Do these dorm rules sound overly onerous to you or is it just me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s just a couple of them. The actual list is several pages long.

-A guest is only permitted to stay overnight 2 nights in a 7-day period in any university owned property (including all apartments, affiliated, and traditional residence halls).
- Short term guests may visit from 12:00pm-12:00am. An overnight guest is any person remaining in a room/suite/apartment where they do not reside between 12:00am-12:00pm.
-Any guest in a residence hall between the hours of 8:00pm and 4:00am must be signed into that hall by the building resident who they intend to visit. Guests who enter prior to 8:00pm should be brought down to the security desk to be signed in.
-When the guest leaves, the host needs to accompany the guest to sign out of the building. Failure to adhere to sign-in/sign-out policies will result in loss of guest privileges.

Short answer to your question:
It’s just you.

[Anonymous]

My dorm mate had her boyfriend spend the night 5-6 times a week. Her mother called her every morning at 7:30 I suppose to check in on her to make sure she was in her dorm and not spending the night at her boyfriends. It was awful and I should have spoken up sooner but I was a shy, naive 18 year old. It took me months to complain to the RA.

[Anonymous]

We has similar rules at my college in the early 90s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are your issues with the rules?

Nanny state

Maybe a commuter college is a better fit then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dorm mate had her boyfriend spend the night 5-6 times a week. Her mother called her every morning at 7:30 I suppose to check in on her to make sure she was in her dorm and not spending the night at her boyfriends. It was awful and I should have spoken up sooner but I was a shy, naive 18 year old. It took me months to complain to the RA.

My two roommates each had their boyfriends practically move in to our university-owned sorority apartment in the late 1980s. Absolutely terrible situation to endure. I ended up getting housing management involved but the roommates and boyfriends were beyond angry with me and it made for an awful sophomore year. Housing discovered the one roommate was only taking one class and therefore was ineligible to remain in the apartment. So much for a fun sporty experience. I should have resigned the sorority and had the university help me find another place but like PP, I was an insecure and nervous teenager.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s just a couple of them. The actual list is several pages long.

-A guest is only permitted to stay overnight 2 nights in a 7-day period in any university owned property (including all apartments, affiliated, and traditional residence halls).
- Short term guests may visit from 12:00pm-12:00am. An overnight guest is any person remaining in a room/suite/apartment where they do not reside between 12:00am-12:00pm.
-Any guest in a residence hall between the hours of 8:00pm and 4:00am must be signed into that hall by the building resident who they intend to visit. Guests who enter prior to 8:00pm should be brought down to the security desk to be signed in.
-When the guest leaves, the host needs to accompany the guest to sign out of the building. Failure to adhere to sign-in/sign-out policies will result in loss of guest privileges.

This is all normal. What do you think is a problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a PP said, it is not the 1990s anymore.

We had those rules in the 90's. They want to prevent someone from moving in without paying and for security. How is it unreaosnable?

+1 Same rules for my dorm in the 90s. Seems totally reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Some schools have had strict rules during Covid - just one parent can help with move in, only residents allowed in the dorm, no guests at all anytime etc. So this sounds pretty good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are your issues with the rules?

Nanny state

Ohhhh, you’re one of THOSE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They seem reasonable enough, but I’m going to guess they are window dressing and no college students follow them nor does the school want to spend energy and staff time enforcing them

Probably. But it does allow them to enforce it when it becomes a problem. If a student is having issues with a roommate whose boyfriend has basically moved into their room, they can quietly complain and the RA can suddenly decide to enforce the rules. It’s like the “No alcohol on the beach” rule. Not generally enforced, but it gives them an excuse to eject people who are making trouble.