I miss relaxing weekends

[Anonymous]

Not to burst your bubble but those 1 kid days were still pretty relaxing. Dh and I could take turns. We could go out for dinner without guilt since young one would be sleeping.

When we had 2 kids, it felt like 4x the amount of work, not just double.

We have 3 kids now and it is pretty much chaos but we love it.

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Anonymous wrote:You'll get back to your pre-kid weekend in 10 years, well 8.5 years now.

Haha. No - our weekends are all sports and dance, all the time!

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Anonymous wrote:You'll get back to your pre-kid weekend in 10 years, well 8.5 years now.

Maybe, but probably not if her kid gets into travel sports. Both mine played travel soccer and there were many Sunday mornings we were out of the house before 8am traveling to games. Or that one year where my kid had to be in Richmond, VA by 8am Saturday mornings (in winter) for elite training (we carpooled but I did it 2-3x a month). Or those out of town tournaments where I’d watch 3-5 games in one weekend. After 16 years of crazy weekend schedules those days are gone but I sometimes miss it. And I am not a morning person, but I have lots of fun memories from those times. Some of those other parents became life long friends and my own kids’ best friends.

Enjoy the ride, OP. It may be hard to see it in the moment but one day you’ll look back fondly and miss these times because you never get them back once they are behind you.

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Anonymous wrote:I get it. Weekends were rough when my kids were little (and I was a SAHM). Holiday weekends in particular. Now they’re older and independent and I work M-F, and I love weekends again. Things evolve, OP. Both in your life and your kid’s. You’ll get to a better place again.

Great answer. It is a rough and exhausting phase. We started to make sure we were in bed earlier as we had two 5:30 am kids for most those years! As DC ages, you’ll be amazed at how late your kid can sleep regardless of when DC went to bed. You can work out, meet a friend for breakfast, stop at the hardware store, go grocery shopping, unpack groceries, meet a friend for coffee all before your teen has woken up!!!

[Anonymous]

My teens are still sleeping. It gets better.

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Anonymous wrote:Have a 1.5 year old. Pre kid MDW would be sleeping in till 9, brunch, lazing around in a park, bbq and movie with DH. Now I’m prepping breakfast at 7am, cleaning up dishes, reading books to kid all morning, trying to help him not kill himself, schelping to playground at 1030am and getting attacked the moment I sit down. I love caring for him Monday to Friday because it’s the weekday and it’s my “work”, but I really miss lazy do nothing weekends. I get time off once he naps and goes to bed but I never get a quiet morning anymore.

Did you think it would be different?

No one told you your life would never be the same? I'll tell you now.. you will never be more tired, more worried, or feel more love and joy. Just embrace your new life. And no, when they get older you don't get your time back. That's a lie. I do long for a snuggle from a baby now that mine are grown.... but not so much that I want to go back there now.

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Anonymous wrote:You'll get back to your pre-kid weekend in 10 years, well 8.5 years now.

Nope. Today my lazy Sunday included a weekend wake up call at a hotel at 5:30am to be at a baseball field at 7 am.

[Anonymous]

Same but I have 3 kids. So far today I’ve made breakfast, lunch and snack, cleaned the kitchen twice, worked on puzzles, played “diner” with the grocery shop, went on a 3 mile walk to playgrounds, put the baby down for a nap twice. Omg it’s never ending. I’m exhausted and my kids are bouncing off the walls. I seriously had no idea how exhausting kids were. I think I imagined snuggles, watching a movie together.

Mostly I think I’m burnt out and maybe traumatized from Covid.

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Anonymous wrote:My condolences on the apparent death of your husband.

Lol

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You'll get back to your pre-kid weekend in 10 years, well 8.5 years now.

Haha. No - our weekends are all sports and dance, all the time!

So don’t sign up for all that. Choices.

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I work on the weekend to get a break! It breaks my week up a little. I don't work from home. Getting out of the house and dressed up makes a world of difference.

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Anonymous wrote:My condolences on the apparent death of your husband.

Funny.

OP you seem to be a SAHM? Why can't your husband take the lead on weekends? Mine does.

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Anonymous wrote:This is called parenting, OP. What did you expect?

Oh please. Parents have a right to vent and miss pre-kid things. Get over yourself supermom.

[Anonymous]

You dont get time back. You continue to get older with kid, but you just adjust your lifestyle. I fought it for years, and now accept that this is my life as a mom. At 1.5 year kid, I fought it too. Ebrace it. Abd Condolences for your husband.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You'll get back to your pre-kid weekend in 10 years, well 8.5 years now.

Haha. No - our weekends are all sports and dance, all the time!

So don’t sign up for all that. Choices.

Why wouldn’t I? My kids love their activities. When you are a parent, it’s not about you and your sleep anymore.