It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again

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Anonymous wrote:I'm definitely not going to read the entire 18 page thread, and someone likely has made this point already, but it takes a very . . . special kind of intellect to read that two very affluent, successful 20-somethings are getting married and draw sweeping conclusions about an entire generation from that.

Said more succinctly . . . OP, you're an idiot.

Are they even both successful? She is a successful former child actress who seems to be bankable as an adult. He is a nepo baby who does … modeling?

Right? This will last 9 years, tops. Just like Bieber. None of these people will be together in a decade. No one can do it anymore. People just give no fks these days.

This is major, major haterade. This thread is full of bitter incels and femcels alike.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm definitely not going to read the entire 18 page thread, and someone likely has made this point already, but it takes a very . . . special kind of intellect to read that two very affluent, successful 20-somethings are getting married and draw sweeping conclusions about an entire generation from that.

Said more succinctly . . . OP, you're an idiot.

Are they even both successful? She is a successful former child actress who seems to be bankable as an adult. He is a nepo baby who does … modeling?

Right? This will last 9 years, tops. Just like Bieber. None of these people will be together in a decade. No one can do it anymore. People just give no fks these days.

9 years? I think it won't even be half that.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm definitely not going to read the entire 18 page thread, and someone likely has made this point already, but it takes a very . . . special kind of intellect to read that two very affluent, successful 20-somethings are getting married and draw sweeping conclusions about an entire generation from that.

Said more succinctly . . . OP, you're an idiot.

Are they even both successful? She is a successful former child actress who seems to be bankable as an adult. He is a nepo baby who does … modeling?

Right? This will last 9 years, tops. Just like Bieber. None of these people will be together in a decade. No one can do it anymore. People just give no fks these days.

This is major, major haterade. This thread is full of bitter incels and femcels alike.

More like glibly naive women wearing rose colored glasses.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm definitely not going to read the entire 18 page thread, and someone likely has made this point already, but it takes a very . . . special kind of intellect to read that two very affluent, successful 20-somethings are getting married and draw sweeping conclusions about an entire generation from that.

Said more succinctly . . . OP, you're an idiot.

Are they even both successful? She is a successful former child actress who seems to be bankable as an adult. He is a nepo baby who does … modeling?

Right? This will last 9 years, tops. Just like Bieber. None of these people will be together in a decade. No one can do it anymore. People just give no fks these days.

This is major, major haterade. This thread is full of bitter incels and femcels alike.

Haterade? Seriously?

No one has an issue with younger people getting married. The issue is with the fairy tale created. This isn't olden days were we die at 40. You really think most people getting married at like 22 will be happy with the same person when they're 80?

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where* we die

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I see all the 22 year olds are out here chiming in from the Deep South justifying their decision to marry Jim Bob.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm definitely not going to read the entire 18 page thread, and someone likely has made this point already, but it takes a very . . . special kind of intellect to read that two very affluent, successful 20-somethings are getting married and draw sweeping conclusions about an entire generation from that.

Said more succinctly . . . OP, you're an idiot.

Are they even both successful? She is a successful former child actress who seems to be bankable as an adult. He is a nepo baby who does … modeling?

Right? This will last 9 years, tops. Just like Bieber. None of these people will be together in a decade. No one can do it anymore. People just give no fks these days.

Thank you so, so much for compelling me to google "Justin Bieber married?" and confirm that not only is he still married, but has been married for 6 years. I don't see how your model for a failed marriage is someone who is STILL MARRIED. At least use someone who is actually divorced for your example!!!

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I don’t hate on these young loves. It’s so cute honestly. But anyone that’s been married at least 15 years knows it’s not easy. Even with money and youth. And that fades too and takes work.

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Anonymous wrote:Gilead reference. I’m begging you idiots to read a second book in your life. (Though more likely you only saw it on TV).

+1

Quite frankly, the book was stupid and the show is even stupider. Can’t believe grown women seriously referencing this to make their point that other women are immature.

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Anonymous wrote:I bet all these young folks divorce. No one has the tenacity for marriage anymore. People put their own “journey” before the hardcore commitment a marriage takes. Everyone is so opinionated and sure of themselves. Let’s see these marriages in a decade. There is no residency in this generation.

Only a damaged, bitter, and jaded person sees beautiful wedding photos of a gorgeous young couple and impulsively predicts (let’s be honest, you hope for) a divorce. I honestly feel sorry for you and anyone else spamming similar. You’re projecting your own baggage onto these madly in love and glowing young people.

And you sound like you never progressed beyond Tiger Beat maturity levels.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm definitely not going to read the entire 18 page thread, and someone likely has made this point already, but it takes a very . . . special kind of intellect to read that two very affluent, successful 20-somethings are getting married and draw sweeping conclusions about an entire generation from that.

Said more succinctly . . . OP, you're an idiot.

Are they even both successful? She is a successful former child actress who seems to be bankable as an adult. He is a nepo baby who does … modeling?

Right? This will last 9 years, tops. Just like Bieber. None of these people will be together in a decade. No one can do it anymore. People just give no fks these days.

9 years? I think it won't even be half that.

