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Baby Shower: When and Where?
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When are baby showers usually done? I am currently 5 months and just found out we're having a girl!
Where's a fun place to have a baby shower? I'd like it to be more of a happy hour (or brunch) co-ed party at a restaurant or bar. Must be Metro accessible DC/VA. Thanks! |
Anonymous
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My co-workers threw me a co-ed baby shower at Guapo's on Wisconsin Ave in tenely. It was a blast and the staff at Guapos was very accomidating.
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Anonymous
| Are you planning your own shower? Usually, these are a surprise for you. They are usually a couple months before your due date. Congrats. |
Anonymous
| My husband was asking me what I would like in a baby shower. I'm usually the event planner among my friends. |
Anonymous
| Not to be a jerk, but it's considered in bad taste if the spouse or immediate family throws you a baby shower. My mom tried to host mine and I had to gently back her off. |
Anonymous
Really? I could see it being a little strange to have your spouse host it - kind of like you are gift-grubbing - but never knew that about immediate family. What about sister-in-laws? That's who hosted mine. |
Anonymous
| My sister and my mom threw me a baby shower - I don't think it's in bad taste at all. No one else stepped up, so they did. My SIL actually was going to throw one and then decided not to - talk about bad taste. The rest of DH's family declined to come to the shower ( didn't even RSVP ) or send a gift - really bad manners! I think it's fine for whomever is throwing it as long as it isn't the mom. The most important thing to remember is that it is a celebration of a new baby! |
Anonymous
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I think in-laws are fine, and I guess maybe even sisters. I think the convention wisdom on this may be changing a little....personally, I followed the no-self, no-spouse, no-mother rule.
From a couple different sites: Husband Throwing Shower Q. Is it okay to throw my wife a baby shower? She has different worlds of friends that do not intermingle that often and her family resides in another country. So as her "best friend" and husband, is it weird to throw a shower for her? A. No, it's really not appropriate to throw your wife a shower. While you may be her very best friend, you are also the parent-to-be. It's kind of like asking everyone to buy gifts for you directly. It would be a better idea for her to have several small/intimate showers than one shower hosted by you. Baby showers, like weddings, are often comprised of people who do not normally interact - co-workers with family members, in-laws with college buddies, etc. This is just the beginning. Think of the special moments to come in your baby's life. Perhaps one large shower hosted by a brave friend or co-worker is more of a possibility than you think. ------ Who Hosts the Baby Shower: Historically, the baby shower was hosted by someone outside of the family (friend, co-worker, symbolic Aunt). Today, anyone other than the Mommy-To-Be and her mom can throw a baby shower for her friend or family member! It is most common for the Best Friend, Aunt, or sister to throw the Mommy-To-Be the baby shower! It is becoming more common for co-workers, cousins, groups of friends, or church/temple friends to throw the shower and much appreciated. ---------------- Who should host a baby shower? Tradition states that a shower should not be hosted by a close family member of the parents-to-be, but instead by a friend or more distant relative, such as a cousin or an aunt. This rule was meant to avoid the appearance that the family was simply on a mission to collect gifts. However, like many traditions, this rule isn't strictly observed these days. In fact, it's usually considered perfectly acceptable for a sister, mother-in-law, or even the guest of honor's mother to host or co-host a shower. It's still unusual for a mother-to-be to host her own shower, though. |
Anonymous
| PP here...of course, I just noticed that one of those sites recommends putting in a card to tell your guests where you're registered....which, personally, I think is beyond tacky (I didn't register at all, though), so who knows!!?? I guess it is just what you are comfortable with! |
Anonymous
| My husband is not the one throwing me the baby shower he'll most likely ask one of our friends to do it. Most of our friends are either single or have grown kids. Also both our families live far away. |
Anonymous
| There is a nice party room in the lower level of the Boulevard Woodgrill in Arlington (metro: Clarendon). We had our son's baptism reception there and they did a great job with the food and drinks. Have fun! |
Anonymous
| The reason why I asked this question was because I don't want to expect people to throw me a shower and give gifts. I rather start buying the baby things now when I can still be very active than wait till the last minute and rush through preparations. |
Anonymous
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For me and the ones I've attended the baby shower is in the third trimester - when the mom to be feels/looks pregnant and cooing over onesies and nb diapers is more "real" because the birth is pending (as opposed to having a baby shower in mo. 1-6 when the birth seems farther away).
We had mine at our house. My mom and MIL made all the goodies (appetitzers, cake, punch, etc.) and since it was a mid afternoon time frame we didn't have to worry about providing an actual meal (it was from 2-4pm). We played silly, but fun games which got guests laughing and engaging in conversations (especially since not everyone knew each other). Enjoy and congrats. |
Anonymous
| OP, would your husband really ask your friends to throw you a baby shower???? I'm sorry if this offends you, but I really think that's over the top grabby. Just buy whatever you need/want, and let your friends celebrate your impending baby when and how it suits them. |
Anonymous
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OP - yes, hosting your own baby shower is tacky, so if your MIL, mom, friends, etc. don't step up to the plate don't worry too much because you can still celebrate baby's birth by hosting a Welcome Home Baby party. And, no, this way, won't be tacky if you (and DH) hosted it.
You can make up for no baby shower (if it happens to be the case) worst case scenario. |