Do these dorm rules sound overly onerous to you or is it just me?

[Anonymous]

Here’s just a couple of them. The actual list is several pages long.

-A guest is only permitted to stay overnight 2 nights in a 7-day period in any university owned property (including all apartments, affiliated, and traditional residence halls).
- Short term guests may visit from 12:00pm-12:00am. An overnight guest is any person remaining in a room/suite/apartment where they do not reside between 12:00am-12:00pm.
-Any guest in a residence hall between the hours of 8:00pm and 4:00am must be signed into that hall by the building resident who they intend to visit. Guests who enter prior to 8:00pm should be brought down to the security desk to be signed in.
-When the guest leaves, the host needs to accompany the guest to sign out of the building. Failure to adhere to sign-in/sign-out policies will result in loss of guest privileges.

[Anonymous]

It sounds reasonable.
It's not the 1990s anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s just a couple of them. The actual list is several pages long.

-A guest is only permitted to stay overnight 2 nights in a 7-day period in any university owned property (including all apartments, affiliated, and traditional residence halls).
- Short term guests may visit from 12:00pm-12:00am. An overnight guest is any person remaining in a room/suite/apartment where they do not reside between 12:00am-12:00pm.
-Any guest in a residence hall between the hours of 8:00pm and 4:00am must be signed into that hall by the building resident who they intend to visit. Guests who enter prior to 8:00pm should be brought down to the security desk to be signed in.
-When the guest leaves, the host needs to accompany the guest to sign out of the building. Failure to adhere to sign-in/sign-out policies will result in loss of guest privileges.

These are all fine. This is to prevent my guest from wandering from my room at 3am and going into some random person's room and raping them or stealing from them. It's also a fire safety (or active shooter) issue - this way they can account for everyone. The first rule is so a roommate doesn't get fed up with their roommate's boyfriend/girlfriend basically moving in and staying overnight 3, 4, etc. nights in a row.

[Anonymous]

As a PP said, it is not the 1990s anymore.

[Anonymous]

They seem reasonable enough, but I’m going to guess they are window dressing and no college students follow them nor does the school want to spend energy and staff time enforcing them

[Anonymous]

Totally reasonable, if not downright lax.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They seem reasonable enough, but I’m going to guess they are window dressing and no college students follow them nor does the school want to spend energy and staff time enforcing them

Campus police are authorized to enforce it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s just a couple of them. The actual list is several pages long.

-A guest is only permitted to stay overnight 2 nights in a 7-day period in any university owned property (including all apartments, affiliated, and traditional residence halls).
- Short term guests may visit from 12:00pm-12:00am. An overnight guest is any person remaining in a room/suite/apartment where they do not reside between 12:00am-12:00pm.
-Any guest in a residence hall between the hours of 8:00pm and 4:00am must be signed into that hall by the building resident who they intend to visit. Guests who enter prior to 8:00pm should be brought down to the security desk to be signed in.
-When the guest leaves, the host needs to accompany the guest to sign out of the building. Failure to adhere to sign-in/sign-out policies will result in loss of guest privileges.

These are all fine. This is to prevent my guest from wandering from my room at 3am and going into some random person's room and raping them or stealing from them. It's also a fire safety (or active shooter) issue - this way they can account for everyone. The first rule is so a roommate doesn't get fed up with their roommate's boyfriend/girlfriend basically moving in and staying overnight 3, 4, etc. nights in a row.

+1

[Anonymous]

Guess you missed the story of the father who moved into a college dorm and manipulated a suite of girls for years while turning them into sex workers?

The rules are there to keep people not paying to attending the schools and live in the dorms OUT of the dorms. You don't like it? Move your kid off campus so they can't a rotating group of guests.

https://www.thecut.com/2022/04/larry-ray-sarah-lawrence-students.html

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/04/06/nyregion/sarah-lawrence-cult-lawrence-ray-trial.html


For a decade, Lawrence V. Ray exerted near-total control over a group of young people he met after moving into a dormitory at Sarah Lawrence College, prosecutors said. He presented himself as a mentor, isolating students from their parents, pressuring them into degrading acts and extorting hundreds of thousands of dollars from them.

Some remained loyal, even after a story in New York magazine in 2019 detailed a host of abuses ascribed to Mr. Ray. But during a nearly monthlong trial in Federal District Court in Manhattan, four former followers provided detailed testimony about how he indoctrinated and exploited them.

On Wednesday, three of those witnesses watched from the gallery as the jury forewoman announced that Mr. Ray had been found guilty of all 15 federal counts, including extortion, sex trafficking and racketeering conspiracy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a PP said, it is not the 1990s anymore.

What does this mean?

[Anonymous]

I think that’s super reasonable. It somewhat avoids having your roomie move in their bf or gf every night, though they can just enter before 8pm.

[Anonymous]

Is this typical?

[Anonymous]

These are pretty standard dorm rules. It's not a free-for-all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that’s super reasonable. It somewhat avoids having your roomie move in their bf or gf every night, though they can just enter before 8pm.

Well they may lose their guest privileges if they do that! It’s all strange to me. But like most everyone else, I went to college in the 90s. My roommate had her boyfriend over every other weekend, but I paid her back plenty!

[Anonymous]

This was my DS’ recent form experience. I loved it. I’ve heard too many stories over the years of a roommate having an opposite sex person spending the night all the time in the room so they could have sex. I made it very uncomfortable for the person who is actually paying to live there. And after that incident at Sarah Lawrence it ensures people aren’t staying too long who don’t belong there.