Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DH has no idea I identified as bisexual when we married and now identify as a lesbian married to a man. He doesn’t even know I’m attracted to women. If we divorce (which we very well might because we don’t get along for reasons having nothing to do with my sexuality), I’ll never date another man again.
Why do you think it is okay to lie to him about who he married?
I didn’t lie. He never asked about my sexuality, kinks, sexual history, or anything. He’s a very self-absorbed, uncurious person. When I asked him about his sexuality, history etc, his answers were plain and it was clear he had very little sexual experience and was ashamed of that. It made what should’ve been fun conversations feel awkward and needless.
When we were engaged and then soon got married, his lack of questions seemed like he was willing to accept me for whomever I am and just wanted to love me. I knew I wasn’t going to cheat, so bringing up my bisexuality to someone who really didn’t care to have the convo seemed needless. It took time for me to realize his lack of interest in basic details about others is actually a deep narcissism. By the time I realized that, I had too much contempt for him to confide. The rift has widened over time.