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Anonymous
| What does being overweight have to do with anything? Even fat people need to eat. |
Anonymous
Yes, and people trying to eat healthily or lose weight need to eat regular meals ... skipping meals is a recipe for disaster for me, personally. |
Anonymous
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NP here. I am not overweight and I eat every 2-4 hours (obviously not during the night). There is evidence that grazing is more natural & healthy than gorging and fasting.
But that’s not really the point. It’s rude not to provide your guests with access to as much food as they want. Really, there should be more than enough food offered and available. |
Anonymous
I'm the first water poster, and I'm kind of laughing at the idea of bringing a doggy bag back to my mother's house. Like a PP, my mother is stressed out by someone having a glass of water in her kitchen. She's not going to tolerate outside food in the fridge, or on her countertop. "Kitchen is closed" means closed, it doesn't mean you can eat something you brought and put in her fridge or on her counter, and God forbid you eat elsewhere in the house! I also have to say to the poster who commented on how old the relatives are, my mother is indeed elderly, which complicates things. When I was 20 and she was 60, I could deal with her coming into the kitchen over and over again to check up, but now she walks slowly and painfully, so having her "rush" (like a snail) into the kitchen because she heard an "awful noise" (the water running because I washed my hands before starting to chop the veggies she gave me permission to prep), is hard. I know it's illness, and while it's frustrating, it's also heartbreaking because I know she's experiencing physical pain because of it. I'm lucky in that I live close by. We visit my mother in 3 or 4 hour increments, so we can eat before and after. The one time we spend the full day there is Christmas, and even then it's like 8 hours, and we have strategies. For example, my mom hates trash, and if you're fast you can volunteer to take out her trash (Christmas comes with lots of trash) and run to the little shop in her apartment building lobby for a snack. Then complain about how you "forgot" where the trash was so that's why it took so long. |
Anonymous
Blech! No, not with margarine. |
Anonymous
Do you know the OP personally or are you this controlling about everyone in your life? |
Anonymous
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My mil is like this. My fil doesn't care. But we have a sneaking suspicion that he goes out and sneaks food.
My mil used to get really upset when we would openly get takeout, delivery or go out to eat. She has gotten better. A typical day is sometimes breakfast, sometimes not. And breakfast would be a yogurt and or a piece of fruit. Never any lunch and dinner at 8:30-9pm. Only enough for each persons plate. She makes one of the tiny steamable veggie bags for 6-8 people. You might get 2-3 pieces of broccoli. Mashed potatoes are literally potatoes that have been mashed-nothing in them whatsoever. And a protein. No seconds ever. And that is that. |
Anonymous
| So fascinated by this. How's it going OP and others still visiting parents/ILs. Did you get fed a few meals today? Did you go out and get food instead? |
Anonymous
| I understand people just not wanting to eat food... but why get upset when other people in your house want to eat?? And get it from outside? What kind of weird mental illness is this where you get mad that other people are eating lunch? |
Anonymous
Discretion. What they don't know will not irk them. |
Anonymous
That’s not for you to say. Maybe the person in question had a salad! Basically, everyone just needs to back the fuck off everyone else’s food choices. If you want to eat a large pepperoni pizza at dinner, do it. If you want to eat a leaf and a drop of dew, do it. But keep your damn mouth shut about other people’s eating habits, and don’t prevent them from eating or force food upon them. If you do, you’re an asshole. |
Anonymous
It’s great that you like it, but I would literally vomit if presented with this. Your food is disgusting. |
Anonymous
| Who are these people who think that they designate how much food someone else should or should not be eating? You know what kind of control issues those are? SEVERE. |
Anonymous
+1 No kidding. How whacko! |
Anonymous
I'm the poster whose ex's mother literally would split a single-serving tub of Greek yogurt among four of us for breakfast in tiny crystal dishes with tiny spoons--it was like doll food. She doesn't eat lunch. At dinnertime, she'll count out one button mushroom per person, and a tiny sliver of chicken. Nothing ever to drink but water. |