Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?

[Anonymous]

Maybe someone in your family told her to take the ice cream with her pie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We once had friends over and cooked out steaks on the grill with all of the steakhouse-type sides. They brought beer to have in addition to our wine. I was surprised when they took their unopened beers back home with them. We always leave everything with the host and I make sure to bring anything in disposable dishes to leave behind.

My BIL takes home wine he brings, even when it's opened. I was shocked at first, but now expect it. I do as you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We once had friends over and cooked out steaks on the grill with all of the steakhouse-type sides. They brought beer to have in addition to our wine. I was surprised when they took their unopened beers back home with them. We always leave everything with the host and I make sure to bring anything in disposable dishes to leave behind.

My BIL takes home wine he brings, even when it's opened. I was shocked at first, but now expect it. I do as you do.

BIL is cheap AF.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who does this, takes hike the leftover things that she brings over and also always requests repayment for half a meal when she pays even though I would never request she pay me back when I pay. I do think it is weird and maybe even rude, but I think she comes from a background where there wasn’t much extra and just roll with it. It’s not an actual problem unless you let it bother you.

[Anonymous]

With a big meal where others have contributed, I often suggest that they take home "their" leftovers because I usually don't have a ton of room in the fridge if I just made a bunch of food. But it's definitely impolite if you didn't specifically suggest she take it.

That said, I don't really let etiquette stuff like that bother me...I just assume people don't know better.

[Anonymous]

My DH had a friend in law school who brought a box of crackers over to his place when invited for drinks, then took it back with him when he went home. We still refer to him as “Crackers.”

[Anonymous]

Bad form ….

The only,good part is that it is nice when family and friends feel comfortable in your home …. But that was expressed with very poor manners.

[Anonymous]

I would have expected her to take it all home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We hosted some friends for dinner last night. We provided the meal, one friend offered to bring a dessert. At the end of the night, she gathered up the rest of the apple pie plus the ice cream from our freezer and took it home with her. I found it so strange and it’s definitely something I would never do myself—I always leave the host with the leftovers of whatever I brought, unless they offer I take it home.

No. You do not take it home. How gauche.

[Anonymous]

I have never had a guest do this and I would certainly not do it as a guest. Only circumstance in which I would is if the host asked me to.

To go into someone’s freezer for ice cream leftovers is strange.

[Anonymous]

Most hosts don't want the leftovers, usually they ask everyone to take their stuff home with them, at least with my family and friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have expected her to take it all home.

Me too. Usually people ask.

[Anonymous]

Etiquette is that she takes her food back, and you are to ask if you can keep some.

Where were you people raised?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Etiquette is that she takes her food back, and you are to ask if you can keep some.

Where were you people raised?

Wrong! Serious question - where were YOU raised? I was raised in a wealthy New England town where manners are important. I have literally never had someone take their food back. And since we are now in the South - it is spelled out very clearly for you tacky people in this post.

https://www.southernliving.com/culture/leftovers-etiquette

[Anonymous]

Op, it's unimportant. If she's a close-enough friend that you have her over for Thanksgiving, this only make you look bad ... that you give this much thought. Whatever.