Has Anyone Abstained Before Wedding?

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine told me that her and her husband abstained from sex for two weeks before the wedding. She said it made the sex much more exciting and something to look forward to. I’m considering it. Have you ever done it? Do you think it was worth it?

[Anonymous]

We did it by accident because we were busy with wedding planning stuff. I don't think it made a huge difference though.

[Anonymous]

That seems kind of silly and regressive.

[Anonymous]

You’re going to be absolutely exhausted after the wedding. We did the deed almost out of obligation but we were just pooped.

I’m a fan of Dan Savage’s advice to do the deed before a big event. Do it the morning of!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That seems kind of silly and regressive.

+1 hypocritical and weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That seems kind of silly and regressive.

No. The times where he was out of town or a week where we were super busy and didn’t have the time was hot. It was like a raw sexual nature took over and we couldn’t wait to get our hands on each other. It was like having sex again for the first time. We abstained for two weeks before the wedding and it made it made the desire much stronger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That seems kind of silly and regressive.

+1 hypocritical and weird.

How is it hypocritical?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That seems kind of silly and regressive.

No. The times where he was out of town or a week where we were super busy and didn’t have the time was hot. It was like a raw sexual nature took over and we couldn’t wait to get our hands on each other. It was like having sex again for the first time. We abstained for two weeks before the wedding and it made it made the desire much stronger.

Have you continued to deliberately abstain for periods of time since getting married to boost your sexual desire?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That seems kind of silly and regressive.

No. The times where he was out of town or a week where we were super busy and didn’t have the time was hot. It was like a raw sexual nature took over and we couldn’t wait to get our hands on each other. It was like having sex again for the first time. We abstained for two weeks before the wedding and it made it made the desire much stronger.

Have you continued to deliberately abstain for periods of time since getting married to boost your sexual desire?

No.

[Anonymous]

No. Ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That seems kind of silly and regressive.

No. The times where he was out of town or a week where we were super busy and didn’t have the time was hot. It was like a raw sexual nature took over and we couldn’t wait to get our hands on each other. It was like having sex again for the first time. We abstained for two weeks before the wedding and it made it made the desire much stronger.

Have you continued to deliberately abstain for periods of time since getting married to boost your sexual desire?

No.

So sex had gotten boring before your wedding but didn’t get boring again afterward? I am trying to understand a reason for your decision that doesn’t ultimately feed into some outdated notions of pre-marital purity.

[Anonymous]

Why would you take away such a significant source of intimacy in your relationship right before getting married? It’s like putting up a wall between you at the time you should be at your closest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That seems kind of silly and regressive.

No. The times where he was out of town or a week where we were super busy and didn’t have the time was hot. It was like a raw sexual nature took over and we couldn’t wait to get our hands on each other. It was like having sex again for the first time. We abstained for two weeks before the wedding and it made it made the desire much stronger.

Have you continued to deliberately abstain for periods of time since getting married to boost your sexual desire?

No.

So sex had gotten boring before your wedding but didn’t get boring again afterward? I am trying to understand a reason for your decision that doesn’t ultimately feed into some outdated notions of pre-marital purity.

No. The sex is still amazing. It has nothing to do what purity. It was just the time of being away made our connection and desire much stronger and we wanted that again. We f*cked the entire honeymoon and it was bliss.

Stop with the purity nonsense. I never once mentioned that or said anything about it.

[Anonymous]

We abstained completely.

[Anonymous]

As a guy going even one week without makes me horny as hell so I can see some value in abstaining for a week or so before the wedding.