Losing another pregnancy

[Anonymous]

This time it looked great, saw the heartbeat, now at 9 weeks, doctor couldn't find the heartbeat, says it stopped one or two days ago.

I'm beyond despondent and don't know how to go on. If I could sleep for a few months I would.

[Anonymous]

So sorry. Btdt 3x and went on to have two dc.

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I think it would help me a lot to hear about success stories like the second poster, who had multiple miscarriages but went on to succeed in becoming a mother.

This will be the second Mother's Day in a row that I am dealing with a fresh loss.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry. Mother's day is hard.

[Anonymous]

I am so so sorry. My heart goes out to you. I don't think anything really helps but time.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry OP. I lost my only pregnancy at 7 weeks. However, I am now an adoptive mom and just so happy.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP --- I'm so sorry for your loss. If positive stories help, a close friend of mine had three miscarriages in a row (at least two after hearing a heartbeat); she's now about full term with a healthy pregnancy. Have you had any testing done? She needed a small hormone supplement (not sure what) to help her carry the pregnancy to term. Sending all my best wishes.

[Anonymous]

Thanks PP. I've had all the RPL testing done before this round (which was donor egg so age shouldn't be an issue). I am on supplements since it's IVF. . . I'm going to ask at today's confirming u/s if there was deterioration in the lining that would indicate a hormonal problem.

The good stories are carrying me through the day. My best friend told me to go "one day at a time" but I told her I don't know how to get through today. It's getting a little easier as I get out of bed, read stories, etc.

[Anonymous]

I am very sorry. My good friend had 3 miscarriages and then went to have 2 healthy children. I wish you the best.

[Anonymous]

Oh, OP, I am so sorry. Since you are looking for success stories, my dear friend had 8 -- yes, 8 -- miscarriages, plus a stillbirth at 28 weeks. She now has two healthy children. She was on bedrest for her entire pregnancy with her older son because of placental issues, then had an uneventful pregnancy with her younger daughter. She went to a counselor specializing in fertility issues and losses, which she said helped immensely.

A former colleague used a surrogate in India after multiple losses and has healthy twins.

Wishing you the best.

[jindc]

I"m so sorry for your loss, OP.

[Anonymous]

I am SO sorry....

[Anonymous]

Been there - 3 losses before having my son. I was and am AMA, had him at 43. Own eggs.z

[Anonymous]

A close friend of mine had 5 miscarriages. She was far enough along on some of them that she was able to do the testing and it turns out (at least on the ones she was able to test) that there were some significant chromosomal issues. She and her husband decided to do 1 round of IVF with PGD (they only had enough money for 1 and had to borrow some for it). ALL of the eggs that were retrieved ended up having issues, so they could not be implanted. After 2-3 weeks, she never got her period (which was weird because they never did the ET). As it turns out, one egg must have slipped out a bit early (they had BD'd 5 days before the ER) and his swimmers must have lasted a little while, because she ended up getting pregnant. AND this one took (no chromosomal issues). She delivered last August. It is a totally crazy story (and 100% true).