Has Anyone Abstained Before Wedding?

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Anonymous wrote:That seems kind of silly and regressive.

No. The times where he was out of town or a week where we were super busy and didn’t have the time was hot. It was like a raw sexual nature took over and we couldn’t wait to get our hands on each other. It was like having sex again for the first time. We abstained for two weeks before the wedding and it made it made the desire much stronger.

Have you continued to deliberately abstain for periods of time since getting married to boost your sexual desire?

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So sex had gotten boring before your wedding but didn’t get boring again afterward? I am trying to understand a reason for your decision that doesn’t ultimately feed into some outdated notions of pre-marital purity.

No. The sex is still amazing. It has nothing to do what purity. It was just the time of being away made our connection and desire much stronger and we wanted that again. We f*cked the entire honeymoon and it was bliss.

Stop with the purity nonsense. I never once mentioned that or said anything about it.

I also never said sex was boring. I said the desire was much stronger with time away or busy weeks. Stop trying to twist my words and make drama where there is none.

Hey, you do you. I still think it seems silly and regressive.

New poster, not the one to whom you're responding, PP in bold but....Do you see how telling someone "you do you" then following that by insulting their choice as "silly and regressive" (doubling down, since you said that once already) is contradictory?

Why the compulsion to be insulting? That poster and others have said what works for them. It doesn't work for you. You do you. See how that's supposed to go?

NP. I agree with the PP who said it has regressive undertones -- and she later explained why more fully -- and "you do you, but it's silly" is what someone says when they realize the person they're talking to isn't smart enough to understand nuance.

[Anonymous]

This probably doesn't count, but my husband and I did not have sex until our wedding night (though I was not a virgin). We left the reception early and the experience was positively electric.

He gets the same way (like animal, rawrrr) if I'm gone out of town for a weekend or after my period. I say go for it!

[Anonymous]

Never abstain when it's available. You never know where you or your partner are going to die.

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We're not at all observant but we did the "not seeing each other for a week before the wedding" Jewish tradition. The moment we saw each other on our wedding day was really special. And the sex that night was incredible.

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Anonymous wrote:Never abstain when it's available. You never know where you or your partner are going to die.

Yes. That motivated most of my life and decisions. I eat and drink to excess. I duck till I’m sore. I have affairs. Because, Troy never know when you are going to die.

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Anonymous wrote:That seems kind of silly and regressive.

No. The times where he was out of town or a week where we were super busy and didn’t have the time was hot. It was like a raw sexual nature took over and we couldn’t wait to get our hands on each other. It was like having sex again for the first time. We abstained for two weeks before the wedding and it made it made the desire much stronger.

Have you continued to deliberately abstain for periods of time since getting married to boost your sexual desire?

No.

So sex had gotten boring before your wedding but didn’t get boring again afterward? I am trying to understand a reason for your decision that doesn’t ultimately feed into some outdated notions of pre-marital purity.

No. The sex is still amazing. It has nothing to do what purity. It was just the time of being away made our connection and desire much stronger and we wanted that again. We f*cked the entire honeymoon and it was bliss.

Stop with the purity nonsense. I never once mentioned that or said anything about it.

I also never said sex was boring. I said the desire was much stronger with time away or busy weeks. Stop trying to twist my words and make drama where there is none.

So, you never responded to that PP's point. If abstaining for a week was so great for reinvigorating your connection and desire, why haven't you done that again periodically after being married?