Hamptons is SO overrated, couldn't wait to leave.

[Anonymous]

Head north, my friend. You have aged into the North Fork realm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We lived in NY for almost 11 years, we were in the city and always rented a house in East Hampton every summer, (going back about 10 years ago). I come up to NY often to see my parents and was there for about a week recently(a wedding and then we made a short trip out of it). 10 years ago it was a fun place to spend the summer with our kids and with plenty of other families. It felt more "family friendly". Now its been overrun by 20-30 year old influencers and wanna be fashionistas.

What a letdown. Such a scene. If you are a 28 year old who lives and dies by fedora hats, using words like "I'm dead" when you love something, must have your macchiato to start your day and swear by either spin class or yoga (and of course live in lululemon) then its for you. The level of cringe and phoniness that is everywhere has reached a new height. Not to mention, if you don't make a dinner reservation at least 4 weeks in advance, forget about going there. The whole scene is just otherworldly.

If i never go back, I will be a very happy person. It was sad to see it change so. much, just an FYI and this of course, is strictly my opinion.

So you’re old now and feel out of place there. OK.

+1 "When I lived in NYC in my 20s I rented a house in the Hamptons every summer and it was great! Now I'm pushing 40 and I'm so irritated by the 20-somethings renting houses there. They don't even dress like I did in my 20s or have the good sense to use the same slang that was popular 10+ years ago. Everything sucks now and my back hurts."

Hahaha. That's a really clever post!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Montauk is almost the worst now! It is crazytown with hordes of these young 20/30 year olds who literally all look alike taking selfies at every corner. And the "older" people that are there all try to dress and act like they are 20, so yeah, its pretty bad.

It used to be a lot of families, and laid back town people...no more! The locals are in an uproar over whats happened to their charming little beach oasis. It has been ruined as has much of the Hamptons. Give me Nantucket or Block Island any day.

I was in Montauk 20 years ago - not my scene but very laid back with city surfers in weekend beach rentals and locals.

This is really just what happened when housing & development is restrained, either by zoning regulation or by geographic factors, yet NIMBYs reject changes that would make the congestion more livable (like more train service).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m confused but what about having the young people makes it not laid back or any less of a tourist destination?

Do they feel the new visitors don’t have money?

What’s at the heart of making it less laid back? If the businesses are providing services and people are helping the local economy, isn’t that positive?

This is one of those things, where "if you know, you know". Not sure if you have been, especially lately. But suffice to say it is filled with a ton of young posers who want to act the part but most can barely afford their rent. Yes, there are tons of mega millionaires there to be sure but this huge rash of young hipster millennials have become even more intrusive than ever before.

Therefore things are more out of control, and then you factor in most restaurants not having enough help and well...it's a shit show. Even the stores have changed, catering to a much younger group, super trendy clothes many with rips, etc....just not very relatable to someone over say 35. I am not along, the New Yorker put out an interesting article about this very topic not too long ago. It is what it is. Things change, I get it and I get that I am no longer 25. Who knows what I would be like if I was 25 today in this crazy screwed world we live in. Just venting I guess and really miss the old Hamptons vibe which as of now is no where to be found.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This would be a good Progressive Insurance commercial.

OMG brilliant! It would. But is it too close to the "hashtag challenge" one?

[Anonymous]

We rarely go out when there. I would hate to miss a sunset at our property. I truly believe there is no better in the world. But yeah, the towns suck.

[Anonymous]

There are tons of great beach towns in Long Island. No reason to go all the way to the hamptons. I grew up in one on Long Island. So much lower key.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up going to our family compound in EH and while I love being with my family and relaxing at the house, I agree that the “scene” is ridiculous and I have no desire to spend time there outside of being at home. Plus the traffic to get there and to get around are beyond horrendous.
When my husband and I looked for our own second home we ended up in Litchfield County, CT, where there’s very little “scene” and almost zero traffic.

You lost me at “family compound.”

Same. 😂

Family compound. 😂

[Anonymous]

If it’s not your scene- and it’s not mine- just move along.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up going to our family compound in EH and while I love being with my family and relaxing at the house, I agree that the “scene” is ridiculous and I have no desire to spend time there outside of being at home. Plus the traffic to get there and to get around are beyond horrendous.
When my husband and I looked for our own second home we ended up in Litchfield County, CT, where there’s very little “scene” and almost zero traffic.

You lost me at “family compound.”

Really? I want to hear more!!!

I’m fascinated by it and not just because I lived in NYC for 30 years and spent summers in the Hamptons.
I haven’t been back in a few years but if someone I knew had a compound, I’d be all over that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We lived in NY for almost 11 years, we were in the city and always rented a house in East Hampton every summer, (going back about 10 years ago). I come up to NY often to see my parents and was there for about a week recently(a wedding and then we made a short trip out of it). 10 years ago it was a fun place to spend the summer with our kids and with plenty of other families. It felt more "family friendly". Now its been overrun by 20-30 year old influencers and wanna be fashionistas.

What a letdown. Such a scene. If you are a 28 year old who lives and dies by fedora hats, using words like "I'm dead" when you love something, must have your macchiato to start your day and swear by either spin class or yoga (and of course live in lululemon) then its for you. The level of cringe and phoniness that is everywhere has reached a new height. Not to mention, if you don't make a dinner reservation at least 4 weeks in advance, forget about going there. The whole scene is just otherworldly.

If i never go back, I will be a very happy person. It was sad to see it change so. much, just an FYI and this of course, is strictly my opinion.

So you’re old now and feel out of place there. OK.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up going to our family compound in EH and while I love being with my family and relaxing at the house, I agree that the “scene” is ridiculous and I have no desire to spend time there outside of being at home. Plus the traffic to get there and to get around are beyond horrendous.
When my husband and I looked for our own second home we ended up in Litchfield County, CT, where there’s very little “scene” and almost zero traffic.

You lost me at “family compound.”

Really? I want to hear more!!!

I’m fascinated by it and not just because I lived in NYC for 30 years and spent summers in the Hamptons.
I haven’t been back in a few years but if someone I knew had a compound, I’d be all over that!

My great grandparents bought a property in EH in the 1930s. It had a large house and farmland which they rented to the neighbors to farm since they weren’t farmers and weren’t living there full time. They had 4 children. Two of their children built homes for their families on the property in the 1950s/1960s, they added a pool and 2 tennis courts. Then a generation later another two houses and an art studio (my uncle is an artist) were added. Eventually when my great grandparents died my grandmother and her siblings donated their home to a nonprofit (it wss a bit farther from the other homes, more on the road), but kept the other 5 buildings and recreation areas for the family. There are still a few fields that are farmed (for corn) by a neighbor. It’s a beautiful place and it’s private and quiet and I love being there, but I hate going to the Hamptons because it’s so different from when I was a kid/teen. I’m 38 and miss the days of riding bikes to town for donuts or ice cream and not having to face herds of Instagrammers.

[Anonymous]

Ageism

[Anonymous]

Unlikeable place with its horrible one lane road and horrific traffic, full of overpriced food and scene and terribly unlikeable people both Young and old!!!