So happy for my friend-a TTC success story at 45

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Anonymous wrote:Eh I don't believe they are being honest with you. Not that it matters, but that's more likely a donor egg than a natural pregnancy and they just don't want to tell anyone.

FU Debbie Downer! I think that if OP's friend was honest with her about IVF and miscarriages, she would be honest about a donor egg. You're either jealous that you weren't able to get pregnant at an older age or jealous that you got pregnant at 22 and didn't get to party in your 20s and early 30s. I got pregnant within a month of going off birth control at 36, 39, and 43. Never had any fertility issues. Sorry to not fit your pathetic little narrative.

I work as a fertility RN.

Almost no-one shares about donor egg. They don't tell their parents, their best friends in the world, their sisters or even their conceived children.

Almost everyone shares about IVF when it's own-egg.
But donor egg is an entirely different story. It is kept very, very, very hushed up.

OP, I appreciate your excitement for your friend but I don't think it was appropriate for you to post on an infertility board unless you were personally there for the conception.
You really have no idea what happened even if you know every other detail of your friend's medical and fertility history.
There are thousands of donor eggs cycles that are performed in the DMV each year and I'd estimate that under 5% of these couples share this with ANYONE outside of each other and their providers.

I accidentally got to this forum and then only randomly clicked on a thread. This is absolutely nuts to me for some reason. I guess I have not known a lot of people who have had IVF but half transparency and then a brick wall seems inconsistent, especially with the way people frame “being open and honest” for the purposes of people being able to learn.

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Anonymous wrote:My former coworker just had her second at age 50. Healthy baby girl. It’s not for everyone but these children are obviously very wanted and loved!

I'm surprised this was possible. Wow. 50.

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My boss was told when she was a teenager that she was infertile. She's been with her DH since she was about 17 and they had never used contraception. She conceived her first, and only, child naturally when she was 43.

A nurse at work's DH was born when his mom was 50. She thought it was the menopause.

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Anonymous wrote:Eh I don't believe they are being honest with you. Not that it matters, but that's more likely a donor egg than a natural pregnancy and they just don't want to tell anyone.

+1. My grandmother had her last baby at 46, but she’d had a few kids by then. First baby naturally at 45? Possible but not probable.

It's all genetics, so who knows. A friend got married at 40 and proceeded to have three children between then and age 45. Fertile genes!

Right, but then her baby at 45 wasn't her first. I'm happy for OP's friend but remain doubtful it was done without intervention. I say this as someone who had both her kids in her 40s.

PP again. I guess my point is that even a really good friend may not know the whole story and posting it on a TTC forum as a success story is a bit disingenuous.

OP here. Wow, did not expect so much petty to leap out as a result of a benign, good news post. But to the PP.... I wasn't there at conception so yeah, I don't know 100%. But I'm as reasonably sure as can be that my friend has no cause to lie, so I believe her. Also, this entire board must cause you to reel in disbelief so frequently it must feel like an inner ear problem since most stuff on here can't be independently verified.

I don't understand the hate on here. Women have babies naturally at 45. Not everyone needs IVF to conceive later in life. There were women in my family who had babies in their late 40s before IVF was even around.

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Anonymous wrote:Eh I don't believe they are being honest with you. Not that it matters, but that's more likely a donor egg than a natural pregnancy and they just don't want to tell anyone.

+1. My grandmother had her last baby at 46, but she’d had a few kids by then. First baby naturally at 45? Possible but not probable.

It's all genetics, so who knows. A friend got married at 40 and proceeded to have three children between then and age 45. Fertile genes!

Right, but then her baby at 45 wasn't her first. I'm happy for OP's friend but remain doubtful it was done without intervention. I say this as someone who had both her kids in her 40s.

PP again. I guess my point is that even a really good friend may not know the whole story and posting it on a TTC forum as a success story is a bit disingenuous.

OP here. Wow, did not expect so much petty to leap out as a result of a benign, good news post. But to the PP.... I wasn't there at conception so yeah, I don't know 100%. But I'm as reasonably sure as can be that my friend has no cause to lie, so I believe her. Also, this entire board must cause you to reel in disbelief so frequently it must feel like an inner ear problem since most stuff on here can't be independently verified.

I don't understand the hate on here. Women have babies naturally at 45. Not everyone needs IVF to conceive later in life. There were women in my family who had babies in their late 40s before IVF was even around.

My grandmother had her first at 43 and second at 45 in the early 50s. Obviously, no IVF. Fertility is weird like that. My friend had one at 41, second at 43, third at 46, and a pregnancy scare at 50 (no intervention whatsoever for any). I had a few friends going through IVF in their 20s. Age is only one factor. I tend to think genetics dictate a lot.

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Anonymous wrote:Eh I don't believe they are being honest with you. Not that it matters, but that's more likely a donor egg than a natural pregnancy and they just don't want to tell anyone.

I had my second and last at 40. I'm 44 now and ovulation like clockwork every month. I think we are being fed lies; yes fertility declines over time but many women are very fertile well into their 40s.

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Anonymous wrote:Eh I don't believe they are being honest with you. Not that it matters, but that's more likely a donor egg than a natural pregnancy and they just don't want to tell anyone.

I had my second and last at 40. I'm 44 now and ovulation like clockwork every month. I think we are being fed lies; yes fertility declines over time but many women are very fertile well into their 40s.

I am 37 and ovulate like clockwork (verified by ultrasounds). I've also had 4 miscarriages in the last year trying for #3. #1 at 24 was an accident and #2 at 34 I didn't try for. So I disagree, regular periods are not a sign of fertility.

Certainly in this situation, someone with 0 children and trying for years doesn't just magically get pregnant at 45.

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Good luck and lots of energy to this family!