My married crush just made a pass at me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this. Don't women realize that the vast majority of married men will absolutely cheat if an attractive (especially younger) woman shows interest?

I don’t know about the vast majority but there are many good men with this weakness who do not deserve to be burned at the stake for it. And no, I was in my mid-40s before I began to understand the world of men. Reading about it can only teach you so much and if you have been on the straight and narrow you don’t get any first hand experience.

Good men don't cheat on their wives.

[Anonymous]

FFS people are more than their worst mistake or greatest flaw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this. Don't women realize that the vast majority of married men will absolutely cheat if an attractive (especially younger) woman shows interest?

I don’t know about the vast majority but there are many good men with this weakness who do not deserve to be burned at the stake for it. And no, I was in my mid-40s before I began to understand the world of men. Reading about it can only teach you so much and if you have been on the straight and narrow you don’t get any first hand experience.

I think all the men and women actively cheating via Ashley Madison should be burned at the stake, but first the creators of the website.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this. Don't women realize that the vast majority of married men will absolutely cheat if an attractive (especially younger) woman shows interest?

I don’t know about the vast majority but there are many good men with this weakness who do not deserve to be burned at the stake for it. And no, I was in my mid-40s before I began to understand the world of men. Reading about it can only teach you so much and if you have been on the straight and narrow you don’t get any first hand experience.

I think all the men and women actively cheating via Ashley Madison should be burned at the stake, but first the creators of the website.

Okay, we’ll, that place is scummy but there are all kinds of people in the world besides that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this. Don't women realize that the vast majority of married men will absolutely cheat if an attractive (especially younger) woman shows interest?

I don’t know about the vast majority but there are many good men with this weakness who do not deserve to be burned at the stake for it. And no, I was in my mid-40s before I began to understand the world of men. Reading about it can only teach you so much and if you have been on the straight and narrow you don’t get any first hand experience.

I think all the men and women actively cheating via Ashley Madison should be burned at the stake, but first the creators of the website.

Okay, we’ll, that place is scummy but there are all kinds of people in the world besides that.

So these men/women are bad then, correct?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Same thing happened to me many years ago. I was like “dude your wife is amazing and you have kids, you are a serious sleezeball.” Crush dead, problem solved.

And of course you did absolutely nothing to let him know you were interested? You liked the attention, but when it got real you blamed him and called him a sleezeball? What does that make you?

Oh yes, making polite conversation with this dude and his wife during dinner was such a hussy thing to do. 🙄

Do some self-examination and consider why you jumped to the conclusion that i must have somehow contributed to his sleezy behavior. This says so much more about you than it does about me.

NP who agrees with the PP - you should ask yourself why the sleaze ball thought there was a chance that you might be interested. Guys like him have pretty good radar as to where to throw their bait.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Same thing happened to me many years ago. I was like “dude your wife is amazing and you have kids, you are a serious sleezeball.” Crush dead, problem solved.

And of course you did absolutely nothing to let him know you were interested? You liked the attention, but when it got real you blamed him and called him a sleezeball? What does that make you?

Oh yes, making polite conversation with this dude and his wife during dinner was such a hussy thing to do. 🙄

Do some self-examination and consider why you jumped to the conclusion that i must have somehow contributed to his sleezy behavior. This says so much more about you than it does about me.

NP who agrees with the PP - you should ask yourself why the sleaze ball thought there was a chance that you might be interested. Guys like him have pretty good radar as to where to throw their bait.

Wow you people are jerks. I was 18, on a road trip with a friend, chatting with a big group of people and that was our only interaction. Besides, even if I was flirting with him by talking to him and laughing at his jokes, it is sleazy for a married guy to make a pass at somebody, especially an 18 year old. He probably thought he had a chance because he was an entitled ass; you have no idea what kind of person he was. Don’t be victim blamers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Same thing happened to me many years ago. I was like “dude your wife is amazing and you have kids, you are a serious sleezeball.” Crush dead, problem solved.

And of course you did absolutely nothing to let him know you were interested? You liked the attention, but when it got real you blamed him and called him a sleezeball? What does that make you?

Oh yes, making polite conversation with this dude and his wife during dinner was such a hussy thing to do. 🙄

Do some self-examination and consider why you jumped to the conclusion that i must have somehow contributed to his sleezy behavior. This says so much more about you than it does about me.

NP who agrees with the PP - you should ask yourself why the sleaze ball thought there was a chance that you might be interested. Guys like him have pretty good radar as to where to throw their bait.

Wow you people are jerks. I was 18, on a road trip with a friend, chatting with a big group of people and that was our only interaction. Besides, even if I was flirting with him by talking to him and laughing at his jokes, it is sleazy for a married guy to make a pass at somebody, especially an 18 year old. He probably thought he had a chance because he was an entitled ass; you have no idea what kind of person he was. Don’t be victim blamers.

Except you weren't a victim; you were a willing participant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this. Don't women realize that the vast majority of married men will absolutely cheat if an attractive (especially younger) woman shows interest?

I don’t know about the vast majority but there are many good men with this weakness who do not deserve to be burned at the stake for it. And no, I was in my mid-40s before I began to understand the world of men. Reading about it can only teach you so much and if you have been on the straight and narrow you don’t get any first hand experience.

