Helo figuring out childcare / socializing

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of socialization, you must get childcare so you can both do your jobs efficiently. Have you considered a nanny?

we are doing our jobs efficiently. this isnt our issue. I explained we cant afford a nanny.

I guarantee you that you are NOT doing your jobs efficiently while also taking care of an infant. Consider a nannyshare, or daycare or whatever. But you can not work full time AND properly care for an infant.

thats not true haha. My partner's job was part time as mentioned, and now that he is back full time he has a very low key low mgmt job. Its been fine and I had a great end of year. But once he is more mobile it wont be so managebale. That is why I am reaching out for advice. So far, have gotten great tips such as finding a nanny share so I am glad I posted. Thanks anyway!

NP- I think you’ve answered your own question. This arrangement seems very challenging to begin with but will become impossible once the baby is mobile. My first didn’t crawl until almost 11 months, my second was crawling by eight months. Line something up soon- where are you located? Something like Monday morning moms and Maryland childcare network might be helpful for finding an in home daycare, if you’re in MD. Also ask your neighborhood listserv.

not very challening to begin with. But once mobile it will be.

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Anonymous wrote:We had our daughter in daycare until about age 1.5, when COVID hit. She didn't start back until age 3. At 3 she was very much ready for socialization and benefitted from it. I dont think that it really mattered before that age. Kids are very self-centered, and at 1.5 she wasn't really interacting with other kids all that meaningfully.

I will agree with other PP that having your kid home while you work is incredibly stressful and I would not wish it on anyone. But, for the year and a half we kept her home, we saved a ton of money, knew she was safe from COVID, and got time with her that deepened our bond incredibly and I would never give back. If you can manage the stress and working at nights and on weekends to offset it, it can have its benefits.

thank you for this. I get so worried. I heard about speech delays from some other posters. I would love to put him in daycare but are now facing the most contagious strain that has existed yet. is your 3 year old doing just fine?

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of what you do, try expose the baby to other children as much as possible (starting now), and talk a LOT around them. Go to outdoor (or indoor if you're comfortable) storytimes. Take walks in the park where there are other children. Lots of babies that isolated at home during the pandemic developed speech delays.

socialziing starting now at 7 months?

where have you read that babies need to socialize starting now at 6 - 7 months? That is not true

Please site your evidence for the speech delays. also i dont know if you are aware, but we are experiencing a huge explosion of cases with the highly contagious Omicron, so recommending story time indoors (or outdoors in winter) is weird. Again, let me know where you are gtting your information about speech delays and why you are recommedning that socialziation with other kids matters at 6-7 months. My ped said this is not true.

I mean all you have to do is google "Covid" and "speech delays". Here is one result: https://news.sky.com/story/covid-19-impact-of-lockdown-on-childrens-development-will-last-for-years-and-years-12500806

Infants obviously don't engage in small talk, but they do learn from seeing other people and children. For example, according to UNICEF, one milestone at six months is "responds to the emotions of others". It is not normal for an infant to never see another baby cry, for example. These little interactions are all things we took for granted pre-pandemic, but now we just assume they are worthless. They're not.

As I mentioned, if you are not comfortable with indoor activities, do outdoor ones. Wait a month if you are worried about omicron, but honestly, how much higher is the risk for a 6 month old vs catching RSV? There will always be another variant.

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of what you do, try expose the baby to other children as much as possible (starting now), and talk a LOT around them. Go to outdoor (or indoor if you're comfortable) storytimes. Take walks in the park where there are other children. Lots of babies that isolated at home during the pandemic developed speech delays.

socialziing starting now at 7 months?

where have you read that babies need to socialize starting now at 6 - 7 months? That is not true

Please site your evidence for the speech delays. also i dont know if you are aware, but we are experiencing a huge explosion of cases with the highly contagious Omicron, so recommending story time indoors (or outdoors in winter) is weird. Again, let me know where you are gtting your information about speech delays and why you are recommedning that socialziation with other kids matters at 6-7 months. My ped said this is not true.

