Drank wine, downed cocktails, had a massage...didn't know I was pregnant. Uh oh.

[Anonymous]

If if makes you feel any better, my pregnancy was unplanned and I was a carefree single girl, so I got pretty loaded two weekends in a row right before I found out I was 3 weeks pregnant. My daughter was totally fine, but I admit, when she's acting up, I sometimes wonder if the drinking made her sillier than she would have been otherwise!

Massage is ok that early, I think. Later on, there'd be issues with positioning so you weren't lying flat on your back, but that's not an issue until you're much farther along.

[Anonymous]

I don't have any drinking and partying stories but I can tell you how I didn't know until I was 8 weeks: told by two RE's we would never conceive. AMA plus bad sperm. About to start IVF but still kept TTC. Decided I was late b/c I was so stressed. Refused to take PG test ("how many times must I be disappointed?") and finally went to my GYN b/c my period was late and I needed to start IVF as soon as that happened. Surprise. The best surprise ever, but still.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i have never found anything that explains why a massage is a "no no" (god I HATE that phrase -- what, are we 6?). My OB said he saw no reason not to get them, either. I think massage therapists simply want to protect themselves since miscarriages are more common early on, so they don't want someone to have a massage, coincidentally have a miscarriage, and then blame it on the massage. Google it more before you worry about the massage. FWIW, I had them all the way through pregnancy, including first trimester and was completely fine.

Yep, I had two massage therapists tell me that -- it's a liability thing, since miscarriages are most common in the first trimester, they won't do massages then so that you can't coincidentally have a miscarriage the next day, blame the massage, and then sue them. But there's little or no evidence that massage actually causes first trimester miscarriage.