options when baby grows out of bassinet but must stay in parents room

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I put the crib in my room. I never bothered with a bassinet.

Same

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

FTM here. After much thinking I gave in and got a bassinet. Once the baby grows out of the bassinet, then what? Do most people keep the crib in their bedroom for the first year or do they transition to something else before the crib? I've read you need to keep baby in bedroom 6 months to a year. I'm considering putting the crib up in the bedroom but it's big. What did everyone else do?

I have three children and all three slept in a crib in a separate room from day one. All three are grown and never had a problem. Ridiculous to keep child in room with you.

The reason I know you are full of it is that everyone else on the thread is like "this is what I did and it worked" and you're like "this is what I did and everyone who does anything else is an idiot." It makes your advice untrustworthy. Can you see that?

I see that you are a moron.

[Anonymous]

That 1 year in your room thing is the only official recommendation that I fully rejected. We moved her to her crib across the hall at 3 mo ish and we all sleep better. I have a monitor and I can hear her anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why does the baby have to stay in your room? Serious question. If out of necessity I would prob get a small crib like from ikea. If it’s just because you read it in a book, then put the baby in its own room in the crib you have already. There is no reason the baby” needs” to stay in your room. You do what works for your family.

It's a CDC suggestion to reduce risk of SIDS. HOWEVER, this is meant for people who are drinking, on drugs etc and might not be attentive to the cries of their baby. Like many of the CDC recommendations, it's meant for the worst possible situation but presented as a blanket recommendation because it's not like they can say "hey poor people, this only applies to you".

If you are a responsible parent there is no need to have your baby in the room with you, unless you prefer that for convenience.

This isn’t quite right because SIDS is silent. I think maybe it’s because being in the same room keeps the baby from spending as much time in very deep sleep. But either way we didn’t do it. I felt good about rolling and head control though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

FTM here. After much thinking I gave in and got a bassinet. Once the baby grows out of the bassinet, then what? Do most people keep the crib in their bedroom for the first year or do they transition to something else before the crib? I've read you need to keep baby in bedroom 6 months to a year. I'm considering putting the crib up in the bedroom but it's big. What did everyone else do?

I have three children and all three slept in a crib in a separate room from day one. All three are grown and never had a problem. Ridiculous to keep child in room with you.

I know this is generational bc my MIL did this, but this makes no sense to me. The thought of bringing my newborn home and then putting them in a separate room all night is just so wrong to me on a cellular level.

[Anonymous]

You can do a mini crib or a pack n play.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

FTM here. After much thinking I gave in and got a bassinet. Once the baby grows out of the bassinet, then what? Do most people keep the crib in their bedroom for the first year or do they transition to something else before the crib? I've read you need to keep baby in bedroom 6 months to a year. I'm considering putting the crib up in the bedroom but it's big. What did everyone else do?

I have three children and all three slept in a crib in a separate room from day one. All three are grown and never had a problem. Ridiculous to keep child in room with you.

I know this is generational bc my MIL did this, but this makes no sense to me. The thought of bringing my newborn home and then putting them in a separate room all night is just so wrong to me on a cellular level.

Cool. I needed sleep to not be suicidal. We all parent differently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why does the baby have to stay in your room? Serious question. If out of necessity I would prob get a small crib like from ikea. If it’s just because you read it in a book, then put the baby in its own room in the crib you have already. There is no reason the baby” needs” to stay in your room. You do what works for your family.

It's a CDC suggestion to reduce risk of SIDS. HOWEVER, this is meant for people who are drinking, on drugs etc and might not be attentive to the cries of their baby. Like many of the CDC recommendations, it's meant for the worst possible situation but presented as a blanket recommendation because it's not like they can say "hey poor people, this only applies to you".

If you are a responsible parent there is no need to have your baby in the room with you, unless you prefer that for convenience.

Incidentally, I have this same impression on cosleeping advice. Research shows that non-obese moms who don’t smoke or drink, who breastfeed exclusively, and whose infants are full term and a healthy weight are pretty safe to cosleep. Of course, when you look at statistics, that basically means only thin white educated moms can cosleep safely. It’s a bad look for the CDC.

[Anonymous]

Mini crib or pack and play.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why does the baby have to stay in your room? Serious question. If out of necessity I would prob get a small crib like from ikea. If it’s just because you read it in a book, then put the baby in its own room in the crib you have already. There is no reason the baby” needs” to stay in your room. You do what works for your family.

It's a CDC suggestion to reduce risk of SIDS. HOWEVER, this is meant for people who are drinking, on drugs etc and might not be attentive to the cries of their baby. Like many of the CDC recommendations, it's meant for the worst possible situation but presented as a blanket recommendation because it's not like they can say "hey poor people, this only applies to you".

If you are a responsible parent there is no need to have your baby in the room with you, unless you prefer that for convenience.

Incidentally, I have this same impression on cosleeping advice. Research shows that non-obese moms who don’t smoke or drink, who breastfeed exclusively, and whose infants are full term and a healthy weight are pretty safe to cosleep. Of course, when you look at statistics, that basically means only thin white educated moms can cosleep safely. It’s a bad look for the CDC.

Bingo.

[Anonymous]

We moved him into his crib in his own room at 5 months.

[Anonymous]

We moved baby to crib in the nursery at 4.5 months, and sleep trained shortly thereafter. I am pretty obsessive about safe sleep and did not find research to substantiate any notable safety increase for the baby rooming in for one year. Although I know some people do keep baby in their room for one year, I do not think it is the norm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

FTM here. After much thinking I gave in and got a bassinet. Once the baby grows out of the bassinet, then what? Do most people keep the crib in their bedroom for the first year or do they transition to something else before the crib? I've read you need to keep baby in bedroom 6 months to a year. I'm considering putting the crib up in the bedroom but it's big. What did everyone else do?

I have three children and all three slept in a crib in a separate room from day one. All three are grown and never had a problem. Ridiculous to keep child in room with you.

The reason I know you are full of it is that everyone else on the thread is like "this is what I did and it worked" and you're like "this is what I did and everyone who does anything else is an idiot." It makes your advice untrustworthy. Can you see that?

Maybe they phrased it kind of bluntly, but I totally agree with the OP
and did the same with my own children, who are
also now happy, smart, functioning teens. Also, EBF both for the first year. I like to read in bed before I go to sleep, having a kid asleep
I’m the room doesn’t allow this. They were all of 15 feet away at any point…

[Anonymous]

OP my feeing is it’s pretty rare that people actually follow that 1 year thing. With my first I absolutely could not sleep when he was in the same room as me so I moved him next door to his own space at 2 months. Our house was small and we all just slept with them doors open. He had a period when he was 8 months that he had a cast on his arm and I wanted to be very close to him at night so we slept in his room on the floor… it was actually pretty pleasant to sleep so close but he started waking up a TON at night because he knew we were nearby. As soon as we went back to our room a month later his sleep
Improved. Sharing a space all year definitely would’ve been detrimental for everyone.

I have a 1 month old now and this time she’s in our room partly out of necessity and surprisingly this time I like it a lot, and am able to relax better when she’s close by. She will stay in our room or the adjoining space until she’s sleeping well enough to room with our toddler. You just never know how these things will go or what your preferences will be until you’re in the thick of it.

If you really want the baby to stay in your room after it grows out of the bassinet you could consider a mini crib.

[Anonymous]

We put the crib in our room. Pain to assemble and take apart and move but oh well.