In search of stylish, but modest, clothing for 12 year old girl

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Anonymous wrote:I think one point is that a lot of girls don’t want to dress this way and yet are being forced into it by the lack of choice in the fashion industry. My kid definitely is not searching out ultra short shorts and would really prefer to avoid ripped stuff as the shredded threads are actually really irritated/uncomfortable. OP is asking for options, which is fine. I agree we shouldn’t have to go to 8 stores to find the one t shirt at each that is NOT cropped. We found one at GAp and my kid was saying t me that she wished it came in more colors.

Stop, you can find t-shirts anywhere in a range or styles and prices. Sure crop tops are a popular fashion item right now, but its definitely not the only thing. Teen dressing is about mixing and matching things into your own personal style. Which means unless you’re in a department store, its going to take more effort, especially since the kid is now weighing in their opinion more.

Gap, Old Navy, Macy’s, Polo, Aéropostale, Aerie, Target, Vineyard Vines, Lands End, Nike, Francescàs, Nordstrom, Amazon.

[Anonymous]

My DD is 11 and very petite.

She actually has voiced a preference for more modest clothing! She won’t even skinny strap tanks!

I notice her and her peers wearing a lot of athleisure. Legging, sweatpants, bike shorts (summer).

We have had a lot of success with basics at Uniqlo. My daughter likes the tees, sweatshirts, leggings, active wear.

She also does alot of Old Navy. I don’t think the clothing is very high quality, but it is one of the few places with all the sizes in stock so you can actually try on clothes!

[Anonymous]

Primary has some items up to size 16 - simple, basic styles in bright colors and stripes.

[Anonymous]

For solid leggings and tees, Primary. I like how the leggings cover up more of the bum, no crack showing. Lands End is good too, when they have sales. Most kids don't really care where their solid colored things come from.

I also like Crewcuts, Patagonia, Columbia, and Puma. Target and often the random Midwestern stores like Dillards and Herbergers are pretty good, courtesy of Grandma.

[Anonymous]

What does your daughter want to wear?

[Anonymous]

I ask my kid which friends have a good style, then I observe and buy similar things. Never the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For solid leggings and tees, Primary. I like how the leggings cover up more of the bum, no crack showing. Lands End is good too, when they have sales. Most kids don't really care where their solid colored things come from.

I also like Crewcuts, Patagonia, Columbia, and Puma. Target and often the random Midwestern stores like Dillards and Herbergers are pretty good, courtesy of Grandma.

For a 12 year old? Does primary even fit kids that tall?! My 13 year old is taller than me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter loves Hollister and American Eagle and we’ve been able to find a few things there, but I really miss the days of Tea collection dresses and Hannah Andersson! The stores seem to be full of distressed jeans, super short shorts and crop tops. Am I the only one who would rather her daughter not show so much skin? Where can we find cute, stylish clothes that are a little more modest?

Stop being ridiculous. They are in middle school, not elementary school. Every decade has clothes parents are scared of and every decade teens still wear them. The fact that you are judging your own child based on her clothing choices is the saddest part in all of this. Baggy distressed high waisted mom jeans with a baggy crop top is probably more innocent than anything you wore in middle school.

Some families attend events (like church for example) where crop tops are not acceptable. I clicked on this thread also looking for modest clothing sources. My daughter has her share of crop tops, but she still needs more modest nice clothing (and not athletic wear)

[Anonymous]

All the Scandinavian-type stuff is pretty boxy and therefore modest. H&M, Uniqlo etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am of the mindset that you should let them show off their flat stomachs while they still can!

This post is so weird. Sounds a bit like a troll who wants teen girls to show off their stomachs for gross reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think one point is that a lot of girls don’t want to dress this way and yet are being forced into it by the lack of choice in the fashion industry. My kid definitely is not searching out ultra short shorts and would really prefer to avoid ripped stuff as the shredded threads are actually really irritated/uncomfortable. OP is asking for options, which is fine. I agree we shouldn’t have to go to 8 stores to find the one t shirt at each that is NOT cropped. We found one at GAp and my kid was saying t me that she wished it came in more colors.

Give me a break. LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter loves Hollister and American Eagle and we’ve been able to find a few things there, but I really miss the days of Tea collection dresses and Hannah Andersson! The stores seem to be full of distressed jeans, super short shorts and crop tops. Am I the only one who would rather her daughter not show so much skin? Where can we find cute, stylish clothes that are a little more modest?

Stop being ridiculous. They are in middle school, not elementary school. Every decade has clothes parents are scared of and every decade teens still wear them. The fact that you are judging your own child based on her clothing choices is the saddest part in all of this. Baggy distressed high waisted mom jeans with a baggy crop top is probably more innocent than anything you wore in middle school.

Some families attend events (like church for example) where crop tops are not acceptable. I clicked on this thread also looking for modest clothing sources. My daughter has her share of crop tops, but she still needs more modest nice clothing (and not athletic wear)

Just look online or go to a mall. How about TJ Maxx, Marshals, Ross, etc... Honestly, really not that hard. How clueless can moms and 12yr olds be.

[Anonymous]

StitchFix kids has been pretty good for cute, normal kinds of clothes. They go up to kids girls XL (14-16). I’m slightly dreading the moment when my daughter sizes out and into adult sizes there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am of the mindset that you should let them show off their flat stomachs while they still can!

This post is so weird. Sounds a bit like a troll who wants teen girls to show off their stomachs for gross reasons.

+1 🤮