If you’re umc and you’re kid is not a good student… how did you parent?

[Anonymous]

I liked to read and am smart, so my school refused to believe I had any learning disabilities. In the middle of sixth grade my mother found out I hadn't done any math all year, and slowly figured out I stopped understanding anything when fractions were introduced in second grade. So I'd spent four years not understanding anything and getting bad grades, and everyone thought it was just bad behavior. We had a week off school between Christmas and New Year's and my mom taught me four years of math in one week. I happily and quickly did all my math work through ninth grade, even winning a math award, until 10th grade when I couldn't understand a concept again. I basically failed the year, and in 11th grade took Business Math which I passed and then never took math classes again.

I may not be able to do geometry or calculus, but I can do my own taxes, which is much more relevant in adult life, and I can save money like a mofo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here, she does not have a learning disability!!

You don’t know that. My kid has aspergers/ADHD/Anxiety disorders. Even WE the parents didn’t figure it out until the fifth round of testing (at 3k a pop) back when testing wasn’t as good. You have no idea what she is struggling with but here you are judging. We poured thousands and thousands of dollars into therapists, shrinks, testing and tutors. Fortunately, the tutors were more experienced and less judgmental than you. There are some things that some SN kids cannot do. For our child it was math and writing a paper. I pray you are a troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The question really is what is wrong with the school that they haven’t caught it? My dyslexic kid went to 4th grade unable to really read. Every year from k-3, I went to the school and expressed concern and they told me she was fine. She only got help when I found $4k to have an assessment done privately.

My other kid was diagnosed with so-called stealth dyslexia after junior year of high school. She is incredibly bright and faked it through FCPS AAP without anyone knowing.

Why do you assume the school hasn't flagged it? I'm a teacher and I cannot tell you how many former students I have whose parents have not agreed to the findings of the IEP team.

I’m a child psychiatrist, and I can’t tell you how many teachers I have talked to who aren’t even aware that a child has an IEP, much less read it.
Sometimes I think I spend more time dealing with a broken educational system than I do actually diagnosing and treating mental illness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The question really is what is wrong with the school that they haven’t caught it? My dyslexic kid went to 4th grade unable to really read. Every year from k-3, I went to the school and expressed concern and they told me she was fine. She only got help when I found $4k to have an assessment done privately.

My other kid was diagnosed with so-called stealth dyslexia after junior year of high school. She is incredibly bright and faked it through FCPS AAP without anyone knowing.

Why do you assume the school hasn't flagged it? I'm a teacher and I cannot tell you how many former students I have whose parents have not agreed to the findings of the IEP team.

How many of those parents disagreed because the IEP team said there was no problem, that there wasn’t enough of a discrepancy, etc.? I am in several LD groups and know hundreds of parents that have had to fight to get the school to acknowledge a problem and then fight for services.

I ended up having to hire my own tutor, even though the school has an obligation to remediate. The school was not doing it. They were refusing to give my child what she needed (systematic reading instruction, you know, based on actual science). They were also shaming her for not working hard enough, being messy, etc. in fourth grade, she was suicidal. We were told to medicate her to get her through the year. It was abusive the way the school treated her. Even when she finally had an IEP, it was never followed. They couldn’t even give her extended time and a quiet space to test. That should be easy, but they put her out in the busy hallway to take tests because the resource room was closed on Fridays when all tests were given, then wondered why she struggled on them.

Eventually, rather than wasting time fighting and money on lawyers, we moved her to private school. The public school systems have failed so many kids with LDs. And don’t get me started in the kids whose parents are too busy trying to make ends meet or aren’t savvy enough to fight. It’s shameful!

[Anonymous]

Have you ever heard of the bell curve? Half of all American children have an iq below 100! Math is hard for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get. How did your student get to her junior year without her teachers noticing her math is at the 3 rd grade level. Are you exaggerating or she attens an awful school?

I wish I was exaggerating. I’m really not. I’m confused how they’re now just coming to me. The school is actually great. I think she does use online help because her homework grade is great but the test scores are really bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here, she does not have a learning disability!!

You don’t know that. My kid has aspergers/ADHD/Anxiety disorders. Even WE the parents didn’t figure it out until the fifth round of testing (at 3k a pop) back when testing wasn’t as good. You have no idea what she is struggling with but here you are judging. We poured thousands and thousands of dollars into therapists, shrinks, testing and tutors. Fortunately, the tutors were more experienced and less judgmental than you. There are some things that some SN kids cannot do. For our child it was math and writing a paper. I pray you are a troll

You don’t know me. I’ve been tutoring many years and I am in the math field. I have been sought out to tutor kids in affluent areas. I don’t advertise. Parents come to me. It’s laughable you saying I’m not experienced. Hahaha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The question really is what is wrong with the school that they haven’t caught it? My dyslexic kid went to 4th grade unable to really read. Every year from k-3, I went to the school and expressed concern and they told me she was fine. She only got help when I found $4k to have an assessment done privately.

