options when baby grows out of bassinet but must stay in parents room

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I put the crib in my room. I never bothered with a bassinet.

This is what we did. The crib was right next to our bed.

[Anonymous]

DD1 and DD 2 were in pack and play until a year and then moved to their own cribs. DD3 we bought a crib and put that in our room (different house and bigger bedroom for us). DD2 was always a teeny thing and slept fine. I think DD3 slept better in her crib than she would have in the pack and play.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hello,

FTM here. After much thinking I gave in and got a bassinet. Once the baby grows out of the bassinet, then what? Do most people keep the crib in their bedroom for the first year or do they transition to something else before the crib? I've read you need to keep baby in bedroom 6 months to a year. I'm considering putting the crib up in the bedroom but it's big. What did everyone else do?

I have three children and all three slept in a crib in a separate room from day one. All three are grown and never had a problem. Ridiculous to keep child in room with you.

The reason I know you are full of it is that everyone else on the thread is like "this is what I did and it worked" and you're like "this is what I did and everyone who does anything else is an idiot." It makes your advice untrustworthy. Can you see that?

To the second poster, thank you for your response. It's unfortunate that some moms rather use put downs and don't understand that there are so many different ways to parent and each one does what works for them.

[Anonymous]

We used a mini crib (alpha mini rocker) for both kids. With first we were in a studio and with second we didn’t want the baby in with our old child (didn’t want the baby waking her up). It wasn’t very expensive and they stayed in it until past age two and then transitioned to a bed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

FTM here. After much thinking I gave in and got a bassinet. Once the baby grows out of the bassinet, then what? Do most people keep the crib in their bedroom for the first year or do they transition to something else before the crib? I've read you need to keep baby in bedroom 6 months to a year. I'm considering putting the crib up in the bedroom but it's big. What did everyone else do?

I have three children and all three slept in a crib in a separate room from day one. All three are grown and never had a problem. Ridiculous to keep child in room with you.

I know this is generational bc my MIL did this, but this makes no sense to me. The thought of bringing my newborn home and then putting them in a separate room all night is just so wrong to me on a cellular level.

Cool. I needed sleep to not be suicidal. We all parent differently.

It seems like you must have had someone else caring for the newborn at nighttime, bc getting out of bed and walking to another room every couple of hours sounds much more excruciating then feeding/changing the baby from your room.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

FTM here. After much thinking I gave in and got a bassinet. Once the baby grows out of the bassinet, then what? Do most people keep the crib in their bedroom for the first year or do they transition to something else before the crib? I've read you need to keep baby in bedroom 6 months to a year. I'm considering putting the crib up in the bedroom but it's big. What did everyone else do?

I have three children and all three slept in a crib in a separate room from day one. All three are grown and never had a problem. Ridiculous to keep child in room with you.

I know this is generational bc my MIL did this, but this makes no sense to me. The thought of bringing my newborn home and then putting them in a separate room all night is just so wrong to me on a cellular level.

Cool. I needed sleep to not be suicidal. We all parent differently.

+1 how do you sleep more with a newborn not in the room? I get it for an older infant, but I’ve had 3 newborns and this makes no sense to me. Every 2-3 hrs, you have to be jangled awake by crying (bc they’re further away and it takes longer to hear them), rush to their room bf the insane wailing starts, feed etc then put them back down in a crib alone in a room they don’t want to be alone in, then go back to your own room and try to clear the adrenaline so you can get an hour of sleep bf they are hungry again.

It seems like you must have had someone else caring for the newborn at nighttime, bc getting out of bed and walking to another room every couple of hours sounds much more excruciating then feeding/changing the baby from your room.

[Anonymous]

My baby always slept in his crib in his room 1-he was a loud sleeper and we got less sleep with him there and 2-having a separate room let 1 parent sleep while the parent getting up dealt with the baby. Baby's room was so close we did not even use a monitor.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

FTM here. After much thinking I gave in and got a bassinet. Once the baby grows out of the bassinet, then what? Do most people keep the crib in their bedroom for the first year or do they transition to something else before the crib? I've read you need to keep baby in bedroom 6 months to a year. I'm considering putting the crib up in the bedroom but it's big. What did everyone else do?

I have three children and all three slept in a crib in a separate room from day one. All three are grown and never had a problem. Ridiculous to keep child in room with you.

I know this is generational bc my MIL did this, but this makes no sense to me. The thought of bringing my newborn home and then putting them in a separate room all night is just so wrong to me on a cellular level.

Cool. I needed sleep to not be suicidal. We all parent differently.

+1 how do you sleep more with a newborn not in the room? I get it for an older infant, but I’ve had 3 newborns and this makes no sense to me. Every 2-3 hrs, you have to be jangled awake by crying (bc they’re further away and it takes longer to hear them), rush to their room bf the insane wailing starts, feed etc then put them back down in a crib alone in a room they don’t want to be alone in, then go back to your own room and try to clear the adrenaline so you can get an hour of sleep bf they are hungry again.

It seems like you must have had someone else caring for the newborn at nighttime, bc getting out of bed and walking to another room every couple of hours sounds much more excruciating then feeding/changing the baby from your room.

I guess it depends on your home. Baby's room is less than 10 steps down the hall. We hear his first cry. Baby does not know any different then being in his own room so no extra issue getting him down. No transition down the road to get him in a crib in his own room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

FTM here. After much thinking I gave in and got a bassinet. Once the baby grows out of the bassinet, then what? Do most people keep the crib in their bedroom for the first year or do they transition to something else before the crib? I've read you need to keep baby in bedroom 6 months to a year. I'm considering putting the crib up in the bedroom but it's big. What did everyone else do?

I have three children and all three slept in a crib in a separate room from day one. All three are grown and never had a problem. Ridiculous to keep child in room with you.

