50/50 is terrible for kids! Why does this nonsense persist?

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Anonymous wrote:Have you ever talked to an adult child of divorce about this? I have not, but as an ACOD myself I would have loved for my parents to have 50/50. My dad moved out of state so we got summers at his place and school years at my mom's place. It sucked. No matter where I was, I missed one of my parents terribly.

I really think this kind of arrangement should be outlawed and divorced parents should be required to live within an hour of each other until the child turns 18

Talk about something that will never be enforceable.

It would be easy to enforce, if a parent moves out of the radius they get a $25,000 fine every year until they are in compliance.

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Anonymous wrote:The "father's rights" folks are always quick to spew their garbage.

Funny, the mothers are only important in kids lives are always quick to spew their garbage disparaging the importance of kids having two parents, not just one and a child support check.

50/50 is presumed in most areas (not all I think, but most). If a dad wants it, he will get it (barring extreme circumstances). CS is not automatic, but based on the parents' incomes.

In some areas not all and often it’s a fight.

Everyone I know who is divorced has 50/50, except a few cases where the other parent did not want to parent 50% and chose a lesser percentage.

hahahah!

How many men are actually doing that? Men don't do half the work. (Well, maybe there's a FEW. But only a few.)

As I have stated, at least in my state, 50/50 is 'presumed' in divorce/custody. That's what it will be unless the parents agree to deviate (which some do). Almost all families I know that are divorced do 50/50 and the dads seem to do what they are supposed to do. My ex does (and stop making me defend him haha).

Its very state specific and a mom can easily scream abuse even if there is none and get far more.

This simply isn't true. You sound like you don't have any actual experience in any recent times, with this.

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Anonymous wrote:The "father's rights" folks are always quick to spew their garbage.

Funny, the mothers are only important in kids lives are always quick to spew their garbage disparaging the importance of kids having two parents, not just one and a child support check.

50/50 is presumed in most areas (not all I think, but most). If a dad wants it, he will get it (barring extreme circumstances). CS is not automatic, but based on the parents' incomes.

In some areas not all and often it’s a fight.

Everyone I know who is divorced has 50/50, except a few cases where the other parent did not want to parent 50% and chose a lesser percentage.

hahahah!

How many men are actually doing that? Men don't do half the work. (Well, maybe there's a FEW. But only a few.)

As I have stated, at least in my state, 50/50 is 'presumed' in divorce/custody. That's what it will be unless the parents agree to deviate (which some do). Almost all families I know that are divorced do 50/50 and the dads seem to do what they are supposed to do. My ex does (and stop making me defend him haha).

Its very state specific and a mom can easily scream abuse even if there is none and get far more.

This simply isn't true. You sound like you don't have any actual experience in any recent times, with this.

Yes, it is. You live in a dream world if you think the courts are fair and equal.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you ever talked to an adult child of divorce about this? I have not, but as an ACOD myself I would have loved for my parents to have 50/50. My dad moved out of state so we got summers at his place and school years at my mom's place. It sucked. No matter where I was, I missed one of my parents terribly.

I really think this kind of arrangement should be outlawed and divorced parents should be required to live within an hour of each other until the child turns 18

Talk about something that will never be enforceable.

It would be easy to enforce, if a parent moves out of the radius they get a $25,000 fine every year until they are in compliance.

So, you think someone in the military or government job should be fined $25K a year, when they may only make $100K a year, or if enlisted much less? How would that work with child support and alimony?

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Anonymous wrote:Have you ever talked to an adult child of divorce about this? I have not, but as an ACOD myself I would have loved for my parents to have 50/50. My dad moved out of state so we got summers at his place and school years at my mom's place. It sucked. No matter where I was, I missed one of my parents terribly.

I really think this kind of arrangement should be outlawed and divorced parents should be required to live within an hour of each other until the child turns 18

Talk about something that will never be enforceable.

It would be easy to enforce, if a parent moves out of the radius they get a $25,000 fine every year until they are in compliance.

So, you think someone in the military or government job should be fined $25K a year, when they may only make $100K a year, or if enlisted much less? How would that work with child support and alimony?

Yes, The child's needs take priority above all else and a heavy fine would act as a powerful motivation to meet those needs.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you ever talked to an adult child of divorce about this? I have not, but as an ACOD myself I would have loved for my parents to have 50/50. My dad moved out of state so we got summers at his place and school years at my mom's place. It sucked. No matter where I was, I missed one of my parents terribly.

I really think this kind of arrangement should be outlawed and divorced parents should be required to live within an hour of each other until the child turns 18

Talk about something that will never be enforceable.

It would be easy to enforce, if a parent moves out of the radius they get a $25,000 fine every year until they are in compliance.

So, you think someone in the military or government job should be fined $25K a year, when they may only make $100K a year, or if enlisted much less? How would that work with child support and alimony?

Yes, The child's needs take priority above all else and a heavy fine would act as a powerful motivation to meet those needs.

