How often do you yell at your kids? Or...

[Anonymous]

We have a "Job jar" and a "Good job jar." I printed out some jobs and some rewards (and the kids helped to make a few on their own as well), folded the papers, and put them in jars.
My daughter helped to decorate them.

There are four rules:
1) Keep your hands to yourself.
2) Tell the truth.
3) Be kind.
4) Follow directions.

When kids follow the rules, they get a reward (most of the rewards are solo time with parents). When they don't follow the rules, they have to choose a job. There is no TV/video games/dessert until they finish the job. I have one who is really stubborn and would take hours to finish his job sometimes. So, we made it that kids can still participate in family meals, play basketball with their siblings, etc. even if they still have a job to do.

I try to do rewards much more often than jobs.

The cards I use are here:

https://www.boystown.org/parenting/Pages/joy-cards.aspx