I know this is generational bc my MIL did this, but this makes no sense to me. The thought of bringing my newborn home and then putting them in a separate room all night is just so wrong to me on a cellular level.

Cool. I needed sleep to not be suicidal. We all parent differently.

It seems like you must have had someone else caring for the newborn at nighttime, bc getting out of bed and walking to another room every couple of hours sounds much more excruciating then feeding/changing the baby from your room.

Everybody is different. I actually had the baby in a bassinet by my bed but carried her across the hall to the nursery to change and feed. Trying to do that in my dark room with my sleeping partner and dog sounded “excruciating.” Then I would swaddle her and bring her back.

I agree that all the SIDS stuff is kind of blunt hammer style. They don’t have a good way of sorting out who is high risk so we all get the same blanket recommendations and those are often at odds with good sleep. But it has worked really well to reduce SIDS. Which is a very small risk no matter what, whereas everybody needs to sleep and it’s REALLY IMPORTANT but probably won’t kill you, at least not directly. So it’s tough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

FTM here. After much thinking I gave in and got a bassinet. Once the baby grows out of the bassinet, then what? Do most people keep the crib in their bedroom for the first year or do they transition to something else before the crib? I've read you need to keep baby in bedroom 6 months to a year. I'm considering putting the crib up in the bedroom but it's big. What did everyone else do?

I have three children and all three slept in a crib in a separate room from day one. All three are grown and never had a problem. Ridiculous to keep child in room with you.

The reason I know you are full of it is that everyone else on the thread is like "this is what I did and it worked" and you're like "this is what I did and everyone who does anything else is an idiot." It makes your advice untrustworthy. Can you see that?

Lol Agreed- also keeping the baby in your room is the recommendation- its not ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

My 2 year old is in our room because we live in a 3 bedroom and she still wakes up. We don't want her to wake up her sisters that both have school. She is in a pack n play because it's smaller then a full size crib but if we had more room would have gone that route. Eventually, she will transition to elder siblings room. I feel like this setup has maximized rest for our dual working parent family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 2 year old is in our room because we live in a 3 bedroom and she still wakes up. We don't want her to wake up her sisters that both have school. She is in a pack n play because it's smaller then a full size crib but if we had more room would have gone that route. Eventually, she will transition to elder siblings room. I feel like this setup has maximized rest for our dual working parent family.

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Everyone has different sleep needs and preferences and tolerances. I loved having my baby in our room with us. It was more convenient for nighttime feeds in the early months, and later I just found it cozy to have us all in the same room together. But I could never sleep with our toddler in the same room -- she is a noisy sleeper who moves around a ton and when we do it occasionally on vacation, I get awful sleep. But that doesn't mean NO ONE should sleep with their toddler, nor does it mean everyone should keep their baby in their room. It means that people should make choices based on what makes sense for them, taking into account everyone's sleep needs, sleep safety, etc. It's a very individual choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

FTM here. After much thinking I gave in and got a bassinet. Once the baby grows out of the bassinet, then what? Do most people keep the crib in their bedroom for the first year or do they transition to something else before the crib? I've read you need to keep baby in bedroom 6 months to a year. I'm considering putting the crib up in the bedroom but it's big. What did everyone else do?

I have three children and all three slept in a crib in a separate room from day one. All three are grown and never had a problem. Ridiculous to keep child in room with you.

I know this is generational bc my MIL did this, but this makes no sense to me. The thought of bringing my newborn home and then putting them in a separate room all night is just so wrong to me on a cellular level.

Cool. I needed sleep to not be suicidal. We all parent differently.

It seems like you must have had someone else caring for the newborn at nighttime, bc getting out of bed and walking to another room every couple of hours sounds much more excruciating then feeding/changing the baby from your room.

Everybody is different. I actually had the baby in a bassinet by my bed but carried her across the hall to the nursery to change and feed. Trying to do that in my dark room with my sleeping partner and dog sounded “excruciating.” Then I would swaddle her and bring her back.

I agree that all the SIDS stuff is kind of blunt hammer style. They don’t have a good way of sorting out who is high risk so we all get the same blanket recommendations and those are often at odds with good sleep. But it has worked really well to reduce SIDS. Which is a very small risk no matter what, whereas everybody needs to sleep and it’s REALLY IMPORTANT but probably won’t kill you, at least not directly. So it’s tough.

I have the baby sleep in my room and take her out to feed and change. I can turn on the light and at least my husband can sleep thru it. If I feed and changed in my room, I would wake up my husband. Same reason he stays outside our room when he is rocking the baby to sleep. It maximizes sleep for both parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

FTM here. After much thinking I gave in and got a bassinet. Once the baby grows out of the bassinet, then what? Do most people keep the crib in their bedroom for the first year or do they transition to something else before the crib? I've read you need to keep baby in bedroom 6 months to a year. I'm considering putting the crib up in the bedroom but it's big. What did everyone else do?

I have three children and all three slept in a crib in a separate room from day one. All three are grown and never had a problem. Ridiculous to keep child in room with you.

I know this is generational bc my MIL did this, but this makes no sense to me. The thought of bringing my newborn home and then putting them in a separate room all night is just so wrong to me on a cellular level.

Cool. I needed sleep to not be suicidal. We all parent differently.

It seems like you must have had someone else caring for the newborn at nighttime, bc getting out of bed and walking to another room every couple of hours sounds much more excruciating then feeding/changing the baby from your room.

When the baby was right next to me I woke up with every squeak and hiccup. When the baby was in the nursery I had the monitor set to a low volume and was woken up for actual cries. This is not unusual.

[Anonymous]

I put an ikea crib in our room (ikea specifically because they are much lower profile/take up less space than a lot of other cribs).