I mean all you have to do is google "Covid" and "speech delays". Here is one result:

Infants obviously don't engage in small talk, but they do learn from seeing other people and children. For example, according to UNICEF, one milestone at six months is "responds to the emotions of others". It is not normal for an infant to never see another baby cry, for example. These little interactions are all things we took for granted pre-pandemic, but now we just assume they are worthless. They're not.

As I mentioned, if you are not comfortable with indoor activities, do outdoor ones. Wait a month if you are worried about omicron, but honestly, how much higher is the risk for a 6 month old vs catching RSV? There will always be another variant.

Thanks for this random non-accredited article lol. Im sure there are some benefits, but socialization with other kids is not crucial until later (like 1 yr - 1 1/2) and Im certatainly not going to worry abotu speech delays for a kd under that age if he has to be with family kept safe from a SEVERE variant that has increased pediatric hospitalizations by 30% for those under 5. Ill go off the advice of experts in the health and pediatric field... feel free to find some valid research and send my way though. I just think its extremeley inconsiderate to spread your opinions as facts around the internet to scared moms trying to do the right thing by keeping their kids safe. ALSO, did you ever think about the fact there may be other family members who need to be kept safe from Covid specifically - such as my eldery mom who spends time with my child and would be much more affected by covid then RSV? I cant deal with the selfishness amongst folks like you.

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of what you do, try expose the baby to other children as much as possible (starting now), and talk a LOT around them. Go to outdoor (or indoor if you're comfortable) storytimes. Take walks in the park where there are other children. Lots of babies that isolated at home during the pandemic developed speech delays.

socialziing starting now at 7 months?

where have you read that babies need to socialize starting now at 6 - 7 months? That is not true

Please site your evidence for the speech delays. also i dont know if you are aware, but we are experiencing a huge explosion of cases with the highly contagious Omicron, so recommending story time indoors (or outdoors in winter) is weird. Again, let me know where you are gtting your information about speech delays and why you are recommedning that socialziation with other kids matters at 6-7 months. My ped said this is not true.

I mean all you have to do is google "Covid" and "speech delays". Here is one result: https://news.sky.com/story/covid-19-impact-of-lockdown-on-childrens-development-will-last-for-years-and-years-12500806

Infants obviously don't engage in small talk, but they do learn from seeing other people and children. For example, according to UNICEF, one milestone at six months is "responds to the emotions of others". It is not normal for an infant to never see another baby cry, for example. These little interactions are all things we took for granted pre-pandemic, but now we just assume they are worthless. They're not.




As I mentioned, if you are not comfortable with indoor activities, do outdoor ones. Wait a month if you are worried about omicron, but honestly, how much higher is the risk for a 6 month old vs catching RSV? There will always be another variant.

also, you talk about a kid needing to be around babies crying, but not all kids under 6 months to go to daycare , covid or not, and not all kids have other sibligs. Check your bias. And please stop acting like you are an expert. This is your opinion and its not based on facts or evidence. Ugh.

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of what you do, try expose the baby to other children as much as possible (starting now), and talk a LOT around them. Go to outdoor (or indoor if you're comfortable) storytimes. Take walks in the park where there are other children. Lots of babies that isolated at home during the pandemic developed speech delays.

socialziing starting now at 7 months?

where have you read that babies need to socialize starting now at 6 - 7 months? That is not true

Please site your evidence for the speech delays. also i dont know if you are aware, but we are experiencing a huge explosion of cases with the highly contagious Omicron, so recommending story time indoors (or outdoors in winter) is weird. Again, let me know where you are gtting your information about speech delays and why you are recommedning that socialziation with other kids matters at 6-7 months. My ped said this is not true.

I mean all you have to do is google "Covid" and "speech delays". Here is one result:

Infants obviously don't engage in small talk, but they do learn from seeing other people and children. For example, according to UNICEF, one milestone at six months is "responds to the emotions of others". It is not normal for an infant to never see another baby cry, for example. These little interactions are all things we took for granted pre-pandemic, but now we just assume they are worthless. They're not.

As I mentioned, if you are not comfortable with indoor activities, do outdoor ones. Wait a month if you are worried about omicron, but honestly, how much higher is the risk for a 6 month old vs catching RSV? There will always be another variant.

