This. |
Facts matter. My twin brother and I were born very small - two pounds each. My single mother was told we would be developmentally slow and for a while it looked like the case. A November birthday and there was no question of holding us back. Attended half day Kindergarten - no pre school. My mother insisted we play outside often, even during the winter, doing every sport we could. My mother had a lot of common sense. Both of us were very good students who went to great schools on NCAA athletic scholarships. The redshirted year helped for personal maturity. I had a November kid who was advanced and not redshirted and FCPS skipped her to second grade after two weeks in first. My spouse went to the school and thought it was a good move but I recall being miffed as I wasn't consulted. I was worried about social aspects. The kid turned out great so it worked out but am wary about pushing too much. |
The starting date has changed so many times over the decades and states decide. There is no magic age or it would have been settled on. I have a brother and sister both with October birthdays. My sister did fine but my brother was held back in first grade because of some tough disabilities. He was a top athlete so he got ridiculed about being a dumb jock. |
Our schools until very recently had the cut off date at December 31. Most girls who were born in November and December went to kindergarten at age 4. Not too many boys did and it was unrelated to sports. Maybe all students should go to kindergarten if they were born in the same year January through December. THey could do a readiness test at the end of the year to determine who’s ready for first grade. |
You certainly didn’t make the right decision and the school had to correct it. Elementary school in the 70s, 80s and some 90s is when parents followed the guidelines. Kids were held back or moved forward as necessary but it wasn’t that often. More often now is parents aren’t doing what’s best for their children’s education, they are doing it to try and get an advantage over the other students. Not a great reason to hold a child back for a whole year. |
There are people on this board who redshirt their kids who were born in April through September, as well. Some of those kids don't start kindergarten until they are 6 years old. |
| You can’t change the past OP. |
No way! Really? |
That’s just plain greedy. |
I can’t imagine redshirting a spring birthday, talk about being too old for kindergarten. My daughter had one friend with dyslexia and other learning disabilities who was held back with a May birthday. |
Where would a 4 year old go to be outside all day? Our city has full time pre-k and kindergarten, both free. They both take time to nap after lunch. They were able to change K ages to cut off in September since they added a pre-k. Kids who are turning 5 years old in October, November, December shouldn’t be in daycare or daycares that claim to be preschools. |
| I agree that it’s much better to be the oldest. We held back our December-born daughter and would do it again. The only time it was a problem was her senior prom, when she couldn’t find a guy who was legally old enough to go with her. |
Greed at its finest. |
Ever heard of playgrounds? They’re free. |
Yes but it’s not an all day thing Monday through Friday. It rains, it snows, too hot, too cold. We went to playgrounds all the time after preschool and kindergarten |