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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think STA would be fine as long as your kid isn't a goth (i.e. really out there, blue hair, lip piercings, death metal kind of kid).

Why can’t this type get in?

They might get in but wouldn't love the dress code

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I went to NCS and would never ever send my son to St Albany’s, or likely any all boys schools for that matter. Incredibly sexist atmosphere that was demeaning to women. As an ncs girl if you walked down the hallway, they would all stop and stare. If you were in one of their classes, they would stare at you, and often snicker when you commented in class. Sexual harassing jokes in the school publications, etc. Never, never, never would I send my son there.

What’s ironic is this type of attitude (looking for offense, unable to deal with the real world without whining and lashing out) being fostered at NCS is why so many parents send their boys to STA but never even consider sending their girls to NCS.

Wow. I’ve never heard this line before. “So many,” huh? Where do these families send their girls? And if you are one of them, glad my kid is not around the likes of you.

No need for insults! It’s simply the truth. There’s an awful lot of families who send their sons to STA and their daughters to Stone Ridge or Visi bc they don’t like the atmosphere NCS has created for girls. It’s a fantastic school in many ways (we strongly considered it) but it seems to be turning out a lot of girls who are overworked, brittle, and angry at the world.

It could very well be that NCS is full of parents who refuse to send their sons to STA and instead send them to Gonzaga or Georgetown Prep. I honestly don’t know. I just know that I’ve met as many families at STA whose girls attend a school other than NCS (by choice, not because they couldn’t get in) as I have families whose daughters attend NCS.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think STA would be fine as long as your kid isn't a goth (i.e. really out there, blue hair, lip piercings, death metal kind of kid).

Why can’t this type get in?

They might get in but wouldn't love the dress code

Where would they love a dress code?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think STA would be fine as long as your kid isn't a goth (i.e. really out there, blue hair, lip piercings, death metal kind of kid).

Why can’t this type get in?

They might get in but wouldn't love the dress code

Where would they love a dress code?

Um, they'd love a place without one...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to NCS and would never ever send my son to St Albany’s, or likely any all boys schools for that matter. Incredibly sexist atmosphere that was demeaning to women. As an ncs girl if you walked down the hallway, they would all stop and stare. If you were in one of their classes, they would stare at you, and often snicker when you commented in class. Sexual harassing jokes in the school publications, etc. Never, never, never would I send my son there.

What’s ironic is this type of attitude (looking for offense, unable to deal with the real world without whining and lashing out) being fostered at NCS is why so many parents send their boys to STA but never even consider sending their girls to NCS.

Wow. I’ve never heard this line before. “So many,” huh? Where do these families send their girls? And if you are one of them, glad my kid is not around the likes of you.

No need for insults! It’s simply the truth. There’s an awful lot of families who send their sons to STA and their daughters to Stone Ridge or Visi bc they don’t like the atmosphere NCS has created for girls. It’s a fantastic school in many ways (we strongly considered it) but it seems to be turning out a lot of girls who are overworked, brittle, and angry at the world.

It could very well be that NCS is full of parents who refuse to send their sons to STA and instead send them to Gonzaga or Georgetown Prep. I honestly don’t know. I just know that I’ve met as many families at STA whose girls attend a school other than NCS (by choice, not because they couldn’t get in) as I have families whose daughters attend NCS.

The families that don’t send their daughters to NCS tend to be very conservative and club oriented and NCS is not predominately either of those things so it’s not the culture they want. That is the truth.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to NCS and would never ever send my son to St Albany’s, or likely any all boys schools for that matter. Incredibly sexist atmosphere that was demeaning to women. As an ncs girl if you walked down the hallway, they would all stop and stare. If you were in one of their classes, they would stare at you, and often snicker when you commented in class. Sexual harassing jokes in the school publications, etc. Never, never, never would I send my son there.

What’s ironic is this type of attitude (looking for offense, unable to deal with the real world without whining and lashing out) being fostered at NCS is why so many parents send their boys to STA but never even consider sending their girls to NCS.