What if it is the mother moving away to be with her AP? Or, military? You realize military have no say in where they live or go.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you ever talked to an adult child of divorce about this? I have not, but as an ACOD myself I would have loved for my parents to have 50/50. My dad moved out of state so we got summers at his place and school years at my mom's place. It sucked. No matter where I was, I missed one of my parents terribly.

I really think this kind of arrangement should be outlawed and divorced parents should be required to live within an hour of each other until the child turns 18

Talk about something that will never be enforceable.

It would be easy to enforce, if a parent moves out of the radius they get a $25,000 fine every year until they are in compliance.

So, you think someone in the military or government job should be fined $25K a year, when they may only make $100K a year, or if enlisted much less? How would that work with child support and alimony?

Yes, The child's needs take priority above all else and a heavy fine would act as a powerful motivation to meet those needs.

What if it is the mother moving away to be with her AP? Or, military? You realize military have no say in where they live or go.

They shouldn't have an AP in the first place and divorcing with children should result in a dishonorable discharge.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you ever talked to an adult child of divorce about this? I have not, but as an ACOD myself I would have loved for my parents to have 50/50. My dad moved out of state so we got summers at his place and school years at my mom's place. It sucked. No matter where I was, I missed one of my parents terribly.

I really think this kind of arrangement should be outlawed and divorced parents should be required to live within an hour of each other until the child turns 18

Talk about something that will never be enforceable.

It would be easy to enforce, if a parent moves out of the radius they get a $25,000 fine every year until they are in compliance.

So, you think someone in the military or government job should be fined $25K a year, when they may only make $100K a year, or if enlisted much less? How would that work with child support and alimony?

Yes, The child's needs take priority above all else and a heavy fine would act as a powerful motivation to meet those needs.

What if it is the mother moving away to be with her AP? Or, military? You realize military have no say in where they live or go.

They shouldn't have an AP in the first place and divorcing with children should result in a dishonorable discharge.

What if it was the wife who had the AP and moved with the kids to live with the AP? So, Dad should get dishonorably discharged because his wife had an affair? What about child support and alimony then? Not all military jobs translate to good jobs outside so how much do you think he'd make beyond minimum wage?

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Anonymous wrote:Have you ever talked to an adult child of divorce about this? I have not, but as an ACOD myself I would have loved for my parents to have 50/50. My dad moved out of state so we got summers at his place and school years at my mom's place. It sucked. No matter where I was, I missed one of my parents terribly.

I really think this kind of arrangement should be outlawed and divorced parents should be required to live within an hour of each other until the child turns 18

Talk about something that will never be enforceable.

It would be easy to enforce, if a parent moves out of the radius they get a $25,000 fine every year until they are in compliance.

So, you think someone in the military or government job should be fined $25K a year, when they may only make $100K a year, or if enlisted much less? How would that work with child support and alimony?

Yes, The child's needs take priority above all else and a heavy fine would act as a powerful motivation to meet those needs.

What if it is the mother moving away to be with her AP? Or, military? You realize military have no say in where they live or go.

They shouldn't have an AP in the first place and divorcing with children should result in a dishonorable discharge.

What if it was the wife who had the AP and moved with the kids to live with the AP? So, Dad should get dishonorably discharged because his wife had an affair? What about child support and alimony then? Not all military jobs translate to good jobs outside so how much do you think he'd make beyond minimum wage?

How about giving her consequences like no alimony or no portion of his retirement?

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Anonymous wrote:So you think it’s better for a kid to have nothing more than a trivial relationship with one parent?

Better than having trivial lives with no real home.

Why wouldn’t they have 2 real homes?
My parents were divorced when I was a kid and we spent every other weekend with dad. Maybe it would have been the case anyway, but we were never close, he always felt like more like an uncle figure, and I didn’t know my father’s relatives very well. I think keeping the bond with both parents is so important, and 50-50 is probably the easiest way to achieve that. But if you don’t like it, why don’t you give up much of your parenting time so that your kids’ primary residence, their “real home” is with your ex?

Op here. I am not divorced. I see this with selfish parents around me. My kids are grown and grew up with two parents.

Children whose parents are divorced still have two parents.

OP is old, judgmental, and has not walked a mile (or even an inch) in these shoes. Yet she knows what is best for other people’s children.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you ever talked to an adult child of divorce about this? I have not, but as an ACOD myself I would have loved for my parents to have 50/50. My dad moved out of state so we got summers at his place and school years at my mom's place. It sucked. No matter where I was, I missed one of my parents terribly.

I really think this kind of arrangement should be outlawed and divorced parents should be required to live within an hour of each other until the child turns 18

Talk about something that will never be enforceable.

It would be easy to enforce, if a parent moves out of the radius they get a $25,000 fine every year until they are in compliance.

STFU you dumb troll.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you ever talked to an adult child of divorce about this? I have not, but as an ACOD myself I would have loved for my parents to have 50/50. My dad moved out of state so we got summers at his place and school years at my mom's place. It sucked. No matter where I was, I missed one of my parents terribly.

