No response after sending flowers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend who lives on the opposite coast than me lost her father a few weeks ago. I waited until she was back in town from services for a few days before sending a condolence card and flowers. They were confirmed delivered and left by FedEx (signature not required). I haven’t heard from her since they were delivered (about 1.5 days). I know they are in town, and I’m presuming are just busy, but part of me wonders if the flowers could have been misdelivered or were left by a side door they don’t frequent. I am of course not demanding a thank you or anything at all like that, rather she’s the type of person who would let me know something was received, and I wanna make sure she got them .... but I don’t want to bother her at the same time. What would you do? Send a quick text or wait another couple days or not mention anything and see if I eventually hear from her? Trying to give her space as she settles back in, but I also know she would feel badly if the package was under a bush or something that she found a few weeks from now.

OP I can understand why you would want to know if she received the flowers, but I would wait to contact her till this weekend. And I would call her, but only to check in with her. If she got the flowers she'll acknowledge at that point that she received them. You're a good friend, please ignore the unhelpful and downright nasty responses.

[Anonymous]

I don’t see what the big deal is. Call her and see if she’s ok, mention that you sent flowers to help her grief. That’s all

[Anonymous]

I agree that it is better not to reach out & ask about the flowers 💐.

I would just assume that she received them, but is very distraught now + is actively grieving the loss of her beloved Father.

[Anonymous]

I spent about an hour trashing all the flowers my sister received after her husband's death because the smell made her sick. Literally an hour cutting them into pieces over her trash can. I did donate the vases.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You really shouldn’t have sent flowers if you needed this much attention over it. Honestly it would have been better to do nothing.

Seriously. We had a close loss this summer. It was a horrible time. If you had called in inquire about your damn flowers I would resent you for a long time for making it all about you.
Freaking give these people some space.

[Anonymous]

OP.
Let us give you the attention you seek:
"You are wonderful for sending her flowers."

Now please let your friend grieve in peace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus....you guys are so cruel it's truly unbelievable. It's like a feeding frenzy of complete jerks.

We aren't toe-tapping and awaiting a thank you note for sending flowers to someone who is grieving- so the cruelty isn't on our end.

There is a special place in hell for those keeping a tally of those who don't send thank you's for someone showing a standard gesture of support. If you really want to show support, don't make work for those who are grieving. This is not what support looks like.