how people choose to identify. That theme seems to be woven through classes beyond the "health" class, but is present in English, advisory, assemblies, etc. The kids are hit over the head with gender identity issues. Sex ed by comparison is a specific unit taught at a specific time to either the boys or the girls. It also very much depends on the teacher. My son's sex ed teacher taught him things that I did not know. It was beyond appropriate, particularly given the age. It also was beyond the curriculum that we had been given. The teacher offered her very personal opinion. I complained. She retaliated against my son. No, I'm not kidding. It has become a huge issue and we likely will have to leave the school.


What grade(s) did this happen?

Unf the school we are at has an out-of-control sex ex for 9th and 10th grade where they sit there embarrassed learning about hetero, homo, oral, protections, prescription medicines to protect against high risk activities.

And judging from the lack of transparency and real communication with parents who knows what’s going on in lower and middle school.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It varies based on what you mean by sex ed. At both of my kids' schools, there seems to be emphasis throughout the year on gender issues and respecting how people choose to identify. That theme seems to be woven through classes beyond the "health" class, but is present in English, advisory, assemblies, etc. The kids are hit over the head with gender identity issues. Sex ed by comparison is a specific unit taught at a specific time to either the boys or the girls. It also very much depends on the teacher. My son's sex ed teacher taught him things that I did not know. It was beyond appropriate, particularly given the age. It also was beyond the curriculum that we had been given. The teacher offered her very personal opinion. I complained. She retaliated against my son. No, I'm not kidding. It has become a huge issue and we likely will have to leave the school.


What grade(s) did this happen?

Unf the school we are at has an out-of-control sex ex for 9th and 10th grade where they sit there embarrassed learning about hetero, homo, oral, protections, prescription medicines to protect against high risk activities.

And judging from the lack of transparency and real communication with parents who knows what’s going on in lower and middle school.


7th grade. I’m wondering if we’re at the same school. If my experience was 7th grade, I only can imagine 9th or 10th. I even tried to opt out and was told absolutely not. And they won’t give us curriculum, which is a huge red flag. Look, I’m happy kids are talking about these issues, and I recognize that not all families will discuss with their kids, but some of what transpired is beyond what I deem age appropriate or even appropriate at any age.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It varies based on what you mean by sex ed. At both of my kids' schools, there seems to be emphasis throughout the year on gender issues and respecting how people choose to identify. That theme seems to be woven through classes beyond the "health" class, but is present in English, advisory, assemblies, etc. The kids are hit over the head with gender identity issues. Sex ed by comparison is a specific unit taught at a specific time to either the boys or the girls. It also very much depends on the teacher. My son's sex ed teacher taught him things that I did not know. It was beyond appropriate, particularly given the age. It also was beyond the curriculum that we had been given. The teacher offered her very personal opinion. I complained. She retaliated against my son. No, I'm not kidding. It has become a huge issue and we likely will have to leave the school.


What grade(s) did this happen?

Unf the school we are at has an out-of-control sex ex for 9th and 10th grade where they sit there embarrassed learning about hetero, homo, oral, protections, prescription medicines to protect against high risk activities.

And judging from the lack of transparency and real communication with parents who knows what’s going on in lower and middle school.


Can’t see what would be out of control about this, especially for 9th and 10th. Seems like knowledge sharing, the opportunity to engage, and conversation. All things that foster healthy communication and understanding about sexuality.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My daughter was taught Theology of the Body in 8th grade. There is no discussion of gender identity. This is why we pay for private.


The private schools we have toured have outright said statements along the lines of “there are many topics we do not talk about at school; discussion of non traditional relationships and identity issues are referred home to parents. Reproduction questions are also deferred to parents, with age appropriate guidance on how to respond.”

One of the many reasons we’re looking private.

Now to listen for DCUM heads exploding in outrage.


What schools?

Anyone know what sex ed is like at Holton Arms?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It varies based on what you mean by sex ed. At both of my kids' schools, there seems to be emphasis throughout the year on gender issues and respecting how people choose to identify. That theme seems to be woven through classes beyond the "health" class, but is present in English, advisory, assemblies, etc. The kids are hit over the head with gender identity issues. Sex ed by comparison is a specific unit taught at a specific time to either the boys or the girls. It also very much depends on the teacher. My son's sex ed teacher taught him things that I did not know. It was beyond appropriate, particularly given the age. It also was beyond the curriculum that we had been given. The teacher offered her very personal opinion. I complained. She retaliated against my son. No, I'm not kidding. It has become a huge issue and we likely will have to leave the school.


What grade(s) did this happen?

Unf the school we are at has an out-of-control sex ex for 9th and 10th grade where they sit there embarrassed learning about hetero, homo, oral, protections, prescription medicines to protect against high risk activities.

And judging from the lack of transparency and real communication with parents who knows what’s going on in lower and middle school.