That was not the point of the original comment. I have no opinion on whether this will last, but OP is a blithering moron for extrapolating any larger trends from this union.

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Anonymous wrote:It's funny that old people think that women shouldn't get married until after 30, so controlling

I think my kids should get married whenever they feel like they’ve met someone they want to marry. If that’s at 22, so be it. But I’m getting the sense that the posters who are most supportive of young marriages are the controlling ones. These are the parents who have carefully controlled their kids’ friendships since preschool, making sure they only ever mix with the “right” families. The marriage to the appropriate partner is essentially what they’ve been building up to.

I mean, this sounds “controlling” to you but it sounds smart to me? After a certain age we know that kids’ peers have more influence on them than their parents. Trying to make sure your kids interact with kids whose parents share your particular values just seems like common sense.

Of course I want my kid with an appropriate partner- don’t you?? I mean, be honest with yourself, would you be happy to be mother of the bride at Lana del Ray’s bayou wedding? I would not.

Can you all conceive of real relationships without comparing to celebrities?

And it doesn’t just sound controlling, it is controlling. I trust my kids to figure what an appropriate partner means to them. Just as both my parents and my IL’s did for my husband and me. If our parents had exerted any kind of control on the type of people we married, we probably would have ended up with very different people, and we would have been miserable.

Celebrities and rich influencers are the Generation Z trendsetters. Trends spread like wildfire on TikTok and Instagram. Millie, Sophia Ritchie, and Joey King have over 100 million followers. If you don’t think young people are influenced when they see these gorgeous weddings and the young rich wife/mom aesthetic you are in denial. The wisest college kids are dating to marry and are repelled at the idea of being unmarried and childless at 30 — or using an app to meet a husband.

Pretty sure the wisest kids out there aren’t using Instagram influencers as their role models! This made me giggle.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm definitely not going to read the entire 18 page thread, and someone likely has made this point already, but it takes a very . . . special kind of intellect to read that two very affluent, successful 20-somethings are getting married and draw sweeping conclusions about an entire generation from that.

Said more succinctly . . . OP, you're an idiot.

Are they even both successful? She is a successful former child actress who seems to be bankable as an adult. He is a nepo baby who does … modeling?

Right? This will last 9 years, tops. Just like Bieber. None of these people will be together in a decade. No one can do it anymore. People just give no fks these days.

This is major, major haterade. This thread is full of bitter incels and femcels alike.

Haterade? Seriously?

No one has an issue with younger people getting married. The issue is with the fairy tale created. This isn't olden days were we die at 40. You really think most people getting married at like 22 will be happy with the same person when they're 80?

Have you ever read this board? The people posting here won’t be happy with any person, at any age.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

Yes, instead they should marry that schmuck when they're 22.

Newsflash but if more people are getting married earlier (which, for the record, the only evidence of on this thread is MBB marrying a Bon Jovi) then that means that some of those 30-something schmucks are joining the early 20s marriage pool. Because it's not like more better guys are appearing out of thin air at age 22. So people are just marrying the same dud men, at earlier ages when they are even more immature and useless than their 30 year old self (who at least knows how to use the dishwasher and w/d).

And for the record! I met DH when i was in college, him in grad school and I married at 26. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with it, but i do think having some kind of agenda at age 22 to find marriage material is bizarre.

Of course people would be far better off marrying the same person they settled for in their 30s five or ten years sooner. You’d have ten years of equity in your house, your kids would be in elementary school, you’d be closer to retirement, you’d be healthier. You wouldn’t have all that trauma and baggage from failed relationships in your 20s.

I hate to break it to you, but that’s not how most people view their 20s. Most of us were having a blast. No “trauma”. And just because a relationship doesn’t end in marriage doesn’t mean it “failed”. I enjoyed my relationships in college and early 20s (still friends with some) but I’m so glad I didn’t marry them. You don’t have to settle for the first guys you meet because you’re desperate to get married.

NP but I got married in my early 20’s to my first boyfriend (dated since we were 18). Not because I was desperate to get married, but because I loved him and wanted to marry him and wasn’t interested in seeing if maybe the grass might be greener somewhere else. I believe he felt the same way.

We still managed to have a blast in our 20’s - we just did it together. We’ve been together for over 20 years now and we have learned how to be adults and how to be parents together. No regrets.

That is gross. 🤮

Pp are you being sarcastic? How could that possibly be gross?

I got married at 29, but I would gladly have sooner if I had met the right one earlier. I was unpacking trauma, unfortunately, in my teens and early 20's so I wasn't attracted to healthy men.

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Anonymous wrote:Those pesky facts from a May 2024 article:

The world that millennials and Gen Z live in is vastly different from the one that their parents and grandparents grew up in. One aspect of modern life that has significantly changed is marriage: Younger generations are settling down at a much older age than what was commonplace in the past. Research suggests that getting married in your early 20s was the norm in the mid-1900s. Now, millennials, a cohort of people born between 1981 and 1996, and Gen Z, those with a birthdate from 1997 to 2012, are waiting until their late 20s and early 30s to say “I do.”

Source? A “May article” isn’t really much of a citation.