Thanks for this random non-accredited article lol. Im sure there are some benefits, but socialization with other kids is not crucial until later (like 1 yr - 1 1/2) and Im certatainly not going to worry abotu speech delays for a kd under that age if he has to be with family kept safe from a SEVERE variant that has increased pediatric hospitalizations by 30% for those under 5. Ill go off the advice of experts in the health and pediatric field... feel free to find some valid research and send my way though. I just think its extremeley inconsiderate to spread your opinions as facts around the internet to scared moms trying to do the right thing by keeping their kids safe. ALSO, did you ever think about the fact there may be other family members who need to be kept safe from Covid specifically - such as my eldery mom who spends time with my child and would be much more affected by covid then RSV? I cant deal with the selfishness amongst folks like you.

If you can't deal with me, then step off of DCUM, because I am not going anywhere. I'm sorry you don't like my "opinions" based on UNICEF and early childhood education experts. Nobody is forcing you to take your child to outdoor storytime. I happen to think it's a good idea, and the more you try to tell me not to post here, the more I will post.

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of what you do, try expose the baby to other children as much as possible (starting now), and talk a LOT around them. Go to outdoor (or indoor if you're comfortable) storytimes. Take walks in the park where there are other children. Lots of babies that isolated at home during the pandemic developed speech delays.

socialziing starting now at 7 months?

where have you read that babies need to socialize starting now at 6 - 7 months? That is not true

Please site your evidence for the speech delays. also i dont know if you are aware, but we are experiencing a huge explosion of cases with the highly contagious Omicron, so recommending story time indoors (or outdoors in winter) is weird. Again, let me know where you are gtting your information about speech delays and why you are recommedning that socialziation with other kids matters at 6-7 months. My ped said this is not true.

I mean all you have to do is google "Covid" and "speech delays". Here is one result: https://news.sky.com/story/covid-19-impact-of-lockdown-on-childrens-development-will-last-for-years-and-years-12500806

Infants obviously don't engage in small talk, but they do learn from seeing other people and children. For example, according to UNICEF, one milestone at six months is "responds to the emotions of others". It is not normal for an infant to never see another baby cry, for example. These little interactions are all things we took for granted pre-pandemic, but now we just assume they are worthless. They're not.




As I mentioned, if you are not comfortable with indoor activities, do outdoor ones. Wait a month if you are worried about omicron, but honestly, how much higher is the risk for a 6 month old vs catching RSV? There will always be another variant.

also, you talk about a kid needing to be around babies crying, but not all kids under 6 months to go to daycare , covid or not, and not all kids have other sibligs. Check your bias. And please stop acting like you are an expert. This is your opinion and its not based on facts or evidence. Ugh.

Oh my goodness, it is not normal to raise an infant in isolation, seeing only their parents. In the history of the world, that is bizarre. You sound unhinged. If you don't like my advice, don't follow it. The fact that you are so threatened by me posting my opinion and citations to back it up speaks to your own insecurities and anxieties you pathetic loser.

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Anonymous wrote:If you don’t need the childcare I would wait until 3 to do daycare. You can go to playgrounds and do a baby and me class on a weekend if you feel like it. Plenty of young children don’t go to daycare or preschool at all and do just fine. I don’t know how you are productive at your job though when you are juggling a baby too. I feel like neither your baby or your employee are getting the best version of you.

its two of us juggling work and baby so I think its fine for now, my job is going well. But my concern is when he turns 1 and not being able to take him to parks and stuff because of our work. we dont have an alternative though. Its either daycare or nothing.

Kids under 2.5 or so don't need socialization with other kids. They do fine with other kids, but they don't need them.

But the socialization a baby needs is undivided attention from adults. If you aren't able to find a few hours to go to a park, then does that mean your attention is always divided with work? If not, why can't whoever isn't working and is with the baby take the baby to the park?

If your choices are between the baby being understimulated, and the covid risk of daycare, then I'd choose the risk, unless there's a high risk household member. Maybe look for a small home daycare.

Having said all that, a part time nanny would cost the same as daycare.

