Am I expecting too much after closing on a house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would like to know your thoughts. We recently bought a very expensive home. (over 3M) so expensive to me. One of my closest friends is in real estate and casually asked me what our broker sent as a closing gift because she is looking for unique ideas to send for her own clients as closing gifts. I didn't think much about it as we just closed about 7 weeks ago but then realized nothing was given. And that kind of surprised me when she drew my attention to it. Last time we closed on a house we got a huge beautiful gourmet food basket and the time before that, a case of my husbands favorite wine.

My friend told me in all the homes she has sold, she has never not given something even a small token something as a closing gift and a thank you for a nice commission check. My husband was not crazy about this broker to begin with but now that I think about it, I am kind of disappointed. Is this the norm? If giving something is the norm, it makes me realize my husband is a great judge of character It is not that we need the gift but more the thought/gesture. Especially since she walked away with a 6 digit commission.

Why would the broker send something? Do you even have a relationship with the broker?

Sounds like your issue is with the agent.

It’s gauche to expect a gift, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should have asked for a rebate on the commission. Surely no one pays 6% on a 3m house?!

Well, OP paid nothing. The seller pays.

[Anonymous]

Our agent in a house that cost one third of yours 15 years ago gifted us with a beautiful living room lamp we still use today.

I don’t know if it is the norm. Gifts are always better when not expected.

Co grate on your new home. Don’t let something as trivial as whether the agent gave you a gift diminish your happiness in your new home.

[Anonymous]

As a buyer you did not pay any commission. Maybe seller got a gift

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would like to know your thoughts. We recently bought a very expensive home. (over 3M) so expensive to me. One of my closest friends is in real estate and casually asked me what our broker sent as a closing gift because she is looking for unique ideas to send for her own clients as closing gifts. I didn't think much about it as we just closed about 7 weeks ago but then realized nothing was given. And that kind of surprised me when she drew my attention to it. Last time we closed on a house we got a huge beautiful gourmet food basket and the time before that, a case of my husbands favorite wine.

My friend told me in all the homes she has sold, she has never not given something even a small token something as a closing gift and a thank you for a nice commission check. My husband was not crazy about this broker to begin with but now that I think about it, I am kind of disappointed. Is this the norm? If giving something is the norm, it makes me realize my husband is a great judge of character It is not that we need the gift but more the thought/gesture. Especially since she walked away with a 6 digit commission.

A. Why isn't this in the real estate forum?

B. There's another post that's almost identical to this one in the real estate forum RIGHT NOW, and all of the details are eerily similar, except your house cost double hers.

She at least knew she was being petty though...

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1023565.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my experience it's the norm to give a gift.

This, especially at that price range.

[Anonymous]

I'd rather pay less commission and receive no gifts, but that's just my solid common sense, not your silly frivolity, speaking...

[Anonymous]

You sound entitled to expect a gift. The horror!!

[Anonymous]

What? They provided a service, you paid them. That’s how it works. A gift is nice but not necessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would like to know your thoughts. We recently bought a very expensive home. (over 3M) so expensive to me. One of my closest friends is in real estate and casually asked me what our broker sent as a closing gift because she is looking for unique ideas to send for her own clients as closing gifts. I didn't think much about it as we just closed about 7 weeks ago but then realized nothing was given. And that kind of surprised me when she drew my attention to it. Last time we closed on a house we got a huge beautiful gourmet food basket and the time before that, a case of my husbands favorite wine.

My friend told me in all the homes she has sold, she has never not given something even a small token something as a closing gift and a thank you for a nice commission check. My husband was not crazy about this broker to begin with but now that I think about it, I am kind of disappointed. Is this the norm? If giving something is the norm, it makes me realize my husband is a great judge of character It is not that we need the gift but more the thought/gesture. Especially since she walked away with a 6 digit commission.

THIS is the scenario you needed to realize your husband is a great judge of character??

Isn't that something you generally know BEFORE you get married?

[Anonymous]

We closed on a house worth a fraction of yours and received a nice bottle of champagne.

I think you’re right—it’s about the gesture.

[Anonymous]

I can't be the only person who doesn't want a random lamp or candy dish, right? I find it annoying when businesses send swag to try to build up business too. I don't want a mouse pad or whatever.

They did their job, you got a house in a tough market. Why are you focusing on trinkets?

[Anonymous]

I think this realtor gift giving began when most realtors were female. Some homeowners leave a bottle of wine/champagne for the new homeowners with a note. Most men would never think to do this. It’s business. Keep it that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should have asked for a rebate on the commission. Surely no one pays 6% on a 3m house?!

Well, OP paid nothing. The seller pays.

And who paid tge seller??? Think very hard about this. How did the seller get the money for that 3% commission? Oh wait…

[Anonymous]

Am I expecting too much after closing on a house?

Yes, you are. Be thankful for what you have.