I push my kids and have NO shame! You should too!!!

[Anonymous]

Me too, OP. My kids do Beast Academy from AoPS after school and they're on track to do AoPS Algebra in 7th grade, which makes school Algebra relatively easy. I think our schools do a poor job with math education and AoPS has been great for our family. They play an instrument and travel sports. I guess you could say I push them, and I'm more than fine with that characterization. The other kids that play in our youth orchestra, on our travel team, or keep up with my kids in math at school appear to have similar parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All you guys are crazy with the micromanagement!

It is not that complicated but of course not easy. Set good examples as parents and put them in a good peer environment.

Have high expectations and then leave them kids alone.

Yes, "leave them kids alone" is indeed one parenting style. But not the only one, and not necessarily the best one - surely not the best one for all parents and all children. Why must you nsist that everyone do things your way?!

[Anonymous]

https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-effects-of-overparenting-on-children#1

And we wonder why anxiety levels are on the rise in kids.

[Anonymous]

People in this country did a good job on not judging people on what clothes they wear, what house they purchase, and what life style they choose, because that’s individual choice. Why bother to judge others on how their kids are studying?
If you worry that other kids study more and it jeopardizes your kid’s opportunity, you can either choose to study or let it go. You make the decision by yourself and accept the consequence. There is just no reason to blame other people who are more willing to study.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People in this country did a good job on not judging people on what clothes they wear, what house they purchase, and what life style they choose, because that’s individual choice. Why bother to judge others on how their kids are studying?
If you worry that other kids study more and it jeopardizes your kid’s opportunity, you can either choose to study or let it go. You make the decision by yourself and accept the consequence. There is just no reason to blame other people who are more willing to study.

Something I can agree with. Leave them kids alone. Also Live and let live!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All you guys are crazy with the micromanagement!

It is not that complicated but of course not easy. Set good examples as parents and put them in a good peer environment.

Have high expectations and then leave them kids alone.

Yes, "leave them kids alone" is indeed one parenting style. But not the only one, and not necessarily the best one - surely not the best one for all parents and all children. Why must you nsist that everyone do things your way?!

No one is insisting on one right way. Whatever works for you!

[Anonymous]

My thought is to encourage my kids to work to the best of their abilities. If I know they are doing their best and don’t do as well as expected, cool. As long as they tried their best. If I know my kid is super capable and just doesn’t bother (like prepare for a big test at school) that is when I will let them know that is not ok and that they are capable of SO much more. This has worked really well with my son (he’s going into 5th.) Now, he doesn’t do well for me, but for himself because he wants to work to his full potential. Lots of times, I am actually like “You did great! 18/20 is awesome!” And he is like “NO! I should have gotten a 20/20! I know I could have done better!” And I need to tell him to chill and know that he still did great and that everyone makes mistakes. Just learn from it for next time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Me too, OP. My kids do Beast Academy from AoPS after school and they're on track to do AoPS Algebra in 7th grade, which makes school Algebra relatively easy. I think our schools do a poor job with math education and AoPS has been great for our family. They play an instrument and travel sports. I guess you could say I push them, and I'm more than fine with that characterization. The other kids that play in our youth orchestra, on our travel team, or keep up with my kids in math at school appear to have similar parents.

Lol. Funny that you say that. My kid also falls into travel sports and playing an instrument.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People in this country did a good job on not judging people on what clothes they wear, what house they purchase, and what life style they choose, because that’s individual choice. Why bother to judge others on how their kids are studying?
If you worry that other kids study more and it jeopardizes your kid’s opportunity, you can either choose to study or let it go. You make the decision by yourself and accept the consequence. There is just no reason to blame other people who are more willing to study.

Is this sarcasm?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All you guys are crazy with the micromanagement!

It is not that complicated but of course not easy. Set good examples as parents and put them in a good peer environment.

Have high expectations and then leave them kids alone.

Yes, "leave them kids alone" is indeed one parenting style. But not the only one, and not necessarily the best one - surely not the best one for all parents and all children. Why must you nsist that everyone do things your way?!

No one is insisting on one right way. Whatever works for you!

Have you been reading these boards? Many posters insist on their way as the only way...

[Anonymous]

Okay, freak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So absolutely absurd to not push kids to do advanced stuff. Especially since some average people are deciding the standards.

Push your kids to do well in school, on screener tests, and everywhere, becait will make them better at the end. They will learn about themselves the most.

Go for Algebra in 7th, even in 6th if you can.

LA should have better acceleration too.

Asians and Europeans learn Algebra in 5th or 6th grade. Americans are not into academics in general compared to the rest of the developed world and thus the slow but sure decline.

[Anonymous]

I don't think there's any harm in supplementing your kids' education, but I think pushing algebra arbitrarily early is silly. Make sure you kids have the foundations of math deeply ingrained. Very few kids that young understand them...partially because of where they developmentally.

-- STEM PhD

[Anonymous]

The problem is white parents and students do not want to study as much as Asians in general and expect the same or better results.

Therefore, punish Asians for studying too much and then demand/require Asians present better gpas and test scores compared to non-Asians and Asians study and try harder and achive more and then whites demand/require even higher scores and the cycle repeats...

Whites then wonder why Asians perform so well academically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So absolutely absurd to not push kids to do advanced stuff. Especially since some average people are deciding the standards.

Push your kids to do well in school, on screener tests, and everywhere, becait will make them better at the end. They will learn about themselves the most.

Go for Algebra in 7th, even in 6th if you can.

LA should have better acceleration too.

Asians and Europeans learn Algebra in 5th or 6th grade. Americans are not into academics in general compared to the rest of the developed world and thus the slow but sure decline.

If we want to make America great again, the first thing to do is to promote study and hardworking spirit.