Do you judge women for being unattractive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“If you aren’t beautiful by aged 20, it isn’t your fault. If you aren’t beautiful by 40, it is your fault”.

Everyone can find a healthy and unique beauty.

wtf

I’ve heard that saying before. I think it was Coco Chanel.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge people for looking ungroomed and not dressing appropriately for the occasion

I like clean people but don’t give a damn about “dressing appropriately for the occasion”. DH and I met our grandson at the airport in mime costumes.

Mime costumes are 100% appropriate 99.99% of the time anywhere

I love this grandma!

I am down for the eccentric frivolity, but don’t see the appeal of mimes- especially for kids.

[Anonymous]

I was envious of my “unattractive” peers when I was younger. When men were interested in them, they were genuine and treated them well. They all married eligible men and stayed married.

I was “hot” but lacking in confidence and it didn’t serve me well at all.
Now that I’m middle aged I’ve finally started meeting men who treat me with kindness and respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge people for looking ungroomed and not dressing appropriately for the occasion

I like clean people but don’t give a damn about “dressing appropriately for the occasion”. DH and I met our grandson at the airport in mime costumes.

Mime costumes are 100% appropriate 99.99% of the time anywhere

I love this grandma!

I am down for the eccentric frivolity, but don’t see the appeal of mimes- especially for kids.

You don’t know that the grandson was a kid.

[Anonymous]

Only the wives of my exes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“If you aren’t beautiful by aged 20, it isn’t your fault. If you aren’t beautiful by 40, it is your fault”.

Everyone can find a healthy and unique beauty.

So if you’re sick, overworked, knocked down by life at age 40, it’s all your fault. Ok, I get it.
Can’t believe the lack of intelligence.

[Anonymous]

I don’t but I feel like the only thing I’m valued for is my my looks and it’s depressing. Feels like the world revolves around what men want and all they care about re women are their looks.

[Anonymous]

Why are people still responding ? This is not a real thread.

[Anonymous]

Nobody can help the way their face is shaped, and weight is very difficult to control. The things I judge them for are the things that are EASY to control. Our PTA president would run meetings with her hair in a sloppy topknot, visible facial hair, and holes in her pajama-looking clothes. And I couldn't help but notice that the clique she chose to surround herself with was equally unkempt. It was like they took pride in being too busy to even put on jeans in the morning.

[Anonymous]

Yes people do. But depends on job. My one daughter who majored in marketing works in a big tech company in marketing is truly beautiful. She is shy and quiet. But for marketing what you want

It she was a CPA or programmer or data base administrator not so much.

Of course we judge people on looks. I have a niece who is extremely smart and nice and sweet but zero looks. As a 20 year old women trying to date, make friends get a first job of course people judge.

Men too. I used to be very good looking. Like asked to audition general hospital. I was six foot two inch, 190 pounds, in perfect shape at 20. I could sweet talk the HR girls for a job, get into clubs for free. Those days are over

[Anonymous]

OP, if you think that you have the right to judge another person for anything unless you are a judge or on a jury and you are in a court of law, you need to take a long, hard, honest look at yourself. Who are YOU?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes people do. But depends on job. My one daughter who majored in marketing works in a big tech company in marketing is truly beautiful. She is shy and quiet. But for marketing what you want

It she was a CPA or programmer or data base administrator not so much.

Of course we judge people on looks. I have a niece who is extremely smart and nice and sweet but zero looks. As a 20 year old women trying to date, make friends get a first job of course people judge.

Men too. I used to be very good looking. Like asked to audition general hospital. I was six foot two inch, 190 pounds, in perfect shape at 20. I could sweet talk the HR girls for a job, get into clubs for free. Those days are over

You’re a loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was envious of my “unattractive” peers when I was younger. When men were interested in them, they were genuine and treated them well. They all married eligible men and stayed married.

I was “hot” but lacking in confidence and it didn’t serve me well at all.
Now that I’m middle aged I’ve finally started meeting men who treat me with kindness and respect.

Same. I used to be “hot” but had low self esteem, so I ended up dating a lot of shallow jerks who treated me poorly and then traded up when something even better came along. My more average looking friends all found these great guys who wanted to settle down and stick with them forever, and it seemed so much more real than my “relationships.” (I ended up with a great guy, but was a lot older before it happened.)

I’m glad you are meeting people who treat you better now!

[Anonymous]

I would like to say no, but the reality is that most people probably do, unconsciously, and to say that you don't probably is a red flad in the way that saying "I can't see color!" is a racism red flag

[Anonymous]

I only judge people for making no effort and taking zero pride in their appearance.