Is baking for a new guy a good or bad idea?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating a guy for 3 months. I like to bake and found out he likes brownies. Do guys like when you bake for them? I’ve read some books written for women saying not to, because that comes across as too “grandma” and unsexy.

What do you think?

My wife of almost 24 years baked for me early on in our relationship - a cake that we brought to my birthday celebration with a bunch of friends. It sealed the deal for me.

My partner helped me make and frost cupcakes for my mom. He’s not a natural in the kitchen, but he was super game to help. It was fun, they came out great, and she loved them. I loved that he was into helping with something that was solely for someone else’s enjoyment and he thought it was a good way to spend the morning after. Massive points. Also she dotes on him now.

[Anonymous]

I'm a guy. I love it when a woman bakes for me. It shows she's thinking about me and wants to do things for me.

[Anonymous]

If I knew that my (now) wife loved to bake and she never baked anything for me, then I'd be upset.

OP, if he knows that you love to bake, then he's probably hoping that you will bake something for him.

How does that NOT make sense to you?

[Anonymous]

You like baking.
He likes eating what you bake.
Why would this be a problem?
I don't think it is grandma at all, but then, I like baking AND eating and anything that somebody does special for me ... I take as something special for me.

I'm sorry you are so insecure with your hobbies and your sense of self. Have you looked at therapy?

[Anonymous]

Densest question ever by an OP.

[Anonymous]

Tell you what, if your DW starts baking things for some guy at work, that's an important clue she is your STBXW.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy. I love it when a woman bakes for me. It shows she's thinking about me and wants to do things for me.

I don’t doubt you but I want to point out that if one of these women who baked for you was trying to come on to you and you were the opposite of interested , you might not like it so much.

Signed

- a woman who used to desperately try to ensnare men with baked goods before I had a glow-up and found some self-confidence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Densest question ever by an OP.

Agree and also have a feeling OP didn’t read anything in a book.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy. I love it when a woman bakes for me. It shows she's thinking about me and wants to do things for me.

I don’t doubt you but I want to point out that if one of these women who baked for you was trying to come on to you and you were the opposite of interested , you might not like it so much.

Signed

- a woman who used to desperately try to ensnare men with baked goods before I had a glow-up and found some self-confidence.

I'd still eat the baked treats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy. I love it when a woman bakes for me. It shows she's thinking about me and wants to do things for me.

I don’t doubt you but I want to point out that if one of these women who baked for you was trying to come on to you and you were the opposite of interested , you might not like it so much.

Signed

- a woman who used to desperately try to ensnare men with baked goods before I had a glow-up and found some self-confidence.

You have a point. Baking for a new relationship man does read a bit desperate and outdated. Like you are trying to show what a sweet home maker you’ll be. Unless that is your goal