Freshman high school DD does NOTHING

[Anonymous]

OP, lots of cool ideas on here as to how she can turn reading into an EC. Encourage your DD to find or develop something over the coming year. It's not just padding for applications. She'll learn lots of life skills in the process and start to explore how interests can relate to jobs or careers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look into colleges in Britain. They don’t care about EC’s. Just grades and test scores. Reading extensively will be seen as a plus.

Also: English-language bachelor’s programs throughout Europe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she cute in an above average way?

Get her off the stress train that is the USA.

Send her to college in Europe perhaps guide her to build a life in the Netherlands where women are happier and only want to work part time.

Dutch women for example have no interest in working full time.

European colleges don’t care about extra curriculars.

OMG-why do you bring up looks?

That is so sexist. Can we please just stop with pretending this is woman's most important trait. I don't think you would say that for a male student

Id be harder on a male student.

In a odd way, I am forecasting the returns to aesthetics get even stronger in the 20s and 30s as automation, smart algos, robotics etc erode more and more skills.

This applies to men as well — not as starkly in some ways but even more brutal in other ways.

I’d much rather have an average looking averaged skilled daughter than an average looking average skilled son these next few decades.

For a male student, I would already tell him if he was below the 80th percentile in abilities/skills to scratch out enough money for a solitary existence and then do van-by-the-river life.

The Netherlands has great English-language bachelor’s programs for maybe about $35,000 per year, all-in, but the students have to work hard to get through the programs. Qualifying to stay in the Netherlands without marrying someone or being engaged to someone is hard. And housing costs are very high there. Students might be better off looking for programs in places like Italy or Bulgaria, where costs are lower.

[Anonymous]

Start instagram acct reviewing or highlighting books.
My friend’s son did one for music and he seriously has like 15K people following. In 6 months. It’s crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Start instagram acct reviewing or highlighting books.
My friend’s son did one for music and he seriously has like 15K people following. In 6 months. It’s crazy.

Ugh. Opens up the teen to all kinds of idiots out there on social media. From what OP said it sounds like reviews on Instagram would be a complete turnoff for her DD. Just, no.

To the OP: You mentioned Model UN and tossed that off as if it's nothing. It's a great activity. Why so dismissive?

Please focus more on ensuring she can write well and fluidly and can express who she is and what motivates her. Any student who can write well is going to (a) do better in college and (b) do better on college applications. Better to be a kid who can write with genuine enthusiasm about how a certain book changed her life, than to be a kid who crammed in a bunch of "president of club Z, founded my own charity Y" stuff in HS just to pad a resume. Colleges DO see through the resume-padding activities, by the way.

If she wants to start a book club at school, that would be fantastic--and genuine. Being her genuine self will actually help her on admissions, not hurt her.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is she cute in an above average way?

Get her off the stress train that is the USA.

Send her to college in Europe perhaps guide her to build a life in the Netherlands where women are happier and only want to work part time.

Dutch women for example have no interest in working full time.

European colleges don’t care about extra curriculars.

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OMG-why do you bring up looks?

That is so sexist. Can we please just stop with pretending this is woman's most important trait. I don't think you would say that for a male student [/quote]

Id be harder on a male student.

In a odd way, I am forecasting the returns to aesthetics get even stronger in the 20s and 30s as automation, smart algos, robotics etc erode more and more skills.

This applies to men as well — not as starkly in some ways but even more brutal in other ways.

I’d much rather have an average looking averaged skilled daughter than an average looking average skilled son these next few decades.

For a male student, I would already tell him if he was below the 80th percentile in abilities/skills to scratch out enough money for a solitary existence and then do van-by-the-river life.

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Uhhhh.. are you okay? It seems like you’re maybe not okay.

If your workplace has an employee assistance program, consider reaching out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she cute in an above average way?

Get her off the stress train that is the USA.

Send her to college in Europe perhaps guide her to build a life in the Netherlands where women are happier and only want to work part time.

Dutch women for example have no interest in working full time.

European colleges don’t care about extra curriculars.

OMG-why do you bring up looks?

That is so sexist. Can we please just stop with pretending this is woman's most important trait. I don't think you would say that for a male student

Id be harder on a male student.

In a odd way, I am forecasting the returns to aesthetics get even stronger in the 20s and 30s as automation, smart algos, robotics etc erode more and more skills.

This applies to men as well — not as starkly in some ways but even more brutal in other ways.

I’d much rather have an average looking averaged skilled daughter than an average looking average skilled son these next few decades.

For a male student, I would already tell him if he was below the 80th percentile in abilities/skills to scratch out enough money for a solitary existence and then do van-by-the-river life.

This wins the "dumbest thing I've read on DCUM this year award." Congrats.