Does anyone elses spouse stay out overnight frequently
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Anonymous
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This is something that is really aggravating to me. This happens about once a month. DH will go out, and tell me he will be home around a certain time. (I'm home with our baby). But, he never comes home. I end up worrying that he's been in an accident, or something, and not being able to sleep for the worry, he doesn't answer his phone. 100% of the time, the next day he'll apologize and say he accidently fell asleep (because he'd been drinking) at so-and-so's house. Now, I know he IS actually where he says he is (unless his friends are covering for him, which I don't really think they would do). I'm really getting sick of it. Especially, since I'm 100% okay with him staying overnight at friends houses, especially if he's been drinking, as I don't want him trying to drive home. All I want is for him to notify me, so I won't worry. He treats it so nonchalantly, like I'm making a big deal about it when it isn't a big deal.
Would this bother you too? Am I being too controlling by wanting to know he's safe where he is? Am I blowing this issue out of porportion? |
Anonymous
| My husband has absolutely never in our 26 years of marriage done anything like that. Yes it would bother me. No you aren't over-reacting. |
Anonymous
| Not ok. If he plans to get so drunk that he cannot come home, he needs to plan ahead of time to stay at a friend's house. The days of college and crashing on a random person's floor are over. |
Anonymous
| um, never. that's insane. |
Anonymous
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+1
My husband in 10 plus years of marriage has never once done anything like that. He would never pull something like that. I would be livid. |
Anonymous
| 14 years. Never happened. |
Anonymous
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How old is he? Sounds like college boyfriend behaviour, not grown married man with child behaviour.
My husband has never done this, nor have I. It's odd. |
Anonymous
| Never happens to me either. I think it is something you should draw a hard line on with him. I would be very suspicious. |
Anonymous
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Sorry OP - piling on- I think its weird that he does this. Once, MAYBE twice I could see, but monthly? This is weird.
My DH has never done this. |
Anonymous
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Never, in 21 years of marriage. Never ever. DH's version of a "night out" entails playing poker with our neighbor-friends' DHs and coming home at 11.
OP, that is a Problem with a capital P. |
Anonymous
| Why is your DH drinking to such excess so frequently? |
Anonymous
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OP here, We are both in our 30's
I just feel it's really inconsiderate for him not to tell me. He always promises he'll call to let me know in the future, but it never happens. Personally, I think he just gets so drunk, he passes out before even thinking of calling me. |
Anonymous
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ds is 3.5 months old. DH has spent the night at his friend's house twice. ( friend's birthday party and his best friend who lives in mew york was staying at another friend's house) Both times he okayed it with me and i insisted one time because i knew he would be drinking more than he expected. He has met up with friends other times but will only have 2 beers spanned out over several hours.
I have also spent one night at a girlfriend's house (2 of my girlfriends share a bday and always throw a big party) and again, this was also something we agreed on beforehand. I would be livid with your situation |
Anonymous
| Married 8 years, together for 12. It's never happened, ever. |
Anonymous
I don't know if it is what you think or a girlfriend but it isn't good. |