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of what you do, try expose the baby to other children as much as possible (starting now), and talk a LOT around them. Go to outdoor (or indoor if you're comfortable) storytimes. Take walks in the park where there are other children. Lots of babies that isolated at home during the pandemic developed speech delays.

socialziing starting now at 7 months?

where have you read that babies need to socialize starting now at 6 - 7 months? That is not true

Please site your evidence for the speech delays. also i dont know if you are aware, but we are experiencing a huge explosion of cases with the highly contagious Omicron, so recommending story time indoors (or outdoors in winter) is weird. Again, let me know where you are gtting your information about speech delays and why you are recommedning that socialziation with other kids matters at 6-7 months. My ped said this is not true.

I mean all you have to do is google "Covid" and "speech delays". Here is one result:

Infants obviously don't engage in small talk, but they do learn from seeing other people and children. For example, according to UNICEF, one milestone at six months is "responds to the emotions of others". It is not normal for an infant to never see another baby cry, for example. These little interactions are all things we took for granted pre-pandemic, but now we just assume they are worthless. They're not.

As I mentioned, if you are not comfortable with indoor activities, do outdoor ones. Wait a month if you are worried about omicron, but honestly, how much higher is the risk for a 6 month old vs catching RSV? There will always be another variant.

Thanks for this random non-accredited article lol. Im sure there are some benefits, but socialization with other kids is not crucial until later (like 1 yr - 1 1/2) and Im certatainly not going to worry abotu speech delays for a kd under that age if he has to be with family kept safe from a SEVERE variant that has increased pediatric hospitalizations by 30% for those under 5. Ill go off the advice of experts in the health and pediatric field... feel free to find some valid research and send my way though. I just think its extremeley inconsiderate to spread your opinions as facts around the internet to scared moms trying to do the right thing by keeping their kids safe. ALSO, did you ever think about the fact there may be other family members who need to be kept safe from Covid specifically - such as my eldery mom who spends time with my child and would be much more affected by covid then RSV? I cant deal with the selfishness amongst folks like you.

If you can't deal with me, then step off of DCUM, because I am not going anywhere. I'm sorry you don't like my "opinions" based on UNICEF and early childhood education experts. Nobody is forcing you to take your child to outdoor storytime. I happen to think it's a good idea, and the more you try to tell me not to post here, the more I will post.

We know. It's just remarkable that your employer, our government, has such permissive internet rules! They allow you to spend your time, which is to say so many of our tax dollars, posting fake science to terrify other mothers on the internet.!

I mean , normally I'd think people would have to take a lobbying job to get such a gig. But look at you!

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of what you do, try expose the baby to other children as much as possible (starting now), and talk a LOT around them. Go to outdoor (or indoor if you're comfortable) storytimes. Take walks in the park where there are other children. Lots of babies that isolated at home during the pandemic developed speech delays.

socialziing starting now at 7 months?

where have you read that babies need to socialize starting now at 6 - 7 months? That is not true

Please site your evidence for the speech delays. also i dont know if you are aware, but we are experiencing a huge explosion of cases with the highly contagious Omicron, so recommending story time indoors (or outdoors in winter) is weird. Again, let me know where you are gtting your information about speech delays and why you are recommedning that socialziation with other kids matters at 6-7 months. My ped said this is not true.

I mean all you have to do is google "Covid" and "speech delays". Here is one result: https://news.sky.com/story/covid-19-impact-of-lockdown-on-childrens-development-will-last-for-years-and-years-12500806

Infants obviously don't engage in small talk, but they do learn from seeing other people and children. For example, according to UNICEF, one milestone at six months is "responds to the emotions of others". It is not normal for an infant to never see another baby cry, for example. These little interactions are all things we took for granted pre-pandemic, but now we just assume they are worthless. They're not.




As I mentioned, if you are not comfortable with indoor activities, do outdoor ones. Wait a month if you are worried about omicron, but honestly, how much higher is the risk for a 6 month old vs catching RSV? There will always be another variant.

also, you talk about a kid needing to be around babies crying, but not all kids under 6 months to go to daycare , covid or not, and not all kids have other sibligs. Check your bias. And please stop acting like you are an expert. This is your opinion and its not based on facts or evidence. Ugh.

