Scandalous affairs in your circles?

[Anonymous]

I was thinking about a situation I was in a few years ago. DH has been friends with this person for years, and we had also become close with his wife. She had an affair with their nanny's son. For real. It was really hard on us, even, as friends, because it was just so damn awkward to try to move on and see her in a normal way again.

Has anyone else experienced something scandalous like this in your circle of friends? Were you able to salvage your friendship with both parties?

No, I am not Octotroll.

[Anonymous]

My friend just found out a month ago that her boyfriend was cheating on her with his best friend. For a year. I didn't know, but tons of other people knew and nobody told her.

[Anonymous]

My sister just told me that her husband's sister is cheating on her husband in a pretty scandalous way. I see these people rarely, but I really wish I didn't know this about them!

[Anonymous]

One of the dads in my DS's scouting group is doinking the mom of one of my DD's classmates. The dad is a prominent business man and the mom is the "perfect" SAH wife of an attorney (currently separated). Sad thing is, the man and his wife just had their third baby. I don't think she knows yet, or perhaps she is just dealing. Everyone else knows. SAHM lives down the street from me, and we all see his Escalade parked in her garage when the kids are at dad's house for the weekend. The scouting dad was on the prowl for ladies at least a year ago. I made the mistake of smiling at him, and he started mildly stalking me. I made my DH come with me to a meeting, and that put it to rest.

[Anonymous]

My friend's mother had an affair with my friend's boy friend. The mother got knocked up, married the guy, and my friend now has a sister who is 19 years younger than she is.

[Anonymous]

Oh my God I'm sorry this was so hard for you. I hope you've been able to recover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of the dads in my DS's scouting group is doinking the mom of one of my DD's classmates. The dad is a prominent business man and the mom is the "perfect" SAH wife of an attorney (currently separated). Sad thing is, the man and his wife just had their third baby. I don't think she knows yet, or perhaps she is just dealing. Everyone else knows. SAHM lives down the street from me, and we all see his Escalade parked in her garage when the kids are at dad's house for the weekend. The scouting dad was on the prowl for ladies at least a year ago. I made the mistake of smiling at him, and he started mildly stalking me. I made my DH come with me to a meeting, and that put it to rest.

This is pretty whacked! This guy is pretty brazen. Sounds like he wants a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Not quite "circle of friends", but in my husbands workplace.

One of my husbands subordinates (military) was a young man (late teens/early 20's) who went to a party. Some other people crashed the party and he ended up getting a fight. He got beat up so bad that he was in a coma.

His girlfriend ended up coming to the hospital to visit, and over time got to know one of his buddies really well...and then hooked up...and eventually married him. The original boyfriend did end up coming out of the coma, but his injuries were severe enough that he was discharged from the military.

The girlfriend's husband was still in--so I'd see her around at unit functions and stuff. I just always thought it was kind of crappy to cheat on your boyfriend while he's in a coma (the coma was a matter of days...not years or something).

[Anonymous]

My brother's now ex wife was having an affair for about three years with a man she worked with (who apparently had two kids with his wife during that time period). They'd had the couple I've over for dinner and BBQs several times. It sucks. The affair came to light after my brother got divorced. Up until that point I'd maintained contact with former SIL, but that ended once I got the news - just too painful.

[Anonymous]

I know of a woman (a mom of young children) who has had multiple affairs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not quite "circle of friends", but in my husbands workplace.

One of my husbands subordinates (military) was a young man (late teens/early 20's) who went to a party. Some other people crashed the party and he ended up getting a fight. He got beat up so bad that he was in a coma.

His girlfriend ended up coming to the hospital to visit, and over time got to know one of his buddies really well...and then hooked up...and eventually married him. The original boyfriend did end up coming out of the coma, but his injuries were severe enough that he was discharged from the military.

The girlfriend's husband was still in--so I'd see her around at unit functions and stuff. I just always thought it was kind of crappy to cheat on your boyfriend while he's in a coma (the coma was a matter of days...not years or something).

Eh, I don't see what's so wrong with this. She fell in love with someone else, and aside from the new guy being her ex's friend, what did she do wrong? You said over time she got to know one of his buddies. Sounds like enough time to let her then bf know she's leaving.

[Anonymous]

An acquiantance of mine from out-of-town claimed to have been 'friends' with this married guy she'd met at a conference. They started communicating via email, sms, Skype, and such. Not only was the guy married, he was also very much publicly 'in love' with his wife (posted sappy status updates and pictures of their vacations all over Facebook). When the acquaintance comes to town, she's introduced to the wife as a dear colleague, they all go out together and friend each other on Facebook.

The guy keeps traveling for work and, eventually, starts sleeping with the other woman promising her he'll leave the wife for her. In the meantime, the wife gets pregnant and has a baby (I know, it does sound like a bad Lifetime movie!) The other woman still thinks she'll get the guy, but, then the wife snoops through his emails, finds out about the affair, and calls the other woman in the middle of the night, screaming that she'd never let her husband get a divorce. The other woman tries to contact the guy to talk things over but he blocks her calls and never talks to her again.

In the meantime, the wife keeps posting "I love you, sweetums!" messages on Facebook for everyone to see and religiously updates her blog about her perfect family, complete with pictures. Marital bliss at its finest.

I'm no longer in touch with any of those people. It'd be funny if it weren't so sad.

[Anonymous]

Two people in my department (both married to others) were recently fired for having an affair and doing things on company time. I feel so bad for their spouses. I can't imagine they told their spouses the truth about why they were let go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not quite "circle of friends", but in my husbands workplace.

One of my husbands subordinates (military) was a young man (late teens/early 20's) who went to a party. Some other people crashed the party and he ended up getting a fight. He got beat up so bad that he was in a coma.

His girlfriend ended up coming to the hospital to visit, and over time got to know one of his buddies really well...and then hooked up...and eventually married him. The original boyfriend did end up coming out of the coma, but his injuries were severe enough that he was discharged from the military.

The girlfriend's husband was still in--so I'd see her around at unit functions and stuff. I just always thought it was kind of crappy to cheat on your boyfriend while he's in a coma (the coma was a matter of days...not years or something).

Eh, I don't see what's so wrong with this. She fell in love with someone else, and aside from the new guy being her ex's friend, what did she do wrong? You said over time she got to know one of his buddies. Sounds like enough time to let her then bf know she's leaving.

I might have used a bad choice of words...like I said, he was in a coma for only a few days---it's not like it was a period of months or years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not quite "circle of friends", but in my husbands workplace.

One of my husbands subordinates (military) was a young man (late teens/early 20's) who went to a party. Some other people crashed the party and he ended up getting a fight. He got beat up so bad that he was in a coma.

His girlfriend ended up coming to the hospital to visit, and over time got to know one of his buddies really well...and then hooked up...and eventually married him. The original boyfriend did end up coming out of the coma, but his injuries were severe enough that he was discharged from the military.

The girlfriend's husband was still in--so I'd see her around at unit functions and stuff. I just always thought it was kind of crappy to cheat on your boyfriend while he's in a coma (the coma was a matter of days...not years or something).

Doesn't sound so bad to me either.