Do married men have crushes?

[Anonymous]

My DH has had crushes on celebrities and some neighborhood women and I think women at work. As for as I know, he's never acted upon it. Who knows though.

[Anonymous]

Yes. We go in for couples massages and one of the masseuse makes me rock hard and the wife sees it under the sheet. She knows I have a crush and just says I shouldn’t go there without her. I also have a work crush that sends me flirty texts and selfies here and there (nothing nude) but the wife doesn’t know about this one. I wouldn’t do anything that crosses the boundaries of marriage but often fantasize about her while I’m with my wife. It’s human nature

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. We go in for couples massages and one of the masseuse makes me rock hard and the wife sees it under the sheet. She knows I have a crush and just says I shouldn’t go there without her. I also have a work crush that sends me flirty texts and selfies here and there (nothing nude) but the wife doesn’t know about this one. I wouldn’t do anything that crosses the boundaries of marriage but often fantasize about her while I’m with my wife. It’s human nature

Um..the work crush IS inappropriate and does cross the line. Not to mention unprofessional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. We go in for couples massages and one of the masseuse makes me rock hard and the wife sees it under the sheet. She knows I have a crush and just says I shouldn’t go there without her. I also have a work crush that sends me flirty texts and selfies here and there (nothing nude) but the wife doesn’t know about this one. I wouldn’t do anything that crosses the boundaries of marriage but often fantasize about her while I’m with my wife. It’s human nature

Dude. You already are. You need to shut down that work thing FAST you are playing with fire and this is already enough for her to cause some serious damage to your relationship if you shut it down and she tells your wife. You better tell your wife and shut that chick down NOW.

[Anonymous]

Not me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. We go in for couples massages and one of the masseuse makes me rock hard and the wife sees it under the sheet. She knows I have a crush and just says I shouldn’t go there without her. I also have a work crush that sends me flirty texts and selfies here and there (nothing nude) but the wife doesn’t know about this one. I wouldn’t do anything that crosses the boundaries of marriage but often fantasize about her while I’m with my wife. It’s human nature

Dude. You already are. You need to shut down that work thing FAST you are playing with fire and this is already enough for her to cause some serious damage to your relationship if you shut it down and she tells your wife. You better tell your wife and shut that chick down NOW.

This. She could also cause problems for your job/career.

[Anonymous]

All the time

[Anonymous]

My work crush is just that. A crush. I wouldn’t risk ruining my marriage just for a work fling. My wife doesn’t crave intimacy so my work crush fulfills a small part of affection that I crave.

[Anonymous]

Yes… Your Mom.

[Anonymous]

I have crushes, and I find I usually fantasize about one in particular at a time, until that one fades, then a new one starts. These crushes have become more intense since my wife and I stopped having a regular sex life. I acted on it with one and it became very messy so I am more careful now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH has had a crush for nearly 10 years.
Never acted on it.
The actress, Naomie Harris.

She is gorgeous.

Gross. Too hairy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have crushes, and I find I usually fantasize about one in particular at a time, until that one fades, then a new one starts. These crushes have become more intense since my wife and I stopped having a regular sex life. I acted on it with one and it became very messy so I am more careful now.

Messy how?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My work crush is just that. A crush. I wouldn’t risk ruining my marriage just for a work fling. My wife doesn’t crave intimacy so my work crush fulfills a small part of affection that I crave.

She probably does crave intimacy, but you guys are just crossing paths with bids for intimacy and efforts, and maybe she is also just struggling with life too. Not trying to tell you you’re doing something wrong but it’s rare that somebody really, literally doesn’t want to be close to another person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. We go in for couples massages and one of the masseuse makes me rock hard and the wife sees it under the sheet. She knows I have a crush and just says I shouldn’t go there without her. I also have a work crush that sends me flirty texts and selfies here and there (nothing nude) but the wife doesn’t know about this one. I wouldn’t do anything that crosses the boundaries of marriage but often fantasize about her while I’m with my wife. It’s human nature

“It’s human nature” is such an absurd excuse for sending flirty texts that you hide from your spouse. It’s human nature for me to yell at my kids when I’m angry but I don’t do it because I know it’s wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have crushes, and I find I usually fantasize about one in particular at a time, until that one fades, then a new one starts. These crushes have become more intense since my wife and I stopped having a regular sex life. I acted on it with one and it became very messy so I am more careful now.

Messy how?

Messy because when we finally had sex it was amazing, you forget how great life is with regular sex. She ended up falling for me, and it eventually turned ugly with her making more demands of my time and getting very angry when I had to leave. Our last meeting ended badly and we aren't in touch. Which is a shame because we were friends before. I wouldn't do it again with someone who is single (she was recently divorced).