Wow. I’ve never heard this line before. “So many,” huh? Where do these families send their girls? And if you are one of them, glad my kid is not around the likes of you.

No need for insults! It’s simply the truth. There’s an awful lot of families who send their sons to STA and their daughters to Stone Ridge or Visi bc they don’t like the atmosphere NCS has created for girls. It’s a fantastic school in many ways (we strongly considered it) but it seems to be turning out a lot of girls who are overworked, brittle, and angry at the world.

It could very well be that NCS is full of parents who refuse to send their sons to STA and instead send them to Gonzaga or Georgetown Prep. I honestly don’t know. I just know that I’ve met as many families at STA whose girls attend a school other than NCS (by choice, not because they couldn’t get in) as I have families whose daughters attend NCS.

The families that don’t send their daughters to NCS tend to be very conservative and club oriented and NCS is not predominately either of those things so it’s not the culture they want. That is the truth.

+2 NCS is also really tough academically.

[Anonymous]

The families that don’t send their daughters to NCS tend to be very conservative and club oriented and NCS is not predominately either of those things so it’s not the culture they want. That is the truth.

NP. We have sons that attend/attended STA. We are not conservative or clubby, but did not consider NCS for our daughters after hearing from multiple people about a less than collaborative, very competitive environment. Our daughters were definitely strong enough academically to handle NCS, so that was never a concern. Anecdotally, at least half my son’s friends who have sisters attend/attended Sidwell, Holton or Visi, and many of of these girls are from liberal, political families.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think STA would be fine as long as your kid isn't a goth (i.e. really out there, blue hair, lip piercings, death metal kind of kid).

Why can’t this type get in?

They might get in but wouldn't love the dress code

Where would they love a dress code?

Actually most boys there I know love the dress code. That's actually a telltale sign of one's future happiness there. Is your son/family a dress code type or do you find the uniformity and conformity confining if not a suppression of self. Also, the dress code tends to be very preppy. If that's your thing, you will feel comfortable at St Albans.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think STA would be fine as long as your kid isn't a goth (i.e. really out there, blue hair, lip piercings, death metal kind of kid).

Why can’t this type get in?

They might get in but wouldn't love the dress code

Where would they love a dress code?

Actually most boys there I know love the dress code. That's actually a telltale sign of one's future happiness there. Is your son/family a dress code type or do you find the uniformity and conformity confining if not a suppression of self. Also, the dress code tends to be very preppy. If that's your thing, you will feel comfortable at St Albans.

Agree with this. The dress code is either a positive or a non-issue for my son and his friends (high school). If it's not a kid's thing it's probably not a great fit. Different kids like different schools.

[Anonymous]

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The families that don’t send their daughters to NCS tend to be very conservative and club oriented and NCS is not predominately either of those things so it’s not the culture they want. That is the truth.

NP. We have sons that attend/attended STA. We are not conservative or clubby, but did not consider NCS for our daughters after hearing from multiple people about a less than collaborative, very competitive environment. Our daughters were definitely strong enough academically to handle NCS, so that was never a concern. Anecdotally, at least half my son’s friends who have sisters attend/attended Sidwell, Holton or Visi, and many of of these girls are from liberal, political families.

Good for them. NCS is I actually over enrolled and had a very high yield so I think they are just fine with their admissions. Different schools work for different people. I don’t think anyone is keeping track of this except you possibly. It really doesn’t matter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

The families that don’t send their daughters to NCS tend to be very conservative and club oriented and NCS is not predominately either of those things so it’s not the culture they want. That is the truth.

NP. We have sons that attend/attended STA. We are not conservative or clubby, but did not consider NCS for our daughters after hearing from multiple people about a less than collaborative, very competitive environment. Our daughters were definitely strong enough academically to handle NCS, so that was never a concern. Anecdotally, at least half my son’s friends who have sisters attend/attended Sidwell, Holton or Visi, and many of of these girls are from liberal, political families.

