I never said "everyone else should be able to do so". I get that some have other financial issues. I grew up in a LMC family---I ate free lunch for several years at school when my parents were laid off and job searching, I stood in line for free food from local food banks back in the 70s/80s. So I get that. However, I was not eligible for full FA when attending college. So I had to choose what was AFFORDABLE for my family. I did not demand that I go to Harvard or Yale without paying the price. I choose a school that we could afford without me going into major debt (I took the student loans each year, my parents could not afford to take parent loans or help much at all). So I looked for merit and went that route. Got into more elite schools (3 of them) but still couldn't' afford it, so I didn't attend. But I still will hold that many many could make changes and afford more but they CHOOSE not to. 50%+ of people I know drive new cars every 4-5 years, get Starbucks (or the equivalent) multiple times per day for themselves and all 3 kids, eat out constantly, go on vacation all the time, etc. Yet as our kids hit College age, many complain they can't afford more than in-state because they have not saved. For them, it was truly a choice, and they choose to live a fancy life when they could have saved and still had a better life than 80% of people. Basically, everyone can find somewhere that's affordable---if 80K/year isn't for you, then search for merit elsewhere. There are still many many many great options for college---going into debt is silly for college |
No one is "demanding" anything. And I agree with the posters who say that people should not -have- to give those options up. There is a big benefit to going to some of those schools and you know it. But, it's somehow acceptable to dump on UMC people who aren't wealthy in the sense most of you think they are. After working their butts off (I also come from poor beginnings) and then they're punished for it. The rest of your post is just conjecture and silly. Eating out and Starbucks is not a "fancy life." |
4 sets of elderly parents? Lol |
The OP is the most entitled, rude poster I have seen on DCUM in a long time. I am assuming this is her/him again. I had cancer - F U. I have old parents - screw you. I drive old cars and live in a crappy house - F U. It goes on and on. OP, you don’t make enough or didn’t save enough. Your kid will be fine. Send her to UVA or UMD. You are welcome. |
I know people complaining who easily spend $200 per week eating out/Starbucks. That's $800/month that easily could go to college savings if they really wanted it. That's almost $10K/year on non-essential items that can easily be done at home for a lot less. And that's just what I can see----these people also take nice vacations, drive newer cars. And no, the benefits of attending T20 school are not as wide as you make it seem, unless you are low income (and they would get full FA). For "donut hole families", the benefits are minimal. Those kids are smart, have involved parents and will go very far in life with their work ethic no matter where they go. In fact, they will do better if they can graduate college with minimal debt (ie. only the $5.5K of student loans per year or less). |
If your parents refuse to help...that sucks, but that does not entitle you to need-based aid. There are definitely parents out there that believe they have no responsibility to help pay for their kid's college, usually because their parent didn't help them at all and they are passing on the family tradition. However, no college will provide need-based aid in that situation. Sounds like her father had $$$s but was taking his anger out on his ex-wife and kids...again, this sucks for your friend, but no need-based financial aid college will take that into consideration. |
Maybe read your own post before calling other people rude, hon. |
LOL? Ever hear of divorce? Yes, 4 sets. Two in their MID 80s. Two sets in their 70s. Not sure why you think that is laughable but it's rude. |
Np, what’s wrong with pp’s post? Sounds fine and accurate to me. Are you op? |
Divorce? Are you including your ex’s parents? 4 sets means 8 parents… explain please |
You definitely are demanding something. |
Yes, op is very recognizable and consistently rude. |
No. Are you the forum police? Did tgst make you feel better trying to take someone down? I think you are the one who needs to look in the mirror. You posts adds nothing to tge thread and I think PP had a good point |
I don’t understand why four sets of grandparents warrants a LOL. We have no divorce but my two sets of parents are alive (grandparents to know DS) aaa are husband’s. That equals four sets or 8 people that we are taking care of. Not something to make fun of! |
I'm not "demanding" your car I just don't think I should -have- to give up the option of taking off in it. There is a big benefit to me having your car and we all know it. But somehow it's acceptable to dump on people without a car just because I can't afford to buy it from you. |