Husband frustrated about career and taking it out on me

[Anonymous]

So he's been seeing a counselor for years who takes the money and allows him to run amok with his "feelings" and treat you like crap?

Got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So he's been seeing a counselor for years who takes the money and allows him to run amok with his "feelings" and treat you like crap?

Got it.

It’s his counselor though. He seems to like her. It’s not my business to interfere.

I know I want this behavior to end. He doesn’t see his part in not sticking to our agreements about conflict resolution. When his temper flares, every tool we have discussed goes out the window. Discussing things with him isn’t working.

If it were just me with no kids I would end this. When I look at how far the pattern stretches back and the various kinds of things he has screamed at me about, from not taking care of him when he was sick (I’m talking flu when we first started dating and lived in different places, not like cancer after we were married for years) to the latest incidents, I feel like this is just not going to change. I’m ambivalent about breaking up the family.

[Anonymous]

You deserve better OP. You also don't want your children to think relationship is normal. If you aren't ready to leave him, you need some therapy. I agree with a pp who said this isn't about his career. I would also see an attorney to get your financials in order. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Can you tag along to an appointment with the therapist?