Referee abuse

[Anonymous]

My daughter's team played a glen burnie team in a tournament this weekend. The parents were definitely mouthy, but these were little kids and the ref wasn't phased. But also the kids are 8.

[Anonymous]

Didn’t take long for people to blame the ref even in a thread about assault on ref , sad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

RantingSoccerDad wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If that's a 2008 boy, I don't think you should list his name on here. If it's the coach, fine.

the players are only by #s
the officials are the other

Oh, that's the ref's name! I was thinking it was the coach's. I've never seen this sort of report.

So that's three people sent off, one of whom was additionally cited for "abuse of official"?

And is that an assault on an official, or is that just a blank field?

Obviously I wasn't at this game so cannot be certain in this case, but in my experience, when a game gets this out of hand, the ref is usually at least partly to blame.

When the ref has to show so many red cards, the game obviously got out of control.

[Anonymous]

Springfield care to apologize?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Didn’t take long for people to blame the ref even in a thread about assault on ref , sad

I was careful to note that I couldn't be certain in this particular instance because I wasn't there. However I'm sure that if you have had kids playing soccer for many years then you, like I, have seen games get out of hand from time to time and feature multiple sendings off. And in every single case that I have directly observed, the referee's performance has been at least partly responsible for the situation. That's not to say that the situation is the referee's fault entirely. But my guess is that there are some refs who never have a game where this happens, and other refs to whom it happens with some frequency.

In general what leads to this type of game is the ref not handing out yellow cards when they are warranted in a U14/U15 and older game. What happens at these ages is that the kids, if they see that the ref will not protect them, start to retaliate and tempers get out of control. This is already a dangerous situation and if the ref realizes what's happening, he needs stay calm, but firmly read both teams the riot act and talk to the coaches and start handing out yellow cards when they are warranted. Unfortunately a ref who has missed a lot of yellow cards already rarely realizes his error (or is incapable of correcting it), and either does nothing or starts calling every little foul and handing out yellow cards when they are not warranted because he is worried that things are getting out of control. Both of these responses further exacerbate the situation. By this point there will likely be angry spectators too. And then the whole thing explodes and I've even seen refs lose tehir temper and start screaming at all and sundry as well. At some point in that chain of events the players have basically lost all respect for the ref, and once that has happened the ref will never regain control. He sends people off, but that just makes everyone angrier still so he has to keep doing it. And don't get me wrong - the sending off offenses are real and the players need to be sent off - but the situation would never have occurred if the ref hadn't lost control of events in the first place.

[Anonymous]

RantingSoccerDad wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If that's a 2008 boy, I don't think you should list his name on here. If it's the coach, fine.

the players are only by #s
the officials are the other

Oh, that's the ref's name! I was thinking it was the coach's. I've never seen this sort of report.

So that's three people sent off, one of whom was additionally cited for "abuse of official"?

And is that an assault on an official, or is that just a blank field?

For starters, this ref. report is from a different tournament than Herndon tournament, where the alleged assault occurred. The player probably said something unflattering to the ref about one of his calls and got ejected. Abuse of official = complaining about a call in a disrespectful way. That's what normally "abuse of official" means at youth games.

[Anonymous]

I would love to hear a Ref yell back at a parent :”Hey you can blame yourself for your kids bad genetics as to why he sucks so bad out here” or “kid we both no your not good enough to be out here playing”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would love to hear a Ref yell back at a parent :”Hey you can blame yourself for your kids bad genetics as to why he sucks so bad out here” or “kid we both no your not good enough to be out here playing”

I’ve done that. I ended up cashing 6 figures in a lawsuit for being physically assaulted by one of these mental “parents”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would love to hear a Ref yell back at a parent :”Hey you can blame yourself for your kids bad genetics as to why he sucks so bad out here” or “kid we both no your not good enough to be out here playing”

A ref who did that should never be allowed to ref another game.

[Anonymous]

RantingSoccerDad wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to hear a Ref yell back at a parent :”Hey you can blame yourself for your kids bad genetics as to why he sucks so bad out here” or “kid we both no your not good enough to be out here playing”

I’ve done that. I ended up cashing 6 figures in a lawsuit for being physically assaulted by one of these mental “parents”

I once told some parents they paid a lot of money to watch a sport for which they don’t know the rules.

I’m not proud of that,

I'm glad you're not proud of it. A ref who does something like that has lost control of himself, and if you can't control yourself then how can you hope to control 22 other people?

[Anonymous]

I don’t see why it’s wrong for a ref to say this:

I once told some parents they paid a lot of money to watch a sport for which they don’t know the rules.

As a parent, there are lots of a-holes on the sidelines and they very rarely actually know what they’re talking about…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see why it’s wrong for a ref to say this:

I once told some parents they paid a lot of money to watch a sport for which they don’t know the rules.

As a parent, there are lots of a-holes on the sidelines and they very rarely actually know what they’re talking about…

Because a ref who starts to pick fights with anyone loses the respect of the players, the coaches, and the spectators. Once he has crossed that line, he can no longer control the game so he has rendered himself entirely ineffective at the job he is there to do. It doesn't matter in the slightest if he is 100% correct in his assertion, his action is 100% counterproductive.

This akin to a man with an ugly wife telling her she is ugly. Is he correct? Sure in the narrow sense that he is telling the truth. In every other sense he is a moron.