Capital Cotillion for Beauvoir Son

[Anonymous]

We accepted the invitation to the Capital Cotillion and sent in our deposit awhile back. The check has been cashed, but still now word from the organizers. Should we expect to receive correspondence from them before the fall, or do we simply show up?

[Anonymous]

DD went last Friday. She was traumatized, as there were much fewer boys, and none asked her to dance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD went last Friday. She was traumatized, as there were much fewer boys, and none asked her to dance.

Next dance is this coming Friday. If you have a DS, it's not too late to sign up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD went last Friday. She was traumatized, as there were much fewer boys, and none asked her to dance.

This is generally avoided at CC. If a girl was not picked in the first dance, the instructor basically makes sure they are picked the second time so it won't always be a handful of girls not picked. I think they handle it rather well.

[Anonymous]

That sounds like bad management. I think other cotillions are very careful to have the same number of boys and girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That sounds like bad management. I think other cotillions are very careful to have the same number of boys and girls.

I think the problem is not having an equal number, which all try for, but that on some nights, a few less boys (or girls) will show up.

[Anonymous]

In my son's cotillion, chaperones (who are parents) fill in for missing boys or girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That sounds like bad management. I think other cotillions are very careful to have the same number of boys and girls.

I think the problem is not having an equal number, which all try for, but that on some nights, a few less boys (or girls) will show up.

Not showing up? Sounds like they need more than the Cotillion to improve their manners . . .

[Anonymous]

this just sounds so depressing. don't kids have enough stresses in their lives without having to go to formal dances and worry about whether they'll get picked to dance or not? how miserable. it's hard to imagine what could justify putting your kid through this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That sounds like bad management. I think other cotillions are very careful to have the same number of boys and girls.

I think the problem is not having an equal number, which all try for, but that on some nights, a few less boys (or girls) will show up.

Not showing up? Sounds like they need more than the Cotillion to improve their manners . . .

My son has missed dances due to other commitments - birthday parties, camping trips, etc. I don't think that makes him ill mannered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That sounds like bad management. I think other cotillions are very careful to have the same number of boys and girls.

I think the problem is not having an equal number, which all try for, but that on some nights, a few less boys (or girls) will show up.

Not showing up? Sounds like they need more than the Cotillion to improve their manners . . .

My son has missed dances due to other commitments - birthday parties, camping trips, etc. I don't think that makes him ill mannered.

Did you call Cap Cotillion to let them know that you will be missing a particular dance?

[Anonymous]

actually it was Mrs Simpson's and yes I did call. But it's not like she is then going to uninvite a girl to that dance to even out the numbers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this just sounds so depressing. don't kids have enough stresses in their lives without having to go to formal dances and worry about whether they'll get picked to dance or not? how miserable. it's hard to imagine what could justify putting your kid through this.

Yes, I guess you're right. I guess this is just about the worst thing you could do to a kid. My stars. Thanks for waking me up, caring sensitive mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:actually it was Mrs Simpson's and yes I did call. But it's not like she is then going to uninvite a girl to that dance to even out the numbers.

No, but the adults in charge can recruit a boy from another class to fill in. In my son's cotillion, it is very important that families report planned absences so arrangements can be made to keep the numbers even.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That sounds like bad management. I think other cotillions are very careful to have the same number of boys and girls.

I think the problem is not having an equal number, which all try for, but that on some nights, a few less boys (or girls) will show up.

Not showing up? Sounds like they need more than the Cotillion to improve their manners . . .

My son has missed dances due to other commitments - birthday parties, camping trips, etc. I don't think that makes him ill mannered.

The Capitol Cotillion schedule, as you know, is determined and announced at the beginning of the season. By accepting the invitation to join the Cotillion, you (and your DC) are making a commitment to the Cotillion organizers, and by extension, the Cotillion participants. Unless these "birthday parties, camping trips, etc." were previously scheduled (unlikely), then barring an emergency or sickness, not showing up at the Cotillion for the once a month event is, well yes, ill mannered, at least for you. DC is excused for this lapse, but it is certainly not a good example to be setting.