I miss relaxing weekends

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same but I have 3 kids. So far today I’ve made breakfast, lunch and snack, cleaned the kitchen twice, worked on puzzles, played “diner” with the grocery shop, went on a 3 mile walk to playgrounds, put the baby down for a nap twice. Omg it’s never ending. I’m exhausted and my kids are bouncing off the walls. I seriously had no idea how exhausting kids were. I think I imagined snuggles, watching a movie together.

Mostly I think I’m burnt out and maybe traumatized from Covid.

3 kids with the youngest still a baby is a really grueling time (can’t imagine having a baby during a pandemic as well) but I assure you it gets better! Give yourself credit for what you are doing, and enjoy the snuggles.

[Anonymous]

Totally hear you op, but things got so much easier for me when my kids were 3 and 6, which is right now. They're playing quietly together in their room and I'm writing on dcum from my bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Totally hear you op, but things got so much easier for me when my kids were 3 and 6, which is right now. They're playing quietly together in their room and I'm writing on dcum from my bed.

Pp again, and what's making this summer look much more relaxing to me in my eyes is that my younger one is no longer napping, so we could stay out in the park all day yesterday and are heading to the beach soon for as long as we want. Last weekend my kids played in the sand under and umbrella for hours, literally, and we brought fruit and ate bagels. Which is not meant to be a brag for you when you're feeling drained, but the difference between 1.5 and 3 is huge. You're mdw next year might be more like mine. Unless you have another kid! But even then you're just talking about a few hard years of the kind of difficulty you're describing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have a 1.5 year old. Pre kid MDW would be sleeping in till 9, brunch, lazing around in a park, bbq and movie with DH. Now I’m prepping breakfast at 7am, cleaning up dishes, reading books to kid all morning, trying to help him not kill himself, schelping to playground at 1030am and getting attacked the moment I sit down. I love caring for him Monday to Friday because it’s the weekday and it’s my “work”, but I really miss lazy do nothing weekends. I get time off once he naps and goes to bed but I never get a quiet morning anymore.

What did you expect? There's as lot more coming that you don't know about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You'll get back to your pre-kid weekend in 10 years, well 8.5 years now.

Haha. No - our weekends are all sports and dance, all the time!

+1. Way busier now. But I don’t really mind it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You'll get back to your pre-kid weekend in 10 years, well 8.5 years now.

Not if you sign them up for sports!

[Anonymous]

I feel your pain OP. I remember right before my maternity leave ended I convinced my husband to go on a beach vacation with me and the baby, convinced it would be relaxing and lovely. And during that weekend, as my baby continued to wake up at 4 am to nurse and eat sand, it hit me that it wasn’t about the location, motherhood was permanent and inescapable. But it does get easier. Once my youngest turned 4 or 5, it was noticeably easier.

[Anonymous]

Hey OP I have a 6 month old and 4 year old. I’m dealing with parents health issues and kids hanging off of me constantly. It sucks. I know I shouldn’t say it out loud on here but it sucks sometimes I want to walk away and live in the mountains in quiet where I just sleep eat and sleep. In quiet. It depresses me to think I’ll be too old by the time childcare isn’t this grueling. Anyway. Crappy days.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You'll get back to your pre-kid weekend in 10 years, well 8.5 years now.

Nope. Today my lazy Sunday included a weekend wake up call at a hotel at 5:30am to be at a baseball field at 7 am.

But that is a choice. You didn’t need to sign your kid up for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Totally hear you op, but things got so much easier for me when my kids were 3 and 6, which is right now. They're playing quietly together in their room and I'm writing on dcum from my bed.

Pp again, and what's making this summer look much more relaxing to me in my eyes is that my younger one is no longer napping, so we could stay out in the park all day yesterday and are heading to the beach soon for as long as we want. Last weekend my kids played in the sand under and umbrella for hours, literally, and we brought fruit and ate bagels. Which is not meant to be a brag for you when you're feeling drained, but the difference between 1.5 and 3 is huge. You're mdw next year might be more like mine. Unless you have another kid! But even then you're just talking about a few hard years of the kind of difficulty you're describing.

I have a six month old and a two year old and this really good to hear. Weekends are very intensive at the moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is called parenting, OP. What did you expect?

+1

[Anonymous]

Mine are 7 and 10, it's a holiday, and I'm sitting here wondering how many more years it will be until I get a day off. I'm just so exhausted. I want to vegetate for a day, but we are always behind on chores. I can't sit down for 3 seconds without momomomomomom. When I grew up, we played outside all day with friends, and our parents did NOT provide entertainment for us 24-7. That method only works when other people in the neighborhood are doing the same, but instead they are schlepping kids to constant activities, taking trips, etc every weekend. I'm so sick of having to organize formal playdates and clear my schedule so my kid can have a social life. Modern parenting is exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You'll get back to your pre-kid weekend in 10 years, well 8.5 years now.

Don’t lie to OP!

+1. My weekends are now spent chauffeuring from one activity to the next. We have two kids so DH and I often have to divide and conquer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You'll get back to your pre-kid weekend in 10 years, well 8.5 years now.

My kids are 8, 6 and 3 and my weekends are everything BUT relaxing and not because of my little one. Between sports, play dates, events, errands there is basically no time to relax (not that it would be possible with a 3 year old anyway). Perhaps if we had stopped at one kid and limited the number of activities in weekends we might have been able to relax a little more, but our weekends are very busy always and with no end in sight

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You'll get back to your pre-kid weekend in 10 years, well 8.5 years now.

Nope. Today my lazy Sunday included a weekend wake up call at a hotel at 5:30am to be at a baseball field at 7 am.

But that is a choice. You didn’t need to sign your kid up for that.

Having kids is a choice. Most kids will have friends and sports on weekends because this is what THEY like. Most kids are bored spending most weekend lounging around and they want/need to have activities/friends/sports. Why have kids at all if you are still going to make it all about you?