I really think this kind of arrangement should be outlawed and divorced parents should be required to live within an hour of each other until the child turns 18

Talk about something that will never be enforceable.

It would be easy to enforce, if a parent moves out of the radius they get a $25,000 fine every year until they are in compliance.

STFU you dumb troll.

I'm not a troll, just someone who went through this nonsense as a child.

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Anonymous wrote:The "father's rights" folks are always quick to spew their garbage.

Funny, the mothers are only important in kids lives are always quick to spew their garbage disparaging the importance of kids having two parents, not just one and a child support check.

50/50 is presumed in most areas (not all I think, but most). If a dad wants it, he will get it (barring extreme circumstances). CS is not automatic, but based on the parents' incomes.

In some areas not all and often it’s a fight.

Everyone I know who is divorced has 50/50, except a few cases where the other parent did not want to parent 50% and chose a lesser percentage.

hahahah!

How many men are actually doing that? Men don't do half the work. (Well, maybe there's a FEW. But only a few.)

As I have stated, at least in my state, 50/50 is 'presumed' in divorce/custody. That's what it will be unless the parents agree to deviate (which some do). Almost all families I know that are divorced do 50/50 and the dads seem to do what they are supposed to do. My ex does (and stop making me defend him haha).

Its very state specific and a mom can easily scream abuse even if there is none and get far more.

This simply isn't true. You sound like you don't have any actual experience in any recent times, with this.

Yes, it is. You live in a dream world if you think the courts are fair and equal.

The majority of divorces never see a courtroom, the parents agree to a parenting plan and the judge signs off. 50/50 is typically presumed, unless the parents agree to deviate from that. NOBODY gets to go into court and 'scream abuse' and get handed full custody. For that to even be considered, there would have to be documented abuse, ie, police reports, cps, ect. And even all that doesn't always make a huge difference.

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Anonymous wrote:The "father's rights" folks are always quick to spew their garbage.

Funny, the mothers are only important in kids lives are always quick to spew their garbage disparaging the importance of kids having two parents, not just one and a child support check.

50/50 is presumed in most areas (not all I think, but most). If a dad wants it, he will get it (barring extreme circumstances). CS is not automatic, but based on the parents' incomes.

In some areas not all and often it’s a fight.

Everyone I know who is divorced has 50/50, except a few cases where the other parent did not want to parent 50% and chose a lesser percentage.

hahahah!

How many men are actually doing that? Men don't do half the work. (Well, maybe there's a FEW. But only a few.)

As I have stated, at least in my state, 50/50 is 'presumed' in divorce/custody. That's what it will be unless the parents agree to deviate (which some do). Almost all families I know that are divorced do 50/50 and the dads seem to do what they are supposed to do. My ex does (and stop making me defend him haha).

Its very state specific and a mom can easily scream abuse even if there is none and get far more.

This simply isn't true. You sound like you don't have any actual experience in any recent times, with this.

Yes, it is. You live in a dream world if you think the courts are fair and equal.

The majority of divorces never see a courtroom, the parents agree to a parenting plan and the judge signs off. 50/50 is typically presumed, unless the parents agree to deviate from that. NOBODY gets to go into court and 'scream abuse' and get handed full custody. For that to even be considered, there would have to be documented abuse, ie, police reports, cps, ect. And even all that doesn't always make a huge difference.

Sure, keep in your dream world. Sharing custody only works when both parents are rational and reasonable and most aren’t.

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Anonymous wrote:The "father's rights" folks are always quick to spew their garbage.

Funny, the mothers are only important in kids lives are always quick to spew their garbage disparaging the importance of kids having two parents, not just one and a child support check.

50/50 is presumed in most areas (not all I think, but most). If a dad wants it, he will get it (barring extreme circumstances). CS is not automatic, but based on the parents' incomes.

In some areas not all and often it’s a fight.

Everyone I know who is divorced has 50/50, except a few cases where the other parent did not want to parent 50% and chose a lesser percentage.

hahahah!

How many men are actually doing that? Men don't do half the work. (Well, maybe there's a FEW. But only a few.)

As I have stated, at least in my state, 50/50 is 'presumed' in divorce/custody. That's what it will be unless the parents agree to deviate (which some do). Almost all families I know that are divorced do 50/50 and the dads seem to do what they are supposed to do. My ex does (and stop making me defend him haha).

Its very state specific and a mom can easily scream abuse even if there is none and get far more.

This simply isn't true. You sound like you don't have any actual experience in any recent times, with this.

Yes, it is. You live in a dream world if you think the courts are fair and equal.

The majority of divorces never see a courtroom, the parents agree to a parenting plan and the judge signs off. 50/50 is typically presumed, unless the parents agree to deviate from that. NOBODY gets to go into court and 'scream abuse' and get handed full custody. For that to even be considered, there would have to be documented abuse, ie, police reports, cps, ect. And even all that doesn't always make a huge difference.

Sure, keep in your dream world. Sharing custody only works when both parents are rational and reasonable and most aren’t.

Give us a number. What proportion of divorces do YOU think go to a courtroom?