Why have sleepovers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two teenage girls and usually one if not both have sleepovers every weekend. It’s not uncommon for us to have 2-4 girls sleeping in our basement on any given Friday or Saturday night.

My son says he knows when girls are having sleepovers because he gets random texts in the middle of the night. He's 13yr.

My 16yr. old son says when girls have sleep overs they sneak out or send racy pics in the middle of the night.

Nothing good happens after 10pm, teen edition.

[Anonymous]

Sleepovers allow girls to explore their non-binary sexuality with each other in a safe environment; the key ingredient is to provide privacy. Much less common occurrence with boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sleepovers allow girls to explore their non-binary sexuality with each other in a safe environment; the key ingredient is to provide privacy. Much less common occurrence with boys.

I didn't have this experience at all. I slept over at someone's house or they at mine almost every weekend growing up. Nothing like this ever happened. We made popcorn, watched movies or tv, did our nails, played games, it was all good clean fun.

[Anonymous]

I had no idea that sleepovers weren't done around this area until I discovered DCUM.

I grew up in VA and had a sleepover nearly every weekend. It was when my friends and I bonded the most discussing things we couldn't in school.

We live in VA now and my kids have always had sleepovers. Probably around 1 or 2 a month, sometimes more.

We'll be hosting two girls tonight for a sleepover. My 14 yo DD and the two girls are going to a local haunted house beforehand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two teenage girls and usually one if not both have sleepovers every weekend. It’s not uncommon for us to have 2-4 girls sleeping in our basement on any given Friday or Saturday night.

My son says he knows when girls are having sleepovers because he gets random texts in the middle of the night. He's 13yr.

My 16yr. old son says when girls have sleep overs they sneak out or send racy pics in the middle of the night.

Nothing good happens after 10pm, teen edition.

Sleepovers every weekend sounds like a very terrible idea for so many reasons.

[Anonymous]

I think the frequency and age is what is unique for some parents. The occasional sleepover? Sure. Sleepovers in middle school? No bid deal. Every other weekend? Eh. Every weekend? No. Once they have a license? Not necessary unless someone’s been drinking. Coed? Not a chance. Now that everyone’s exploring and post middle school? Fahgedabouded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sleepovers allow girls to explore their non-binary sexuality with each other in a safe environment; the key ingredient is to provide privacy. Much less common occurrence with boys.

I didn't have this experience at all. I slept over at someone's house or they at mine almost every weekend growing up. Nothing like this ever happened. We made popcorn, watched movies or tv, did our nails, played games, it was all good clean fun.

Same. We made up a lot of dances (or copied the choreography) to popular songs, created skits, watched movies, took Cosmo quizzes (my kids now take Buzzfeed quizzes), baked or made ice cream sundaes, made pancakes or waffles in the mornings, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sleepovers allow girls to explore their non-binary sexuality with each other in a safe environment; the key ingredient is to provide privacy. Much less common occurrence with boys.

I didn't have this experience at all. I slept over at someone's house or they at mine almost every weekend growing up. Nothing like this ever happened. We made popcorn, watched movies or tv, did our nails, played games, it was all good clean fun.

Same. We made up a lot of dances (or copied the choreography) to popular songs, created skits, watched movies, took Cosmo quizzes (my kids now take Buzzfeed quizzes), baked or made ice cream sundaes, made pancakes or waffles in the mornings, etc.

People... times have changed!

I'm sure you were not wearing skimpy clothes, vaping, "experimenting", etc. Now a days, that's all normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Growing up in an Italian American family in the 70s sleepovers were never allowed. It was just never done. I still don’t get them. My kids did them maybe once. I don’t like them.

I’m not sure what being Italian has to do with it. I grew up in the same time and has lots of sleepovers. Many were with cousins and so many of us ans the relatives would be in the same house. But more often they were with friends. Everyone was always welcome and they were a joyful part of my childhood. We would stay up and talk and eat all night. My house always had a ton food. We would sleep with sleeping bags in the living room or on the back porch.

Now as a parent, I don’t like them because my kids are so cranky the next day. But I allow it occasionally with certain friends because i remember how much fun we had.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sleepovers allow girls to explore their non-binary sexuality with each other in a safe environment; the key ingredient is to provide privacy. Much less common occurrence with boys.

I didn't have this experience at all. I slept over at someone's house or they at mine almost every weekend growing up. Nothing like this ever happened. We made popcorn, watched movies or tv, did our nails, played games, it was all good clean fun.

Same. We made up a lot of dances (or copied the choreography) to popular songs, created skits, watched movies, took Cosmo quizzes (my kids now take Buzzfeed quizzes), baked or made ice cream sundaes, made pancakes or waffles in the mornings, etc.

People... times have changed!

I'm sure you were not wearing skimpy clothes, vaping, "experimenting", etc. Now a days, that's all normal.

No, the experimenting might be new at sleep overs. But we did plenty of smoking and drinking back in the day. At parties. Not necessarily at sleep overs. Do kids still go to parties?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sleepovers allow girls to explore their non-binary sexuality with each other in a safe environment; the key ingredient is to provide privacy. Much less common occurrence with boys.

I didn't have this experience at all. I slept over at someone's house or they at mine almost every weekend growing up. Nothing like this ever happened. We made popcorn, watched movies or tv, did our nails, played games, it was all good clean fun.

Same. We made up a lot of dances (or copied the choreography) to popular songs, created skits, watched movies, took Cosmo quizzes (my kids now take Buzzfeed quizzes), baked or made ice cream sundaes, made pancakes or waffles in the mornings, etc.

People... times have changed!

I'm sure you were not wearing skimpy clothes, vaping, "experimenting", etc. Now a days, that's all normal.

No, my friends and I were all wearing skimpy clothes - short skirts, tops that shown our stomachs, skintight jeans (remember Farlows?), and some smoked cigarettes or weed, but a lot of us didn’t. Not everyone is vaping or being sexual these days. Some of us have kids who don’t vape . My DD had her first boyfriend at 18, although she became friends with him at 16.

[Anonymous]

In MS, I had fun sleepovers with a friend - movies, snacks, magazines.

In HS, I had sleepovers and we would stay up all night pondering life, talking boys, and towards late high school - sneaking out/drinking. Always at my friend’s house because her parents never paid attention.

I’d totally let my girls do sleepovers were it not for covid. Now one of them is gay, so there is some consideration around that but she also hasn’t asked. I don’t get the sense that her close friends have sleepovers though. My younger kid who can’t be vaxxed asks all the time and until vaccines are done, answer is no. She’s also my “party all night” kid - so that makes me not want to host. 😳

[Anonymous]

What’s up with eating all night?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We rarely do sleepovers. Only with people we know really well. There is no benefit, honestly, only more opportunity for negative things to happen.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sleepovers allow girls to explore their non-binary sexuality with each other in a safe environment; the key ingredient is to provide privacy. Much less common occurrence with boys.

I didn't have this experience at all. I slept over at someone's house or they at mine almost every weekend growing up. Nothing like this ever happened. We made popcorn, watched movies or tv, did our nails, played games, it was all good clean fun.

Yeah, same...

I LOVED sleepovers for a lot the reasons mentioned: fun, got to see how other families lived, got to know the parents better (other adults in your kids life can be a good thing), try new cooking/meals we didn't make in our house. But at night- that is when you would have deep conversations, eat a bag of hershey's kisses, watch movies, experiment with makeup and hair...that is the kind of stuff we did. Nothing sexual- at all.

My kids do them regularly with one close family. But my kids also go to sleep-away camp for the summer too. Kids getting out from under their own parents 24/7 is a good thing.