Help me phrase this for my boss please

[Anonymous]

How do I tell my boss w/o sounding petty or threatening that I will have to quit if the terms of my job are changed? She wants to change some terms of the job, which would make it difficult for me to do my job. But she is the boss and if that is what she wants, so be it, I will quit. I will not have any bad things to say about her if I quit. I also do not think she would bad mouth me if I quit (she has repeatedly told me how great my performance is and I have written reviews from that say so). I think she will just move on to find someone to replace me.

I think it is just a different perspective. I have tried to reason with her to not change the terms but she refused to budge on this issue. I have not mentioned quitting so far. How do I tell her that I am ready to quit if she insists on doing it her way. I should also add that there will be no difference in the quality of my work if I do things my way and this is an either or issue. So I do it my way or her way and there are no compromises.

Do I apologize to her for deciding to quit? Tell me how to phrase this please? Thank you and sorry for being so vague.

[Anonymous]

I think you try it her way while you job search.

[Anonymous]

Actually I do not want to do it her way because it would make my work really difficult. As for the job search, I have other leads and actually have a steady free-lancing project on the side. I can fill my resume without gaps and very relevant employment when I look for another job.

I have no option but to quit and I want to tell her in a respectful way.

[Anonymous]

Just put it to her like you've put it here:

The changes you're proposing won't work for me. Thanks for everything, it's been terrific working with you, and I hope to stay in touch!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just put it to her like you've put it here:

The changes you're proposing won't work for me. Thanks for everything, it's been terrific working with you, and I hope to stay in touch!

Exactly. Be polite, but honest and straightforward. Don't try to beat around the bush.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do I apologize to her for deciding to quit? Tell me how to phrase this please? Thank you and sorry for being so vague.

Is the goal to quit? Or is the goal to get her to reconsider? If she did reconsider, would you stay? Sounds like no.

Thus:

"Dear BossyBossBoss,

After careful consideration, I have elected to pursue an alternative opportunity that I feel is better suited to my long term personal and career aspirations. As such, this letter is to serve as notice of my resignation effective X/X/XXXX. Please rest assured this was not a decision taken lightly and I would of course be happy to assist in any transition planning during this phase.

Regards,
Shittles"

[Anonymous]

This is OP. Thanks everyone. I definitely intend to be direct. As I said I don't have anything against her except that she decided to change some terms of my job. I respect her authority to run the department as she sees fit but I cannot fit in there anymore. If all the reasons I have given so far have not changed her mind, I don't think my quitting will. But there is always a slight chance of that. I am not sure what I would do if she changes her mind. It does not seem like a good idea to me to stay on after I have said I am leaving.

BTW, I love the names that DCUMers use in these posts. Hilarious

[Anonymous]

If you're hoping that threatening to quit may change her mind, you could say something like the pp said, but change it up a bit:


"Dear BossyBossBoss,

After carefully considering the proposed new terms of the job, I have concluded that I will no longer be able to effectively perform my duties under the new terms. I respect your decision to make these changes, however, cannot continue working here under the new terms. As such, this letter is to serve as notice of my resignation effective if and when the new terms are in place, but no sooner than [2 weeks notice]. Please rest assured this was not a decision taken lightly and I would of course be happy to continue working here under the current existing terms or to assist in any transition planning during this phase.

Regards,
Shittles"

[Anonymous]

My advice:

"Dear Twatwaffle,

After carefully considering the patently absurd terms of the job, I have concluded that you are devastatingly mentally deficient and horrifically unqualified for any meaningful role at this firm. It is now increasingly apparent that the genetic disaster that must have lead your frayed synapses to invent such a plan is, unfortunately, an untreatable condition. I am thus without option but to tender my resignation. If however, you are prepared to make the work environment somewhat less unpleasant than dragging my testicles through shards of glass for a mile, I will reluctantly consider remaining at the firm. You are a cancer on society.

Regards,
Shittles"

[Anonymous]

men are critiqued for having power when they barely do anything to deserve it

[Anonymous]

If I were you, I would lie and not essentially blame her for you quitting. You will need a good reference one day. Tell her politely in person one day that you don't feel like the job is a good fit for you anymore and you want "to take your career in a new direction" and pursue some freelance work and that you really appreciate all you have learned working with her and that it has been very hard for you to decide to leave because you enjoy working with her so much.

Remember, think longggggg term. You quit either way - so don't burn bridges and leave a bad taste in her mouth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you try it her way while you job search.

+1 And you'd be surprised how perspective can change if someone perceives you did them wrong. All of sudden, you are a former employee that she can't comment on when called by a potential new employer.

[Anonymous]

and tell her that you are giving her a month's notice and then hand it to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My advice:

"Dear Twatwaffle,

After carefully considering the patently absurd terms of the job, I have concluded that you are devastatingly mentally deficient and horrifically unqualified for any meaningful role at this firm. It is now increasingly apparent that the genetic disaster that must have lead your frayed synapses to invent such a plan is, unfortunately, an untreatable condition. I am thus without option but to tender my resignation. If however, you are prepared to make the work environment somewhat less unpleasant than dragging my testicles through shards of glass for a mile, I will reluctantly consider remaining at the firm. You are a cancer on society.

Regards,
Shittles"

This. Absolutely this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My advice:

"Dear Twatwaffle,

After carefully considering the patently absurd terms of the job, I have concluded that you are devastatingly mentally deficient and horrifically unqualified for any meaningful role at this firm. It is now increasingly apparent that the genetic disaster that must have lead your frayed synapses to invent such a plan is, unfortunately, an untreatable condition. I am thus without option but to tender my resignation. If however, you are prepared to make the work environment somewhat less unpleasant than dragging my testicles through shards of glass for a mile, I will reluctantly consider remaining at the firm. You are a cancer on society.

Regards,
Shittles"

uhm, yea. I love you.