Oh my goodness, it is not normal to raise an infant in isolation, seeing only their parents. In the history of the world, that is bizarre. You sound unhinged. If you don't like my advice, don't follow it. The fact that you are so threatened by me posting my opinion and citations to back it up speaks to your own insecurities and anxieties you pathetic loser.

Well, I'm sure the generations of American families that grew up crossing prairies and farming would be astonished to hear that. They would also be astonished to hear yoga classes are necessary for one year olds, cow's milk is pure poison, and that womenfolk now outsource all of their child care duties off to an indentured servant class from another land who are poorly compensated and--

Oh, wait. That part isn't entirely new.

In the history of the world, for most of it, for most people, family members looked after their own kids. Be it mom or grandma when mom died in childbirth, or Aunt Letitia, or sometimes the village crone, or the ten year old goatherding sibling... You may be astonished to learn that child care centers are a recent invention.

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It’s not like your baby can just stay at home rolling around while two adults work on their computers all day and then head right into daycare when “socialization becomes important.” I hope you guys are interacting with your baby a lot during the day, exposing him to new faces, taking him outside, reading to him, etc etc. i don’t see how that’s possible with 2 full time working adults.

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of what you do, try expose the baby to other children as much as possible (starting now), and talk a LOT around them. Go to outdoor (or indoor if you're comfortable) storytimes. Take walks in the park where there are other children. Lots of babies that isolated at home during the pandemic developed speech delays.

socialziing starting now at 7 months?

where have you read that babies need to socialize starting now at 6 - 7 months? That is not true

Please site your evidence for the speech delays. also i dont know if you are aware, but we are experiencing a huge explosion of cases with the highly contagious Omicron, so recommending story time indoors (or outdoors in winter) is weird. Again, let me know where you are gtting your information about speech delays and why you are recommedning that socialziation with other kids matters at 6-7 months. My ped said this is not true.

I mean all you have to do is google "Covid" and "speech delays". Here is one result: https://news.sky.com/story/covid-19-impact-of-lockdown-on-childrens-development-will-last-for-years-and-years-12500806

Infants obviously don't engage in small talk, but they do learn from seeing other people and children. For example, according to UNICEF, one milestone at six months is "responds to the emotions of others". It is not normal for an infant to never see another baby cry, for example. These little interactions are all things we took for granted pre-pandemic, but now we just assume they are worthless. They're not.




As I mentioned, if you are not comfortable with indoor activities, do outdoor ones. Wait a month if you are worried about omicron, but honestly, how much higher is the risk for a 6 month old vs catching RSV? There will always be another variant.

also, you talk about a kid needing to be around babies crying, but not all kids under 6 months to go to daycare , covid or not, and not all kids have other sibligs. Check your bias. And please stop acting like you are an expert. This is your opinion and its not based on facts or evidence. Ugh.

Oh my goodness, it is not normal to raise an infant in isolation, seeing only their parents. In the history of the world, that is bizarre. You sound unhinged. If you don't like my advice, don't follow it. The fact that you are so threatened by me posting my opinion and citations to back it up speaks to your own insecurities and anxieties you pathetic loser.

Well, I'm sure the generations of American families that grew up crossing prairies and farming would be astonished to hear that. They would also be astonished to hear yoga classes are necessary for one year olds, cow's milk is pure poison, and that womenfolk now outsource all of their child care duties off to an indentured servant class from another land who are poorly compensated and--

Oh, wait. That part isn't entirely new.

In the history of the world, for most of it, for most people, family members looked after their own kids. Be it mom or grandma when mom died in childbirth, or Aunt Letitia, or sometimes the village crone, or the ten year old goatherding sibling... You may be astonished to learn that child care centers are a recent invention.

No, it wasn't common for little children to only ever see their parents/a single caregiver. Even now, 3 person households are uncommon everywhere except North America and Europe. But, if you want to raise your child like they are going to live on a farm and not go to school, go ahead.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not like your baby can just stay at home rolling around while two adults work on their computers all day and then head right into daycare when “socialization becomes important.” I hope you guys are interacting with your baby a lot during the day, exposing him to new faces, taking him outside, reading to him, etc etc. i don’t see how that’s possible with 2 full time working adults.

