Would you ask your nanny to do this while kid is sick with covid?

[Anonymous]

*tests POSTIVE

[Anonymous]

You gave her a week off! Jesus! Now, you want her to come and work, what if she took for for Florida?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks, I guess, for some of these responses. But gosh you guys must have crappy relationships with your nannies based on the questions you're all posing and assumptions you're making. Will we pay her while our child is sick? Of course! Will we fire her if she says no? Of course not! And the assumption that she would be put off if we ask her to help for a couple hours each day because you think she's in vacation mode. I mean geez, we treat her well, she treats us well, we work together and communicate, she is paid well, she gets a lot of paid time off. I guess I assumed that was the case for others and thought I'd get some thoughtful responses based on similar family / nanny relationships.

You’re unbelievable. You misrepresented giving your nanny the week off when it turns out that you didn’t. Then you couldn’t understand why people would think of a paid week off as vacation. Now you’re defensive and insulting other people’s relationships with their nannies. The vast majority of people (if not everyone) would pay their nanny for this week, but they’d also be very clear about whether these were days off or days were the nanny does some work.

[Anonymous]

No I would not ask.

[Anonymous]

NP here. The answer is no. You could have asked about it at the beginning of the week. It would still make you a bad employer, as there is no way she wouldn't feel pressure. But doing it after you have already set her expectations is pure selfishness, no matter how many times you tell the responders to your question that it isn't. Clearly you will do whatever you want, but you should know you look like an inconsiderate shrew.

[Anonymous]

No, I would not ask our nanny to come in at all. I understand you’re stressed but you’re being unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have two kids, one contracted covid at school last week (became sick over the weekend) and has been isolating since. The other child per her school's rules must quarantine this week even though she's healthy and has tested negative. As soon as kid 1 tested positive we gave the nanny the week off. I'm juggling WFH, caring for sick kid (although just mildly sick), and managing well kid who is home and bored. Would you ask your nanny in this scenario to take the well kid to the playground for a couple hours if (1) well kid has a negative at-home covid test that same day, (2) well kid wears a kn95 mask and is generally good about keeping masks on properly, (3) family provides nanny with kn95 mask, (4) all people involved are fully vaccinated, (5) nanny is not asked to enter the house at all.

You can ask but If I were nanny, I would say no. Every body is vaccinated , yet one of your kids is positive for Covid and you think it is all right to take a chance with Nanny:s health

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks, I guess, for some of these responses. But gosh you guys must have crappy relationships with your nannies based on the questions you're all posing and assumptions you're making. Will we pay her while our child is sick? Of course! Will we fire her if she says no? Of course not! And the assumption that she would be put off if we ask her to help for a couple hours each day because you think she's in vacation mode. I mean geez, we treat her well, she treats us well, we work together and communicate, she is paid well, she gets a lot of paid time off. I guess I assumed that was the case for others and thought I'd get some thoughtful responses based on similar family / nanny relationships.

You are as full of it as a stuffed goose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks, I guess, for some of these responses. But gosh you guys must have crappy relationships with your nannies based on the questions you're all posing and assumptions you're making. Will we pay her while our child is sick? Of course! Will we fire her if she says no? Of course not! And the assumption that she would be put off if we ask her to help for a couple hours each day because you think she's in vacation mode. I mean geez, we treat her well, she treats us well, we work together and communicate, she is paid well, she gets a lot of paid time off. I guess I assumed that was the case for others and thought I'd get some thoughtful responses based on similar family / nanny relationships.

To me it sounds like you are very conscientious and have a good relationship with your nanny. I would not ask her to come in since you already gave her the week off . Earlier you said it’s “ just like any job”, and just like any other job doesn’t ask you to come in after they’ve already granted vacation time. And, this is a very different work dynamic where even if she doesn’t want to come in she may feel obligated to say yes, tell you everything is A-OK and put on but really be upset about having to be asked to come in.

[Anonymous]

Where is your partner in this scenario. You say "we" gave time off so I assume you have one.

How are you not able to avail yourself of paid sick leave if you have a child with covid? Why are you WFH instead of exercising your actual hard-fought right to take time off when a family member is ill?

[Anonymous]

No, OP, it’s not okay. You know that it’s not okay.

[Anonymous]

I'm confused why the 5 year is even home. Current guidance says that a fully vaccinated individual does not need to quarantine for exposure or even test. If no symptoms and a negative test, the 5 year old should be able to go to school.

[Anonymous]

No until the sick child tested negative.

[Anonymous]

Nanny here- Please expect to be looking for a new nanny, if your nanny accepts. She will do it, because clearly she has no choice, but if she’s a legal American nanny she will be looking soon after. Your only hope is if you pay under the table or have an undocumented nanny. It’s a nanny market right now, and you’re playing roulette.

[Anonymous]

Nanny again- How about you ask yourself if you’d be okay if your boss asked you to do the same. What is wrong with you?