She said 2 were from her "submission" and 3 were acquaintances. And the other 10? Maybe she just recognized them? Come on. Everyone has a friend like OP in that group how would it work if every one of those people also had to be invited? |
Isn’t it amazing how folks can be so tone deaf at times? Choose your moment to gush. It’s poor form to do it the way these neighbors did. Unless it’s being opened to a wider circle, safe the cooing for the next night out. |
^ subdivision not submission |
Are you taking notes this point? |
Why would you assume her friends were the organizers of this event and had control over the guest list? Also, I bet you every single woman at that event had a friend (or 10!) they could have invited in theory. By your logic anything other than an open invite is an awkward exclusionary event. I’m also willing to bet that women who don’t act all petty/awkward about minor stuff like this and try to stir up drama are more likely to be invited to things. So OP is likely to have set her own self fulfilling prophecy. |
I'm reading what was written, it's not that hard. What I'm not doing is spinning some wild tale and filling the the gaps that these were OPs bestest friends, she threw them all a baby shower, and of course this was a malicious oversight and the only thing she can do now is sell her house. |
What you’re doing is monologuing. |
No, you are the one projecting facts onto this. OP said it was awkward, but you asserts it was not. She was there, you were not. She describes it as being normal at first when it was 4 or 5 women, but then a bunch more arrived and it became awkward. This makes sense to me, that as more women arrived it became increasingly weird that they were all getting together and OP didn't know anything about it. That is what OP describes and thus that is what I assume happened. Why are you so convinced her perception of this incident is incorrect? You weren't there so her word is all we have. I'm not inventing any facts and just going on what OP is saying, I can empathize. You are imposing your own baggage onto it because you are determined to prove that OP misinterpreted a situation about which you only have OP's description. Why? You're tilting at windmills here and I don't get it. |
Are you the writer of the multi-paragraph novel about what the friends "could have done"? Funny that you have a lot more to say about this than OP. |
Not one person has claimed any of that. I think you realize you were overly harsh at this point but are digging in because you can't admit that you misread the thread. |
DP. Not at all. I and many other posters here have read all the actual words that the OP wrote about what happened and we all think she blew the situation way out of proportion. |
NP. But…why would it be awkward for *people she’s not friends with* to get together without her? She doesn’t even know like 80% of the women there. |
Nope. You have misread. OP said this many pages ago: "OP Here—Yes. Two of the moms that live in my subdivision are always invited to all of the events I host and I have been invited to their events as well. They live in my subdivision. There were three other moms that I am always friendly with, no issues." But somehow you have decided that there is no other conclusion that OP was excluded. By OPs admission she is not even close to the majority. Why in the world did she decide this was a clique that set out to exclude her? She doesn't even know them well. |
Nope. |
No one is assuming that. The point is that if there were 15 women at the event, then yeah, one of the women who was close to OP could have extended the invite to her and even if they weren't the "official organizer" of the event (it is highly unlikely there was an official organizer because that's not how most people's friend groups function), it would have been fine. They didn't. So they either didn't think of her or they thought of her and were like "eh, no." That's why OP was embarrassed. Normal. You are inventing these very specific scenarios where this was some kind of strictly organized event that OP could not possibly been included in and for her to feel otherwise is ridiculous, and it really doesn't sound like that was the case. |