Husband too me off life insurance
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Anonymous
What a weird response. Fully irrelevant. He is divorcing her because she wasn’t supportive when he needed it. |
Anonymous
Come again? She checked out on her husband when he needed her. So she can use that job of her's to support her during the divorce. |
Anonymous
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To be fair, OP probably needed to keep working to pay the bills. This is why a cancer diagnosis is so devastating in the U.S. - you can lose your home if you stop working at the moment your loved one needs you the most.
Anyways, it was a d#ck move for him to yank you from the insurance policy. I’m wondering if there is cognitive decline. |
Anonymous
Well, to be realistic, someone has to pay the bills. Most couples don't have enough in savings for both to just stop working if one becomes ill. Most people have health insurance tied to employment as well. |
Anonymous
Cognitive decline? “Chemo brain” does not account for a decision like this. C’mon. That kind of cognitive decline is more like short-term memory issues, brain fog, etc. It’s hard to know if OP is an unsupportive spouse or if she struggled to balance her equally essential roles as caregiver and income-earner, which would be understandable. She referred to her “demanding career” in a rather blasé way without any context, which doesn’t reflect well on her - and also has me wondering if she is merely a troll. |
Anonymous
And in a divorce, he will be ordered to name her as a beneficiary at least to the extent it covers CS and any alimony. Why were you so unsupportive during cancer treatment. That seems cruel. |
Anonymous
This is about a lot more than a life insurance policy. |
Anonymous
Never mind, I see the children are adults |
Anonymous
Well gee in that case all the married women on DCUM who whine that their husbands are not "emotionally available" and don't meet their "emotional needs" should just STFU and give him a break so long as he is working to support the family. |
Anonymous
Wtf. He should rest up and then talk this out with a joint therapist. |
Anonymous
This needs to be talked out. Caretakers of ill people (mentally ill, diseased ill, physically ill) who ALSO work and run the family and children have a TON on their plate logistically, physically, emotionally, etc. They are also dealing with caring for an ill person, the healthcare/insurance/doctor system, and possibly daily treatment schedules for the ill person. Many individuals would collapse under this or need substantial high quality help and the mean$ to afford it. What does that even mean “not supportive (enough)”? My spouse is incapable of being supportive. In all realms. Thus I have other people as PoA, and looped in to help with issues. He’d freeze, he hide at work, he’s hire the first “nurse” he could find on a google search and never speak with them. Finally, caretaking a grumpy or depressed person is draining. Not all patients are nice and appreciative 24/7, and some are downright hostile. Even your own child, parent or spouse. |
Anonymous
A man would say this all the time. He’d even add, “it isn’t my thing.” (To take care of others or take leave or hours off a week) |
Anonymous
Is this what happened OP? Most employers aren’t d1cks about an employee’s spouses cancer treatments. The ones who are, the employee leaves. Anyhow, sounds untenable to stay with this elephant in the room. Can you both make amends? The real issue seems to be trust and love and priorities. The life insurance change is a shot across the bow to fix that. |
Anonymous
Lol, hope your spouse - of you even have one- is aware of your attitude. |
Anonymous
I am wondering if Op was ever there for the family. |