My other kid was diagnosed with so-called stealth dyslexia after junior year of high school. She is incredibly bright and faked it through FCPS AAP without anyone knowing.

I had a similar experience, pp. Only my child couldn’t write. Every time I expressed concern, they told me it was fine.
And really, when your child is going through this, they hate school, think they are dumb, and hide things from you because they don’t want to talk about it. When the school also isn’t upfront, it’s really hard to know what’s going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The question really is what is wrong with the school that they haven’t caught it? My dyslexic kid went to 4th grade unable to really read. Every year from k-3, I went to the school and expressed concern and they told me she was fine. She only got help when I found $4k to have an assessment done privately.

My other kid was diagnosed with so-called stealth dyslexia after junior year of high school. She is incredibly bright and faked it through FCPS AAP without anyone knowing.

Why do you assume the school hasn't flagged it? I'm a teacher and I cannot tell you how many former students I have whose parents have not agreed to the findings of the IEP team.

I’m a child psychiatrist, and I can’t tell you how many teachers I have talked to who aren’t even aware that a child has an IEP, much less read it.
Sometimes I think I spend more time dealing with a broken educational system than I do actually diagnosing and treating mental illness.

Well said

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here, she does not have a learning disability!!

You don’t know that. My kid has aspergers/ADHD/Anxiety disorders. Even WE the parents didn’t figure it out until the fifth round of testing (at 3k a pop) back when testing wasn’t as good. You have no idea what she is struggling with but here you are judging. We poured thousands and thousands of dollars into therapists, shrinks, testing and tutors. Fortunately, the tutors were more experienced and less judgmental than you. There are some things that some SN kids cannot do. For our child it was math and writing a paper. I pray you are a troll

You don’t know me. I’ve been tutoring many years and I am in the math field. I have been sought out to tutor kids in affluent areas. I don’t advertise. Parents come to me. It’s laughable you saying I’m not experienced. Hahaha

Not only are you not experienced but you are cruel. I hope you are a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here, she does not have a learning disability!!

You don’t sound qualified to determine that.

[Anonymous]

OP, since you apparently couldn’t even figure out the appropriate forum to post this, I have to question your generally competence to make any assessments of this girl’s situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here, she does not have a learning disability!!

You don’t know that. My kid has aspergers/ADHD/Anxiety disorders. Even WE the parents didn’t figure it out until the fifth round of testing (at 3k a pop) back when testing wasn’t as good. You have no idea what she is struggling with but here you are judging. We poured thousands and thousands of dollars into therapists, shrinks, testing and tutors. Fortunately, the tutors were more experienced and less judgmental than you. There are some things that some SN kids cannot do. For our child it was math and writing a paper. I pray you are a troll

You don’t know me. I’ve been tutoring many years and I am in the math field. I have been sought out to tutor kids in affluent areas. I don’t advertise. Parents come to me. It’s laughable you saying I’m not experienced. Hahaha

Seriously girl you sound like you are having a nervous breakdown.

Tutoring math does not qualify you to diagnose LDs and the fact you think so is why you are merely a tutor.

[Anonymous]

I'm confused about how this is your field but not your career.

What does that mean!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here, she does not have a learning disability!!

You don’t know that. My kid has aspergers/ADHD/Anxiety disorders. Even WE the parents didn’t figure it out until the fifth round of testing (at 3k a pop) back when testing wasn’t as good. You have no idea what she is struggling with but here you are judging. We poured thousands and thousands of dollars into therapists, shrinks, testing and tutors. Fortunately, the tutors were more experienced and less judgmental than you. There are some things that some SN kids cannot do. For our child it was math and writing a paper. I pray you are a troll

You don’t know me. I’ve been tutoring many years and I am in the math field. I have been sought out to tutor kids in affluent areas. I don’t advertise. Parents come to me. It’s laughable you saying I’m not experienced. Hahaha

Seriously girl you sound like you are having a nervous breakdown.

Tutoring math does not qualify you to diagnose LDs and the fact you think so is why you are merely a tutor.

Merely a tutor. Is this is how you think of tutors? Lol. Fyi I’m an actuary also.