Would you ask your nanny to do this while kid is sick with covid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are kids, and how would they get to playground?

I would answer differently for a 6 year old who can walk to the playground without an adult holding their hand and an 18 month old or a shared car ride.

It's just 1 kid, 5-years old and fully vaccinated. Walk to the playground.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s fine to ask, but I’d be sure the nanny knew that there would be no hard feelings or repercussions if she declines — especially because you already gave her the week off, so it’s like taking back vacation time.

OP here. Thanks for the feedback, but I do not think it's like taking vacation time back and I don't think she would see it that way. She still has all her vacation time at her disposal and will still get off when we vacation over the summer. My concern is that I don't want to ask her to do something that would make her uncomfortable from a health perspective.

Is she off this week with or without pay? If you gave her this week off with pay, you already turned it into vacation time.

OP here. She's being paid of course! Geez, do people really not pay their nannies if the child is sick? Our contract literally has no provision for unpaid time. She gets paid if she's sick, if we're sick, if we vacation, if she vacations. Just like any job.

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Anonymous wrote:No, kids need to stay home.

OP here. Per CDC guidelines the child does not need to stay home if the child is fully vaccinated which is the case.

I would tell you no if I were the nanny. The cdc is not the one taking care of the kid.

That's fine. If I asked her, it would be clear that "no" is an okay choice. But I wanted to see what other parents or caregivers thought of the idea.

[Anonymous]

I would not ask now that you already gave her a week off with pay. I would have a discussion with her about how you would like to handle this in the future when 1 child is sick and the other is not.

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Anonymous wrote:If you already gave her the week off, you shouldn’t ask.

I think people are reading that differently than what really happened. I told her the child was sick and that for the time being she should be off to protect herself. We've been in touch daily and she's been helping with errands. But she's not coming to the home of course because of the sick child. It's not like I literally told her she got an extra week of vacation.

You’re the one who said you gave the nanny the week off! Apparently, you didn’t, so go ahead and ask — but because you think she may be concerned about covid exposure, my advice still stands: make it clear that she’s free to say no without impact on her employment.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not ask now that you already gave her a week off with pay. I would have a discussion with her about how you would like to handle this in the future when 1 child is sick and the other is not.

Sure, the complicating factor is that it's covid. If child 1 were sick with anything else, child 2 would still be in school and nanny would be caring for child 2 as normal since that child is not sick.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are kids, and how would they get to playground?

I would answer differently for a 6 year old who can walk to the playground without an adult holding their hand and an 18 month old or a shared car ride.

It's just 1 kid, 5-years old and fully vaccinated. Walk to the playground.

I said what I said. The answer is no.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are kids, and how would they get to playground?

I would answer differently for a 6 year old who can walk to the playground without an adult holding their hand and an 18 month old or a shared car ride.

It's just 1 kid, 5-years old and fully vaccinated. Walk to the playground.

I said what I said. The answer is no.

OP here. Um, I wrote that in response to a poster who literally asked how old is the child and how will they get to the playground.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are kids, and how would they get to playground?

I would answer differently for a 6 year old who can walk to the playground without an adult holding their hand and an 18 month old or a shared car ride.

It's just 1 kid, 5-years old and fully vaccinated. Walk to the playground.

I said what I said. The answer is no.

OP here. Um, I wrote that in response to a poster who literally asked how old is the child and how will they get to the playground.

Did they ask or did they literally ask?

[Anonymous]

Suck it up, OP. They're YOUR kids. You chose to have them. You can make this work for a week.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks, I guess, for some of these responses. But gosh you guys must have crappy relationships with your nannies based on the questions you're all posing and assumptions you're making. Will we pay her while our child is sick? Of course! Will we fire her if she says no? Of course not! And the assumption that she would be put off if we ask her to help for a couple hours each day because you think she's in vacation mode. I mean geez, we treat her well, she treats us well, we work together and communicate, she is paid well, she gets a lot of paid time off. I guess I assumed that was the case for others and thought I'd get some thoughtful responses based on similar family / nanny relationships.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not ask now that you already gave her a week off with pay. I would have a discussion with her about how you would like to handle this in the future when 1 child is sick and the other is not.

Sure, the complicating factor is that it's covid. If child 1 were sick with anything else, child 2 would still be in school and nanny would be caring for child 2 as normal since that child is not sick.

Presumably in the future we will treat things like seasonal flu and norovirus like Covid. If one kid has a cold, I send the other child to school if they don’t have symptoms. However if one of my kids is throwing up or has the flu, I keep them both home. Puking kids is my least favorite part of parenting and I try to make sure we don’t inflict it on other households.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks, I guess, for some of these responses. But gosh you guys must have crappy relationships with your nannies based on the questions you're all posing and assumptions you're making. Will we pay her while our child is sick? Of course! Will we fire her if she says no? Of course not! And the assumption that she would be put off if we ask her to help for a couple hours each day because you think she's in vacation mode. I mean geez, we treat her well, she treats us well, we work together and communicate, she is paid well, she gets a lot of paid time off. I guess I assumed that was the case for others and thought I'd get some thoughtful responses based on similar family / nanny relationships.

Having a good relationship with your nanny is so important. I would not ask her to do this.

[Anonymous]

NP. I am not sure why you posted this question since it seems like the only answer you will accept is that it’s fine to ask her.

Side note, the negative at-home test is worthless because at-home rapids do a very poor job of detecting omicron variants, especially BA.2

[Anonymous]

One piece to consider: the reason the 5 year old is asked to remain at home is she can still convert to positive as a household close contact and the school does not want to spread to others in the school. In this same way- she could infect your nanny. If your nanny tests negative- you are without her for a stretch coming up. Just something to consider.