Can’t see what would be out of control about this, especially for 9th and 10th. Seems like knowledge sharing, the opportunity to engage, and conversation. All things that foster healthy communication and understanding about sexuality.


Several weeks on safe anal, gay sex and PrEP, twice in two years, really?

The teacher must have said “let’s learn how all the bits fit in the bits” 20x.
Anonymous
At least at our school, they start in 4th grade and step it up in 5th grade.

There were several parents very surprised when their daughters came home announcing they were trans because the teacher said, "if we are not comfortable in our bodies, we might be trans".
After another session with the sex teacher, most of the girls came home announcing they were omnisexual because it was the 'most inclusive' of all of the sexual orientations.

I was a wild experimenter, support anything goes with consenting adults, and am the last person anyone would expect to have a problem with liberal teaching. But this is causing real problems with girls who have not made it through puberty yet. In my daughter's 5th grade class, over half the girls were declaring as LGBT+ (FWIW, most of the boys thought they were nuts). Two girls have cut their hair and decided to change their pronouns and dress as boys. Five have decided they are 'gender-fluid', and countless other kids are scared and confused.

The only way to escape it, at least in the private school arena, is to go to a religious based school. Which has another set of issues...

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:At least at our school, they start in 4th grade and step it up in 5th grade.

There were several parents very surprised when their daughters came home announcing they were trans because the teacher said, "if we are not comfortable in our bodies, we might be trans".
After another session with the sex teacher, most of the girls came home announcing they were omnisexual because it was the 'most inclusive' of all of the sexual orientations.

I was a wild experimenter, support anything goes with consenting adults, and am the last person anyone would expect to have a problem with liberal teaching. But this is causing real problems with girls who have not made it through puberty yet. In my daughter's 5th grade class, over half the girls were declaring as LGBT+ (FWIW, most of the boys thought they were nuts). Two girls have cut their hair and decided to change their pronouns and dress as boys. Five have decided they are 'gender-fluid', and countless other kids are scared and confused.

The only way to escape it, at least in the private school arena, is to go to a religious based school. Which has another set of issues...

Sounds like what’s missing is teacher’s having good context and explaining that as well as providing key info about things not just being passing feelings vs the natural instinct of curiosity and experimentation.

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It varies based on what you mean by sex ed. At both of my kids' schools, there seems to be emphasis throughout the year on gender issues and respecting how people choose to identify. That theme seems to be woven through classes beyond the "health" class, but is present in English, advisory, assemblies, etc. The kids are hit over the head with gender identity issues. Sex ed by comparison is a specific unit taught at a specific time to either the boys or the girls. It also very much depends on the teacher. My son's sex ed teacher taught him things that I did not know. It was beyond appropriate, particularly given the age. It also was beyond the curriculum that we had been given. The teacher offered her very personal opinion. I complained. She retaliated against my son. No, I'm not kidding. It has become a huge issue and we likely will have to leave the school.


What grade(s) did this happen?

Unf the school we are at has an out-of-control sex ex for 9th and 10th grade where they sit there embarrassed learning about hetero, homo, oral, protections, prescription medicines to protect against high risk activities.

And judging from the lack of transparency and real communication with parents who knows what’s going on in lower and middle school.


Can’t see what would be out of control about this, especially for 9th and 10th. Seems like knowledge sharing, the opportunity to engage, and conversation. All things that foster healthy communication and understanding about sexuality.


Several weeks on safe anal, gay sex and PrEP, twice in two years, really?

The teacher must have said “let’s learn how all the bits fit in the bits” 20x.


Was it really several weeks just on these topics or were these topics included as part of several weeks of Sex Ed.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:At least at our school, they start in 4th grade and step it up in 5th grade.

There were several parents very surprised when their daughters came home announcing they were trans because the teacher said, "if we are not comfortable in our bodies, we might be trans".
After another session with the sex teacher, most of the girls came home announcing they were omnisexual because it was the 'most inclusive' of all of the sexual orientations.

I was a wild experimenter, support anything goes with consenting adults, and am the last person anyone would expect to have a problem with liberal teaching. But this is causing real problems with girls who have not made it through puberty yet. In my daughter's 5th grade class, over half the girls were declaring as LGBT+ (FWIW, most of the boys thought they were nuts). Two girls have cut their hair and decided to change their pronouns and dress as boys. Five have decided they are 'gender-fluid', and countless other kids are scared and confused.

The only way to escape it, at least in the private school arena, is to go to a religious based school. Which has another set of issues...




This entire comment is obviously bs. PP’s imagined parade of horrible is a “Reefer Madness” level PSA.
Anonymous
Much better overall outcomes ( lowest Teen pregnancy , lowest Abortion rate, lowest STD rate ) and highest level of satisfaction in intimate relationships achieved with this school Sex- Ed program:

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/08/the-benefits-of-starting-sex-ed-at-age-4/568225/
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