+1 exactly

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of what you do, try expose the baby to other children as much as possible (starting now), and talk a LOT around them. Go to outdoor (or indoor if you're comfortable) storytimes. Take walks in the park where there are other children. Lots of babies that isolated at home during the pandemic developed speech delays.

socialziing starting now at 7 months?

where have you read that babies need to socialize starting now at 6 - 7 months? That is not true

Please site your evidence for the speech delays. also i dont know if you are aware, but we are experiencing a huge explosion of cases with the highly contagious Omicron, so recommending story time indoors (or outdoors in winter) is weird. Again, let me know where you are gtting your information about speech delays and why you are recommedning that socialziation with other kids matters at 6-7 months. My ped said this is not true.

I mean all you have to do is google "Covid" and "speech delays". Here is one result:

Infants obviously don't engage in small talk, but they do learn from seeing other people and children. For example, according to UNICEF, one milestone at six months is "responds to the emotions of others". It is not normal for an infant to never see another baby cry, for example. These little interactions are all things we took for granted pre-pandemic, but now we just assume they are worthless. They're not.

As I mentioned, if you are not comfortable with indoor activities, do outdoor ones. Wait a month if you are worried about omicron, but honestly, how much higher is the risk for a 6 month old vs catching RSV? There will always be another variant.

Thanks for this random non-accredited article lol. Im sure there are some benefits, but socialization with other kids is not crucial until later (like 1 yr - 1 1/2) and Im certatainly not going to worry abotu speech delays for a kd under that age if he has to be with family kept safe from a SEVERE variant that has increased pediatric hospitalizations by 30% for those under 5. Ill go off the advice of experts in the health and pediatric field... feel free to find some valid research and send my way though. I just think its extremeley inconsiderate to spread your opinions as facts around the internet to scared moms trying to do the right thing by keeping their kids safe. ALSO, did you ever think about the fact there may be other family members who need to be kept safe from Covid specifically - such as my eldery mom who spends time with my child and would be much more affected by covid then RSV? I cant deal with the selfishness amongst folks like you.

If you can't deal with me, then step off of DCUM, because I am not going anywhere. I'm sorry you don't like my "opinions" based on UNICEF and early childhood education experts. Nobody is forcing you to take your child to outdoor storytime. I happen to think it's a good idea, and the more you try to tell me not to post here, the more I will post.

We know. It's just remarkable that your employer, our government, has such permissive internet rules! They allow you to spend your time, which is to say so many of our tax dollars, posting fake science to terrify other mothers on the internet.!

I mean , normally I'd think people would have to take a lobbying job to get such a gig. But look at you!

Lol...I didn't realize the prospect of going out of your home and seeing other children would be "terrifying" for anybody. If it is for you, then maybe address that issue because that is not normal.

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of socialization, you must get childcare so you can both do your jobs efficiently. Have you considered a nanny?

we are doing our jobs efficiently. this isnt our issue. I explained we cant afford a nanny.

I guarantee you that you are NOT doing your jobs efficiently while also taking care of an infant. Consider a nannyshare, or daycare or whatever. But you can not work full time AND properly care for an infant.

thats not true haha. My partner's job was part time as mentioned, and now that he is back full time he has a very low key low mgmt job. Its been fine and I had a great end of year. But once he is more mobile it wont be so managebale. That is why I am reaching out for advice. So far, have gotten great tips such as finding a nanny share so I am glad I posted. Thanks anyway!

NP- I think you’ve answered your own question. This arrangement seems very challenging to begin with but will become impossible once the baby is mobile. My first didn’t crawl until almost 11 months, my second was crawling by eight months. Line something up soon- where are you located? Something like Monday morning moms and Maryland childcare network might be helpful for finding an in home daycare, if you’re in MD. Also ask your neighborhood listserv.

not very challening to begin with. But once mobile it will be.

Maybe you all are better multitaskers than me, but trying to take care of a baby while simultaneously doing my fulltime job (which involves a lot of writing) just wouldn't work. Something would get the short end of the stick.