Men have man caves. We women need Ma'am Caves!

[Anonymous]

Since my husband's man cave smells like body odor and stale beer, I steer clear of it. However, I do want a space of my own now. Anybody have a woman cave (ma'am cave)? http://blog.estately.com/2012/10/a-womans-place-is-in-her-own-maam-cave/

[Anonymous]

Naustiating.

Women don't generally need "caves" because they decorate the rest of the house.

[Anonymous]

I'd like one. I have no space that's all my own in my house.

[Anonymous]

So said Virginia Wolfe (a room of one's own).

[Anonymous]

Is this like, an old people thing? DH and I enjoy all of our house together. And we share hobbies (we both play video games and enjoy sports, gardening, cooking, and working out).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Naustiating.

Women don't generally need "caves" because they decorate the rest of the house.

This is the logic in our home. Husband and kids get the basement and I get the living room back as soon as we do the basement!

[Anonymous]

I agree! I need a place to retreat when the vapors overwhelm me and my humours are out of balance. Sometimes life is so tough! I must needs a chaise to swoon upon. Perhaps a few hankies to delicately cough into and a window to look at something pretty, tis all I need in my ma'am cave.

[Anonymous]

Mine would have a sibian (sp) in it, and a nice bed to take naps in between.

[Anonymous]

I have my bedroom. Husband has the entire basement, with bedroom, living area and office, and bathroom. (Yes, we're one of those couples who sleep in separate rooms.) It might seem a little unfair that I get one room to myself, and a bathroom I have to share with the kid, while he gets an entire floor, but the man has turned in to such an appalling slob over the past few years (I swear, he wasn't like this for the first 10 years) that I'm happy to give him one-third of the house not to have to deal with his eye-popping mess. And whenever his stuff starts to creep up the stairs, I throw it in a box and dump it back in the basement where it belongs. SO much easier than nagging him to pick up after himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Naustiating.

Women don't generally need "caves" because they decorate the rest of the house.

This.

[Anonymous]

I relax in the kitchen. Cooking and getting organized calm me.

[Anonymous]

Those rooms are the farthest thing from any woman cave i would ever want to create. It is like a Pepto Bismal explosion in the first couple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this like, an old people thing? DH and I enjoy all of our house together. And we share hobbies (we both play video games and enjoy sports, gardening, cooking, and working out).

I'm with you. All of our decorating, or lack thereof really, was decided on together as well. I don't think it's as much of an old people thing as a sexist people thing. People who think only women can or should be involved in home decor, and that the man needs his own defined space because the home is the woman's domain by default. Also that the man needs to get away from his family and do man things, but the woman doesn't need that because woman things -- such as cooking, cleaning, and caring for children -- are done throughout the house. So in a way, it's a step forward to say that men and women should both have a cave. In another way, it's just more separation and stereotyping by gender. I'm all for each member of a couple having his or her own room, but I don't see the need for cutesy names and sex stereotypes to be involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I relax in the kitchen. Cooking and getting organized calm me.

This is me too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have my bedroom. Husband has the entire basement, with bedroom, living area and office, and bathroom. (Yes, we're one of those couples who sleep in separate rooms.) It might seem a little unfair that I get one room to myself, and a bathroom I have to share with the kid, while he gets an entire floor, but the man has turned in to such an appalling slob over the past few years (I swear, he wasn't like this for the first 10 years) that I'm happy to give him one-third of the house not to have to deal with his eye-popping mess. And whenever his stuff starts to creep up the stairs, I throw it in a box and dump it back in the basement where it belongs. SO much easier than nagging him to pick up after himself.

Wow -- I thought I was the only one, PP. DH and I also sleep in separate rooms, rotating who takes the master BR and who the extra depending on our morning routine. (We also alternate days of daycare dropoff, so on the days the other person is doing it, we can work out/sleep in/whatever else.) Though this means that the bedroom isn't "mine" exclusively, during weekend nap time, I colonize it to read/rest/make phone calls, while he takes over the basement, typically watching TV. Like you, I share the bathroom with DD and DH gets the smaller, but ensuite, master bath. 0ur marriage is fine, but we both just like our space. Glad to know there are others out there!