When do kids burn out?

[Anonymous]

Kids quit when it stops being fun and becomes more of a job.

[Anonymous]

Kids burnout when they play on MatchFit 09 girls team: https://twitter.com/TaylorTwellman/status/1478014645298466819

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids burnout when they play on MatchFit 09 girls team: https://twitter.com/TaylorTwellman/status/1478014645298466819

Agreed. I'm not sure why this hasn't been discussed more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids burnout when they play on MatchFit 09 girls team: https://twitter.com/TaylorTwellman/status/1478014645298466819

Here's the thing...maybe they won't burn out. Maybe they love it. Maybe it was an amazing once-in-a-lifetime experience. Maybe this will drive some of these girls to be the best they can be. Maybe not. Maybe some will quit and that's alright. Maybe they'll move to a different team that does less. much less. I love how some parents will say...it's cheaper just to pay tuition, haha. Maybe the parents have the money and don't give a crap about college. The point is...there's someone out there for everyone...from a rec team to a Match Fit team. Find one that fits you and your family. Who the hell are we to judge what people do with their time and money?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids quit when it stops being fun and becomes more of a job.

Thats more accurate. Burnout is such a bad term. People love to apply the term burnout to youth sports.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids burnout when they play on MatchFit 09 girls team: https://twitter.com/TaylorTwellman/status/1478014645298466819

Here's the thing...maybe they won't burn out. Maybe they love it. Maybe it was an amazing once-in-a-lifetime experience. Maybe this will drive some of these girls to be the best they can be. Maybe not. Maybe some will quit and that's alright. Maybe they'll move to a different team that does less. much less. I love how some parents will say...it's cheaper just to pay tuition, haha. Maybe the parents have the money and don't give a crap about college. The point is...there's someone out there for everyone...from a rec team to a Match Fit team. Find one that fits you and your family. Who the hell are we to judge what people do with their time and money?

I think that's only part of the point. They're battling injuries because they play so much. 14 games in 17 days is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

At that age 14 games in 17 days is asking for growth plate injuries
Taylor understands

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids burnout when they play on MatchFit 09 girls team: https://twitter.com/TaylorTwellman/status/1478014645298466819

Here's the thing...maybe they won't burn out. Maybe they love it. Maybe it was an amazing once-in-a-lifetime experience. Maybe this will drive some of these girls to be the best they can be. Maybe not. Maybe some will quit and that's alright. Maybe they'll move to a different team that does less. much less. I love how some parents will say...it's cheaper just to pay tuition, haha. Maybe the parents have the money and don't give a crap about college. The point is...there's someone out there for everyone...from a rec team to a Match Fit team. Find one that fits you and your family. Who the hell are we to judge what people do with their time and money?

Totally agree with all your points.

[Anonymous]

I bet they have at least 25-35 girls to roster for those games. No other way

[Anonymous]

Burn out is a bit of a misnomer. Yes, some kids do "burn out" but most kids stop playing for a variety of reasons not really burnout. The biggest wave of children leaving sports applies to not just soccer but all sports and occurs at the age when children realize they can say no. For many this is puberty and they realize they never really liked it that much in the first place. The teen years are also a big wave of reprioritizing for kids. Many will find the sports they played when younger don't fit into their social or academic schedules. Some will get exposed to sports in high school that they didn't know existed before and switch from soccer to something else. The fact is almost all US children play at least one season of organized soccer these days and for many it is not their sport so it is not surprising that a high percentage don't keep playing forever.

Burn out implies some kind of overindulgence. Kid loved soccer and played every moment of every day until suddenly they don't love it any more. I've been around youth soccer for years and I really haven't seen this where the kid just played too much. I have seen kids driven out of the sport by bad abusive coaches but that's not really the same as burnout. I've seen kids whose parents pushed them much harder than they were really up for and most of them do quit when they figure out they can but that's more a matter of developing independence and their own voice than burnout. Most college players quit after college for some period of time because of the horrid coaching they received in college--that's kind of a burnout, but many of them after 5 or 10 years realize they still love the sport and get back into at some kind of amateur level.

If you have a kid who really loves the game I wouldn't worry much about burnout. Just keep them away from abusive coaching and they should fine. If they constantly want to play more and more, you may have to set the limits for balancing school and family and the rest of life, but within those limits let them play. In most cases playing more makes them better which makes them love it more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Burn out is a bit of a misnomer. Yes, some kids do "burn out" but most kids stop playing for a variety of reasons not really burnout. The biggest wave of children leaving sports applies to not just soccer but all sports and occurs at the age when children realize they can say no. For many this is puberty and they realize they never really liked it that much in the first place. The teen years are also a big wave of reprioritizing for kids. Many will find the sports they played when younger don't fit into their social or academic schedules. Some will get exposed to sports in high school that they didn't know existed before and switch from soccer to something else. The fact is almost all US children play at least one season of organized soccer these days and for many it is not their sport so it is not surprising that a high percentage don't keep playing forever.