Good for them. NCS is I actually over enrolled and had a very high yield so I think they are just fine with their admissions. Different schools work for different people. I don’t think anyone is keeping track of this except you possibly. It really doesn’t matter.

+ 1000

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I went to NCS and would never ever send my son to St Albany’s, or likely any all boys schools for that matter. Incredibly sexist atmosphere that was demeaning to women. As an ncs girl if you walked down the hallway, they would all stop and stare. If you were in one of their classes, they would stare at you, and often snicker when you commented in class. Sexual harassing jokes in the school publications, etc. Never, never, never would I send my son there.

NP here, I am so sorry to hear this. We were thinking of applying to St. Albans in the future. Could I ask if this was a recent experience? I wonder how things are these days…

As a parent of a current boy, I would like to think that would not be your experience these days. My son enjoys having girls in his English class bc they speak up and are smart. Current head has spent a lot of time critically thinking about the importance of emotional development of boys at single sex schools. I also like that a lot of key faculty members are women (head of English dept, beloved math teacher, associate head of school etc). Frankly, my son thinks of girls as generally more put together than his male classmates.

I am sorry for your experience on behalf of the boys (but fwiw, I went to co-ed high school and also experienced male chauvinism and sexual harassment from male peers. If you graduated before “me too” feels like a different time. But again, want to emphasize that I am not making excuses for poor behavior you experienced. It is unacceptable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

The families that don’t send their daughters to NCS tend to be very conservative and club oriented and NCS is not predominately either of those things so it’s not the culture they want. That is the truth.

NP. We have sons that attend/attended STA. We are not conservative or clubby, but did not consider NCS for our daughters after hearing from multiple people about a less than collaborative, very competitive environment. Our daughters were definitely strong enough academically to handle NCS, so that was never a concern. Anecdotally, at least half my son’s friends who have sisters attend/attended Sidwell, Holton or Visi, and many of of these girls are from liberal, political families.

Good for them. NCS is I actually over enrolled and had a very high yield so I think they are just fine with their admissions. Different schools work for different people. I don’t think anyone is keeping track of this except you possibly. It really doesn’t matter.

+ 1000

yes. NCS does not need any more girls. The school is way overenrolled at present. We hope your daughters decide to go elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

The families that don’t send their daughters to NCS tend to be very conservative and club oriented and NCS is not predominately either of those things so it’s not the culture they want. That is the truth.

NP. We have sons that attend/attended STA. We are not conservative or clubby, but did not consider NCS for our daughters after hearing from multiple people about a less than collaborative, very competitive environment. Our daughters were definitely strong enough academically to handle NCS, so that was never a concern. Anecdotally, at least half my son’s friends who have sisters attend/attended Sidwell, Holton or Visi, and many of of these girls are from liberal, political families.

Good for them. NCS is I actually over enrolled and had a very high yield so I think they are just fine with their admissions. Different schools work for different people. I don’t think anyone is keeping track of this except you possibly. It really doesn’t matter.

+ 1000

yes. NCS does not need any more girls. The school is way overenrolled at present. We hope your daughters decide to go elsewhere.

Yikes. Is this really necessary? Kids go lots of places.

[Anonymous]

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The families that don’t send their daughters to NCS tend to be very conservative and club oriented and NCS is not predominately either of those things so it’s not the culture they want. That is the truth.

NP. We have sons that attend/attended STA. We are not conservative or clubby, but did not consider NCS for our daughters after hearing from multiple people about a less than collaborative, very competitive environment. Our daughters were definitely strong enough academically to handle NCS, so that was never a concern. Anecdotally, at least half my son’s friends who have sisters attend/attended Sidwell, Holton or Visi, and many of of these girls are from liberal, political families.

Another NP whose son attended STA and whose daughter opted out of NCS because she disliked the social atmosphere. We are far from a conservative/country club family.