I think all the men and women actively cheating via Ashley Madison should be burned at the stake, but first the creators of the website.

Okay, we’ll, that place is scummy but there are all kinds of people in the world besides that.

So these men/women are bad then, correct?

The AM thing is not my cup of tea and seems super sleazy but I’m sure there are good and decent people who cheat for whatever reason and I’d at least try to understand it before judging their entire worth as people or spouses.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Same thing happened to me many years ago. I was like “dude your wife is amazing and you have kids, you are a serious sleezeball.” Crush dead, problem solved.

And of course you did absolutely nothing to let him know you were interested? You liked the attention, but when it got real you blamed him and called him a sleezeball? What does that make you?

Oh yes, making polite conversation with this dude and his wife during dinner was such a hussy thing to do. 🙄

Do some self-examination and consider why you jumped to the conclusion that i must have somehow contributed to his sleezy behavior. This says so much more about you than it does about me.

NP who agrees with the PP - you should ask yourself why the sleaze ball thought there was a chance that you might be interested. Guys like him have pretty good radar as to where to throw their bait.

Wow you people are jerks. I was 18, on a road trip with a friend, chatting with a big group of people and that was our only interaction. Besides, even if I was flirting with him by talking to him and laughing at his jokes, it is sleazy for a married guy to make a pass at somebody, especially an 18 year old. He probably thought he had a chance because he was an entitled ass; you have no idea what kind of person he was. Don’t be victim blamers.

Except you weren't a victim; you were a willing participant.

NP don’t pay any attention to these harridans. They are ridiculous Puritans who lack all sense of proportion.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Same thing happened to me many years ago. I was like “dude your wife is amazing and you have kids, you are a serious sleezeball.” Crush dead, problem solved.

And of course you did absolutely nothing to let him know you were interested? You liked the attention, but when it got real you blamed him and called him a sleezeball? What does that make you?

Oh yes, making polite conversation with this dude and his wife during dinner was such a hussy thing to do. 🙄

Do some self-examination and consider why you jumped to the conclusion that i must have somehow contributed to his sleezy behavior. This says so much more about you than it does about me.

NP who agrees with the PP - you should ask yourself why the sleaze ball thought there was a chance that you might be interested. Guys like him have pretty good radar as to where to throw their bait.

Wow you people are jerks. I was 18, on a road trip with a friend, chatting with a big group of people and that was our only interaction. Besides, even if I was flirting with him by talking to him and laughing at his jokes, it is sleazy for a married guy to make a pass at somebody, especially an 18 year old. He probably thought he had a chance because he was an entitled ass; you have no idea what kind of person he was. Don’t be victim blamers.

Except you weren't a victim; you were a willing participant.

NP don’t pay any attention to these harridans. They are ridiculous Puritans who lack all sense of proportion.

Why is wrong with you people? Have you never been in a situation where somebody made an unwanted, uninvited pass at you? You make it sound like that’s just not possible and that everybody who gets romantic/attention has done something to deserve it, or that if you have a normal conversation with somebody that’s as good as a “hey I’m willing to sleep with you!” You all are gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this. Don't women realize that the vast majority of married men will absolutely cheat if an attractive (especially younger) woman shows interest?

I don’t know about the vast majority but there are many good men with this weakness who do not deserve to be burned at the stake for it. And no, I was in my mid-40s before I began to understand the world of men. Reading about it can only teach you so much and if you have been on the straight and narrow you don’t get any first hand experience.

I think all the men and women actively cheating via Ashley Madison should be burned at the stake, but first the creators of the website.

Jesus what's wrong with people? Are you the poster in the other thread that said anyone who committed adultery should be punished by death? Following the same logic, do you also support cutting off the hands of anyone who steals (Taliban already does that)? And executing anyone who embezzles public money (China and Vietnam already do it) b/c it hurts more people than cheating on one's spouse? I never cheated or stole or embezzled, but you really sound unhinged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Which is pretty much curing the crush. Disillusionment is so helpful sometimes but also, sad.

I can relate to this. I am a married man who often has crushes on other Moms around town who I think are hot. I would never act on them in a million years, they are just fantasy. But if one of those Moms ever dropped a hint toward me or showed interest in actually doing something, I would view her as a loser and the crush would be over. (btw, I have no doubt that plenty of men have the same sort of crushes on my own wife).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this. Don't women realize that the vast majority of married men will absolutely cheat if an attractive (especially younger) woman shows interest?

Don't men realize that what they think of as women "showing interest" is actually women

- rubbing their eyes
- saying hello
- looking at the menu board
- politely asking for the time
- flirting with your friend
- walking down the street
- drinking a glass of water
- petting your dog
- sneezing
- eating a taco
- squinting into the sun
- scratching their arm
- looking for a public restroom
- exercising

... do I need to continue?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this. Don't women realize that the vast majority of married men will absolutely cheat if an attractive (especially younger) woman shows interest?

Don't men realize that what they think of as women "showing interest" is actually women

- rubbing their eyes
- saying hello
- looking at the menu board
- politely asking for the time
- flirting with your friend
- walking down the street
- drinking a glass of water
- petting your dog
- sneezing
- eating a taco
- squinting into the sun
- scratching their arm
- looking for a public restroom
- exercising

... do I need to continue?

Yes, could you continue please? This list is quite funny.