Burn out implies some kind of overindulgence. Kid loved soccer and played every moment of every day until suddenly they don't love it any more. I've been around youth soccer for years and I really haven't seen this where the kid just played too much. I have seen kids driven out of the sport by bad abusive coaches but that's not really the same as burnout. I've seen kids whose parents pushed them much harder than they were really up for and most of them do quit when they figure out they can but that's more a matter of developing independence and their own voice than burnout. Most college players quit after college for some period of time because of the horrid coaching they received in college--that's kind of a burnout, but many of them after 5 or 10 years realize they still love the sport and get back into at some kind of amateur level.

If you have a kid who really loves the game I wouldn't worry much about burnout. Just keep them away from abusive coaching and they should fine. If they constantly want to play more and more, you may have to set the limits for balancing school and family and the rest of life, but within those limits let them play. In most cases playing more makes them better which makes them love it more.

Last year my kid always wanted to play and loved the game. Now she is done. So no the love of the game will not keep your kid in it. Travel soccer will crush the love on the game out of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Burn out is a bit of a misnomer. Yes, some kids do "burn out" but most kids stop playing for a variety of reasons not really burnout. The biggest wave of children leaving sports applies to not just soccer but all sports and occurs at the age when children realize they can say no. For many this is puberty and they realize they never really liked it that much in the first place. The teen years are also a big wave of reprioritizing for kids. Many will find the sports they played when younger don't fit into their social or academic schedules. Some will get exposed to sports in high school that they didn't know existed before and switch from soccer to something else. The fact is almost all US children play at least one season of organized soccer these days and for many it is not their sport so it is not surprising that a high percentage don't keep playing forever.

Burn out implies some kind of overindulgence. Kid loved soccer and played every moment of every day until suddenly they don't love it any more. I've been around youth soccer for years and I really haven't seen this where the kid just played too much. I have seen kids driven out of the sport by bad abusive coaches but that's not really the same as burnout. I've seen kids whose parents pushed them much harder than they were really up for and most of them do quit when they figure out they can but that's more a matter of developing independence and their own voice than burnout. Most college players quit after college for some period of time because of the horrid coaching they received in college--that's kind of a burnout, but many of them after 5 or 10 years realize they still love the sport and get back into at some kind of amateur level.

If you have a kid who really loves the game I wouldn't worry much about burnout. Just keep them away from abusive coaching and they should fine. If they constantly want to play more and more, you may have to set the limits for balancing school and family and the rest of life, but within those limits let them play. In most cases playing more makes them better which makes them love it more.

Last year my kid always wanted to play and loved the game. Now she is done. So no the love of the game will not keep your kid in it. Travel soccer will crush the love on the game out of you.

I would advise trying a different club.

[Anonymous]

Kids burn out when you burn out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Burn out is a bit of a misnomer. Yes, some kids do "burn out" but most kids stop playing for a variety of reasons not really burnout. The biggest wave of children leaving sports applies to not just soccer but all sports and occurs at the age when children realize they can say no. For many this is puberty and they realize they never really liked it that much in the first place. The teen years are also a big wave of reprioritizing for kids. Many will find the sports they played when younger don't fit into their social or academic schedules. Some will get exposed to sports in high school that they didn't know existed before and switch from soccer to something else. The fact is almost all US children play at least one season of organized soccer these days and for many it is not their sport so it is not surprising that a high percentage don't keep playing forever.

Burn out implies some kind of overindulgence. Kid loved soccer and played every moment of every day until suddenly they don't love it any more. I've been around youth soccer for years and I really haven't seen this where the kid just played too much. I have seen kids driven out of the sport by bad abusive coaches but that's not really the same as burnout. I've seen kids whose parents pushed them much harder than they were really up for and most of them do quit when they figure out they can but that's more a matter of developing independence and their own voice than burnout. Most college players quit after college for some period of time because of the horrid coaching they received in college--that's kind of a burnout, but many of them after 5 or 10 years realize they still love the sport and get back into at some kind of amateur level.

If you have a kid who really loves the game I wouldn't worry much about burnout. Just keep them away from abusive coaching and they should fine. If they constantly want to play more and more, you may have to set the limits for balancing school and family and the rest of life, but within those limits let them play. In most cases playing more makes them better which makes them love it more.

Last year my kid always wanted to play and loved the game. Now she is done. So no the love of the game will not keep your kid in it. Travel soccer will crush the love on the game out of you.

Or didn't she love it enough? My kid likes playing rec. Doesn't have the desire to train as much as travel teams do. After one year of travel, he quit travel. Did travel burn him out? No. He just didn't like the demands of travel soccer. It's not burn out. It's not liking something enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know some burn out at 5 and others 45 but is there an age when there is a palpable trend in kids burning out? If your kid cannot get enough of soccer 24/7 when does that wane?

Kids do not burn out as much as they become interested in other things. Moving on to another interest or activity should not be seen as a negative so stop calling it “burn out”. Do we say girls burn out of Girl Scouts or do they just have other interests?

Middle school years is about when kids start to try new things and forge their own identity and it is perfectly normal.

+1

My kids became more interested in "school"... School friends, school activities, school sports, other non-travel sports, etc. around 13/14 years old.

I, personally, was burn out of all the driving to practices and games so I was happy with the change!