If you asked a grandparent for help with tuition?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course they do. I receive aid form my parents for my kids to attend private and identify with those who receive aid from the school. How could I not. We would not be their without the generosity of others too.

Sounds like welfare to me. Do you let everyone at the country club know? How about the school fundraisers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course they do. I receive aid form my parents for my kids to attend private and identify with those who receive aid from the school. How could I not. We would not be their without the generosity of others too.

Sounds like welfare to me. Do you let everyone at the country club know? How about the school fundraisers?

If you say that anyone who receives money from their parents as a gift does not legitimately own the money themselves, you would have to say the same of anyone who receives money from their parents' estates. How is receiving money from one's living parents different from receiving money from one's dead parents? If you claim that anyone who receives money from one's parents does not legitimately own the money and is therefore on "welfare," then you must say the same of heirs to great fortunes who pay their children's tuition from their parents' estates or trusts.

In your view paying your own way requires that you have made the money yourself, and the only people who are not on "welfare" are people who pay tuition from money that they themselves earned -- ludicrous.

[Anonymous]

I hope those who are getting help from their parents are not the same folks who look down their noses at "dime-a-dozen law firm partners." Some of us are in Biglaw because we can't -- or won't -- rely on our parents to subsidize our economic choices as adults. Must be nice to work at a public interest job or NGO and have mommy and daddy pay for your children's education.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope those who are getting help from their parents are not the same folks who look down their noses at "dime-a-dozen law firm partners." Some of us are in Biglaw because we can't -- or won't -- rely on our parents to subsidize our economic choices as adults. Must be nice to work at a public interest job or NGO and have mommy and daddy pay for your children's education.

Grapes mighty sour, huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope those who are getting help from their parents are not the same folks who look down their noses at "dime-a-dozen law firm partners." Some of us are in Biglaw because we can't -- or won't -- rely on our parents to subsidize our economic choices as adults. Must be nice to work at a public interest job or NGO and have mommy and daddy pay for your children's education.

You make me awfully glad that I left legal practice at a "Biglaw" years ago. I know the grind you are in and do not envy you your financial independence. To each her own. I just hope you can find fulfillment in your career and not feel bitter against those who have chosen another path.

[Anonymous]

One of the sets of grandparents offered to pay the tuition, the same way my grandparent paid for my college tuition. I will expect to pay for my grandchildren in the same manner.

Given the tax laws, it makes perfect sense if your whole family plans together and values education and other parts of life the same way.

This has nothing to do with our career choices or the money we make.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope those who are getting help from their parents are not the same folks who look down their noses at "dime-a-dozen law firm partners." Some of us are in Biglaw because we can't -- or won't -- rely on our parents to subsidize our economic choices as adults. Must be nice to work at a public interest job or NGO and have mommy and daddy pay for your children's education.

You make me awfully glad that I left legal practice at a "Biglaw" years ago. I know the grind you are in and do not envy you your financial independence. To each her own. I just hope you can find fulfillment in your career and not feel bitter against those who have chosen another path.

What "Big Law" has found are satisfaction and fulfillment knowing that she is providing for the family she chose to have. The rest of you altruistic TFK's (trust fund kids) who boast a life in public service but accept grandpappy and grandmammy money are worse. Big props to "big law" and her ilk for [gasp] sacrificing to provide the best life for their families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope those who are getting help from their parents are not the same folks who look down their noses at "dime-a-dozen law firm partners." Some of us are in Biglaw because we can't -- or won't -- rely on our parents to subsidize our economic choices as adults. Must be nice to work at a public interest job or NGO and have mommy and daddy pay for your children's education.

You make me awfully glad that I left legal practice at a "Biglaw" years ago. I know the grind you are in and do not envy you your financial independence. To each her own. I just hope you can find fulfillment in your career and not feel bitter against those who have chosen another path.

What "Big Law" has found are satisfaction and fulfillment knowing that she is providing for the family she chose to have. The rest of you altruistic TFK's (trust fund kids) who boast a life in public service but accept grandpappy and grandmammy money are worse. Big props to "big law" and her ilk for [gasp] sacrificing to provide the best life for their families.

You applaud "Big Law" for what she is doing to make a living, but she herself does not sound so happy with her lot. If only she sounded as positive as you!

[Anonymous]

I'm Chinese-American, and in my family as in traditional Chinese families, the grandparents pay tuition. It's not requested, and it's not offered; it's just understood. It's not about the money; it's just that we are family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm Chinese-American, and in my family as in traditional Chinese families, the grandparents pay tuition. It's not requested, and it's not offered; it's just understood. It's not about the money; it's just that we are family.

Cultural norms and post-Baby boom entitlement are two different things.

[Anonymous]

People, please be nice to one another on this post. Who am I (or are you) to judge another family's decisions or circumstances? In our case, my husband and I pay full private school tuition for four children with no help from our parents. My husband's mother cannot afford to help, as she has only ever earned a public schoolteacher's salary. His father died when he was young. My parents travel to Europe twice a year and own two BMWs, but we want them to enjoy spending the money that they worked hard to earn during their lifetime on themselves. I sincerely hope that all of us -- whether we receive our parents' help with private school tuition or not -- will one day give back our full love and appreciation by taking care of our parents and their needs when they are elderly and infirm.

[Anonymous]

Who on earth looks down on big firm law partners? I would think that position is the aspiration of many people in the D.C. area.

Anonymous wrote:I hope those who are getting help from their parents are not the same folks who look down their noses at "dime-a-dozen law firm partners." Some of us are in Biglaw because we can't -- or won't -- rely on our parents to subsidize our economic choices as adults. Must be nice to work at a public interest job or NGO and have mommy and daddy pay for your children's education.

[Anonymous]

f my parents were wealthy enough to help us pay tuition for our children, I would be very grateful and I would gladly take it. And I wouldn't give a hoot, if some "outsider" had a problem with it either.

[Anonymous]

I'm no trust fund baby (sigh), but I certainly wish I were.

Anonymous wrote:f my parents were wealthy enough to help us pay tuition for our children, I would be very grateful and I would gladly take it. And I wouldn't give a hoot, if some "outsider" had a problem with it either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm Chinese-American, and in my family as in traditional Chinese families, the grandparents pay tuition. It's not requested, and it's not offered; it's just understood. It's not about the money; it's just that we are family.

Cultural norms and post-Baby boom entitlement are two different things.

16:29 here again. The United States is so multicultural, with families having diverse backgrounds, that I am astonished that anyone dares judge another poster whose parents pay tuition directly to the school or as a gift to the poster. In fact each multigenerational family can be said to have its own culture, and no one is qualified to judge how a family handles money matters between the generations. Your attributing accepting money gifts from one's parents to "post-Baby boom entitlement" is judgmental and narrow.